Respecting Women's Space as a transgender male

odd_boi_out · 12-29-2012, 07:22 PM

-Do you still feel like you should be welcomed into women's only space after you own your male ID?
No. I feel that it would be disrespectful and appropriative. And even though I don't identify entirely as male, I still live primarily as a man and do not feel like I belong in or should enter into spaces that have been defined as women-only. (For the same reason, I am highly critical of women-only spaces that exclude transgender women.)

-How do you try to show respect for the women that need and want thier own space?
I don't enter into these spaces.

-Did you feel a loss of something after a certain point in your transition?
Yes. I fear that my own experience is not a common one, but yeah, I have felt great loss in some ways. While I don't at all regret my decision to transition, and I feel much more comfortable and at-home in my body, I feel a tremendous loss of community, specifically lesbian or queer women's community. I also miss being visibly queer. Strangers and acquaintances no longer recognize me as "family." It's definitely been an adjustment.

12-29-2012, 07:22 PM	#17
odd_boi_out Junior Member How Do You Identify?: transmasculine, butch Preferred Pronoun?: they Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Bay Area CA Posts: 25 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 74 Times in 17 Posts Rep Power: 1055194	-Do you still feel like you should be welcomed into women's only space after you own your male ID? No. I feel that it would be disrespectful and appropriative. And even though I don't identify entirely as male, I still live primarily as a man and do not feel like I belong in or should enter into spaces that have been defined as women-only. (For the same reason, I am highly critical of women-only spaces that exclude transgender women.) -How do you try to show respect for the women that need and want thier own space? I don't enter into these spaces. -Did you feel a loss of something after a certain point in your transition? Yes. I fear that my own experience is not a common one, but yeah, I have felt great loss in some ways. While I don't at all regret my decision to transition, and I feel much more comfortable and at-home in my body, I feel a tremendous loss of community, specifically lesbian or queer women's community. I also miss being visibly queer. Strangers and acquaintances no longer recognize me as "family." It's definitely been an adjustment.