Unconditional Love... is it really unconditional?

[Bit]

Originally Posted by Sachita

Thank you Bit. This is what i was trying to get across too but have brain problems today.

I would move mountains, sacrifice, do almost anything for my son, however most of the time i just don't like him.

I think some people I am close to are big assholes, truly need serious help but I still love them.

You're welcome, Sachita.

You know, your post here, combined with other people's posts here about their parents, really resonates with me. My biofamily is full of people who BELIEVE they love unconditionally even as they judge and judge and judge again. Like others have said, they think they love me and yet they don't even KNOW me--because it isn't safe for me to let them know me.

Do I love them all, even when they do things which are heinous to me, like praying against me, invoking God to control me? Yes.

Is my love unconditional? I dunno. If they behaved badly enough, they certainly could kill it off. But for now, while I love them, it doesn't depend on what they do.

Maybe that's the major blessing of the Geographical Cure. *wry smile*