The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[ruthie14]

Hello Lofters, Dunno how I feel today. Was feeling great after seeing Suzanne Westenhoffer last night with friends. But today, I guess all the stress *shrugs* I was in church and they baptized a baby today. I could never have any and now too poor and or old to adopt. So I started to cry. Got myself together, but put a real damper on my day.

[morningstar55]

Originally Posted by ruthie14

Hello Lofters, Dunno how I feel today. Was feeling great after seeing Suzanne Westenhoffer last night with friends. But today, I guess all the stress *shrugs* I was in church and they baptized a baby today. I could never have any and now too poor and or old to adopt. So I started to cry. Got myself together, but put a real damper on my day.

aww sorry to read you had a sad day......... hmmm what about fostering?? i dont know....... just a thought

[ruthie14]

Originally Posted by morningstar55

aww sorry to read you had a sad day......... hmmm what about fostering?? i dont know....... just a thought

Thought about it, but they get taken away from you. Then you never see them again. Raised stepchildren for good part of thier growing up. Then the mother that never wanted them decides she does. They were teenagers by then and she left them alone alot. So she screwed them up. Between that and my exhusband, they don't talk to me anymore. Painful story, no one wanted them but me. Not even thier father. Fostering would be too much like that. I know there are not guarentees that your children will still want to be around you when they are grown, but it is far more likely if they are your children from birth or shortly after. Adopted or born of you. Fostering is almost a guarentee that they will leave you. Thanks anyway... It's a bad day... it will pass. It always does. You're a peach to give it some thought for me. I truely appriciate that.

[morningstar55]

Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thought about it, but they get taken away from you. Then you never see them again. Raised stepchildren for good part of thier growing up. Then the mother that never wanted them decides she does. They were teenagers by then and she left them alone alot. So she screwed them up. Between that and my exhusband, they don't talk to me anymore. Painful story, no one wanted them but me. Not even thier father. Fostering would be too much like that. I know there are not guarentees that your children will still want to be around you when they are grown, but it is far more likely if they are your children from birth or shortly after. Adopted or born of you. Fostering is almost a guarentee that they will leave you. Thanks anyway... It's a bad day... it will pass. It always does. You're a peach to give it some thought for me. I truely appriciate that.

awwww......... sorry to hear about all that.. hey
just made some hot Green/white pear tea , and putting out some .. pepperridge farm..sausalito cookies they are chocolate chip with macadamia nuts am willing to share.. i promise i didnt cough on them.. LOL..

[Soft*Silver]

I have a friend who could never have children and every mother's day is so hard on her. She envies me for my child...even when she was at her worst behavior, she was still a blessing. I am sorry you could not have children.... there are no words to even suggest somehow it could be made better. My prayers will be for you to find comfort somehow ....