Rings

[LeftWriteFemme]

Rings are important to me. I grew up in a religious cult that did not allow women jewelry or makeup. After I left the cult I realized what a sense of safety wearing ornament gives. Coming from the background that I do the most important part of my ring is that it sends the message 'someone is expecting this girl home and if she doesn't come home someone will come looking for her' I maybe the only person who receives this message from this ring, but it's still an important message.

[DapperButch]

What I have seen is that it is gay men who tend to do the matching right hand ring thing. I usually only see it on older men (60 +)and this leads me to believe that this was more common a couple of decades ago. Typically, I have seen it on men who have been together for a couple of decades, as well.

I have seen the simple, traditional band on lesbians, but on the left hand, in the 55+ group. I see the matching rings more often on gay men than women, though.

My lesbian neighbors (who unfortunately broke up after 19 years), wore traditional bands. Or, at least the one who left did. They are in their late 40's.

For me, choosing a "conflict free" diamond is important, and I would not consider anything else.

I think it is ridiculous that people care more about the size of the diamond, than the quality. Quality is important to me. A smaller diamond, with better quality makes more sense to me.

I would suggest people look into lose stones, rather than a already packaged stone and ring. Often you can get a better quality diamond for the same price if you buy a lose stone (there are companies out there who only sell lose stones), and then add it to the ring of your choice, later.

[clay]

Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

Coming from the background that I do the most important part of my ring is that it sends the message 'someone is expecting this girl home and if she doesn't come home someone will come looking for her' I maybe the only person who receives this message from this ring, but it's still an important message.

snip....LWF...I LOVE this part of your thoughts.
I am of an almost similar train of thought.
To me, it shows that I am loved, wanted, and that I belong to someone.That somewhere, someone cares..and that My someone is also loved, wanted, and cared for..and that they belong...
When I was an ER Charge Nurse, and accident victims would come in...whether critically wounded or DOA...I always immediately looked at their hand to see if they had a ring on...for the reasons we both stated....
I know there are always exceptions to the rule, but we are talking about committment rings, etc here...

Great thread BTW!

[justanolecowboy]

[quote Coming from the background that I do the most important part of my ring is that it sends the message 'someone is expecting this girl home and if she doesn't come home someone will come looking for her' I maybe the only person who receives this message from this ring, but it's still an important message.[/quote]


_____IT absolutely says that...the wearing of the ring - signifies so much...(to some it does not - i realize) - but to the majority it does - and it means different things to different people - with the overlying theme (to me) - yes, commitment...and there can be and I will say is no greater feeling that being "committed" to the one you love...as for me commitment (is) part of love...