Single FTM's & Femme's

[MickMan]

Originally Posted by curlyredhead

Mick this is complicated. I think you need to first figure out with what you are comfortable with before you make a decision to come out. I think the biggest question is are you interested in this lady? Because if you are then you aren't leading her on. Once you have determined what your thoughts are on that you need to find out if she has the same feelings towards you as well. If she has the same feelings about you and you do towards her, that's when you need to talk to her personally, and dude trust me if she really really likes you the trans part isn't going to matter one bit. I think that you need to educate her a little too when you do come out, because you do want to be able to eat at this restaurant again and not feel ostracized. Just my 2 cents.

Hey Curly and thanks,

Yeah, I really do like this woman. She will text me, in broken English, and I find it so touching that she will make the effort to communicate with me in this manner. I find myself thinking about her and smiling.

It is very touchy and I am usually so careful about how I interact with people, women in particular, for this reason. But, this happened so quickly and out of the blue. It was something before I realized it. Now, I should also say that we have not gone out, or had any physical contact other than a hug here and there inside the restaurant where her brother was present.

I know she is very interested in me as her nephew told me that she has never introduced a man to her brother before. Again, she is from Thailand and has only been here for a short time. Even though she is older, like me, I am getting that the brother still is in charge of her well being.

I have done research about Kathoey in Thailand, and they are well received, for the most part. But there is nothing about the Kathoey counterpart, FTMs. I am really nervous about talking to her also because her English and my Thai are not that fluent. I am not sure I can convey everything I need to or want to. We often have the nephew translate for us or the sister in-law. But this is not something I would feel comfortable having a third person translate.

And yes, I agree. I do not want to be ostracized at this place. My mother, for whom I care and I both love this place. I would hate to not only lose this woman, the friendship and the restaurant all in one conversation.

[curlyredhead]

Originally Posted by MickMan

Hey Curly and thanks,

Yeah, I really do like this woman. She will text me, in broken English, and I find it so touching that she will make the effort to communicate with me in this manner. I find myself thinking about her and smiling.

It is very touchy and I am usually so careful about how I interact with people, women in particular, for this reason. But, this happened so quickly and out of the blue. It was something before I realized it. Now, I should also say that we have not gone out, or had any physical contact other than a hug here and there inside the restaurant where her brother was present.

I know she is very interested in me as her nephew told me that she has never introduced a man to her brother before. Again, she is from Thailand and has only been here for a short time. Even though she is older, like me, I am getting that the brother still is in charge of her well being.

I have done research about Kathoey in Thailand, and they are well received, for the most part. But there is nothing about the Kathoey counterpart, FTMs. I am really nervous about talking to her also because her English and my Thai are not that fluent. I am not sure I can convey everything I need to or want to. We often have the nephew translate for us or the sister in-law. But this is not something I would feel comfortable having a third person translate.

And yes, I agree. I do not want to be ostracized at this place. My mother, for whom I care and I both love this place. I would hate to not only lose this woman, the friendship and the restaurant all in one conversation.

Just a suggestion I wonder if you could find some translation online for the words you are looking for, or even something else is if you are on a group that deals with Trans, perhaps you could find someone that speaks Thai and could tell you how to translate it. Its obvious you both have a connection. Just breathe man take it 1 day at a time.

[MickMan]

Originally Posted by curlyredhead

Just a suggestion I wonder if you could find some translation online for the words you are looking for, or even something else is if you are on a group that deals with Trans, perhaps you could find someone that speaks Thai and could tell you how to translate it. Its obvious you both have a connection. Just breathe man take it 1 day at a time.

Yeah, that's the hard part, breathing LOL Sad thing, I am not really on any trans sites. I think I just need to maybe back off a bit and slow this down. Give me time to think.

[Trev]

Mick...Curly has given some great words of advice, I will ditto that.

Unique...Enjoy your mini vacation

It's getting closer to the weekend.....YESSS!! Now if it would just warm up.

[EmpressM]

Hello, Singles! How is everyone on this pre-Friday? Personally, I'm really looking forward to the weekend! I'm going to get my homework finished and then a couple o friends of mine and I are taking a belly dancing class on Saturday. What's everyone else up to?

Mick - sounds like you have some big decisions to make. I don't envy you in the least. Good luck to you. Matters of the heart are never uncomplicated.

[Bèsame*]

The belly dancing class sounds like fun! I've always wanted to do that, clamp those little bells in your hands and wear the sexy chains...you go girl... enjoy that class!

Originally Posted by EmpressM

Hello, Singles! How is everyone on this pre-Friday? Personally, I'm really looking forward to the weekend! I'm going to get my homework finished and then a couple o friends of mine and I are taking a belly dancing class on Saturday. What's everyone else up to?

Mick - sounds like you have some big decisions to make. I don't envy you in the least. Good luck to you. Matters of the heart are never uncomplicated.

[Bèsame*]

yea!

Clean bill of health from blood draw. Changing some meds and my doctor convinced me to do the 90 day plan, with that company that has a very busy welcome Season. I have this feeling they will treat me right, I have insider info.

It's almost Friday . Day two of mini staycation. Football playoff weekend!!!

[EmpressM]

I am sooooo excited! I've wanted to try belly dancing since 2001 when I was in India. When the opportunity arose, I jumped on it!

Originally Posted by Uniqueswtfemm

The belly dancing class sounds like fun! I've always wanted to do that, clamp those little bells in your hands and wear the sexy chains...you go girl... enjoy that class!