The Little Things You Tell Yourself To Get You Through (A/The) Rough Spot - Page 2

Greyson · 02-11-2013, 03:11 PM

There has got to be a lesson in all of this. Now, I need to be here and present to learn what that lesson is. (Easier said then done, much of the time.)

Sweet Bliss · 02-20-2013, 02:47 PM

Usually just, "You've survived worse, you still have a sense of humor, everything will be okay, maybe you just need a nap."

Sounds silly, but a nap changes everything. Gives the body a chance to recuperate, stops the stress reaction.

Gráinne · 02-20-2013, 02:49 PM

Something I learned in Weight Watchers, that I'm using for everything-write down exactly what I want, in measureable terms. Then I get my mind behind it, that I can do it.

MarquisdeShey · 02-20-2013, 02:49 PM

"Tell me I can't and watch as I do."

StrongButch · 02-20-2013, 02:52 PM

I pull out a map and say fella where would you like to take pictures. Then I book a flight and book a room at a gay resort. Then I begin to sing I will survive! (lol)

maryam · 02-21-2013, 10:18 AM

I have two silly ones, but they work. I tell myself: "You're not a speshul snowflake. Snowflakes melt when the heat's on, and you're still here!"

And if that doesn't work, "You can't take your kitties if you go to jail, and there's no bubble baths there either."

Sometimes they help.

Rockinonahigh · 02-21-2013, 11:47 AM

many times I have just sat back,took a deep breath,then a long drink of a very cold coke...then said to myself.This will pass...think clearly...cary on coutiously.Most of the time it works,but when it dosent and I have tryed it all,I get my war shield on and prepare to do it the easyest hard way possable for me to come out in the best way possable.

WingsOnFire · 02-21-2013, 11:55 AM

Well there are things I tell myself and things I do...when my depression is bugging me I tell myself to get up from my desk and go sit in the sun. And then I do it.

When stress is overwhelming me I tell myself to breathe... Well actually Sir tells me to "breathe.... Breathe...." It so helps to just focus on His voice and breathe.

TheMerryFairy · 02-21-2013, 12:02 PM

I take a deep breath and remind myself that I am free. I might not have complete control over what happens but I can choose to be happy.

PearlsNLace · 02-22-2013, 03:19 PM

I am easily overwhelmed by the big, the complex and my imagination will turn hard things in to potentially horrible things when contemplating the potential effects what ever *this* current bad thing is.

So I break it down.

I first remind myself, rather quickly, of what is positive now- roof over head that is mostly functional? Check.
Me, my butch, and furbabies currently have food that will sustain us? Check.
for this moment, car is functioning? check

Ok. now one foot in front of the other- what do I need to do IN THIS MOMENT about the current situation?

and then I take it in moments by moments until I forget I am needing to put one foot in front of the other and I am just DOING it.

And then, somehow,

it gets better.

NickE TimeLord · 02-22-2013, 04:18 PM

..ahem.. i either talk to the Great Mother .. or i talk to my 4 Guardian Angels..who are Ellen Ripley(Alien)Emma Peel ( The Avengers) and Miss Brenda and Miss Yasmin ( Bagdad Cafe )..starting with Mrs.Peel when i was a child, i've always felt i had these women looking after me and looking out for me.. strange but true..even in the worst of times i still feel them around me,caring about me,more than occasionally getting pissed at me for not getting out of my own way.. i think everybody gets to find their own Angels, wherever or whoever they may be.. although i think of them more as Warriors than Angels..oooh yeah well i kind of think of Xena,Gabrielle and River Song as Guardian Warriors too..except i'm not sure it's kosher to lust after your Guardians..let's just call them my Alternate Universe Wives...much better... ask my about my theory that everything fictional created by the human mind actually exists in some other universe..especially unsettling when you think of Pinhead and Hannibal Lector..

KCBUTCH · 02-22-2013, 08:48 PM

I tell myself
It will be ok it is always ok, you will and can get through this,
The universe carries you and it did not save you from the ocean to let you drown in the bath tub...
things have been much worse and only amazing things can come out of this,
but the only way out is through

Go be of service... it will help, call someone -anyone and ask how they are.

girl_dee · 06-05-2013, 06:36 PM

i avoid thinking about things that upset me..

they creep up on me but i am good at putting things out of my head and diverting

puddin' · 06-08-2013, 06:16 PM

"i think i can, i think i can..." (and, yes, i sometimes make dat choo-choo sound too!)

FemmeItalian · 06-08-2013, 06:36 PM

deb_U_taunt · 07-15-2013, 11:42 AM

suck it up, buttercup

Glenn · 07-15-2013, 12:22 PM

I will locate and hire a great pet sitter, and play and win the powerball tomorrow.

kittygrrl · 02-13-2018, 09:25 AM

It's not forever, you can get thru this..

Katniss · 02-13-2018, 02:13 PM

When faced with a challenging situation or something I just plain old don't want to do, I tell myself "You don't have to do this, you get to do this." Saying that helps bring me back to the most grounding and strong of all emotions, gratitude. So whether jury duty, housework, exercise or career strife I remind myself how fortunate I am to have a home that needs cleaning, a judicial system with representation, a healthy and able body that deserves care or a job to go to each day.

Katniss~~.

Lovely · 02-13-2018, 02:42 PM

It gets better, You just gotta get over this hurdle.

02-11-2013, 03:11 PM	#21
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,146 Times in 2,005 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	There has got to be a lesson in all of this. Now, I need to be here and present to learn what that lesson is. (Easier said then done, much of the time.) __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

02-20-2013, 02:49 PM	#23
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,118 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Something I learned in Weight Watchers, that I'm using for everything-write down exactly what I want, in measureable terms. Then I get my mind behind it, that I can do it. __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

02-20-2013, 02:49 PM	#24
MarquisdeShey Member How Do You Identify?: bent Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her/They Relationship Status: Minding my own business. Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: I live here now Posts: 1,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 845 Thanked 4,727 Times in 921 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	"Tell me I can't and watch as I do." __________________ My manner of thinking, so you say, cannot be approved. Do you suppose I care? A poor fool is s/he who adopts a manner of thinking for others! ~Marquis de Sade

02-20-2013, 02:52 PM	#25
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Things I pull out a map and say fella where would you like to take pictures. Then I book a flight and book a room at a gay resort. Then I begin to sing I will survive! (lol) __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

02-21-2013, 11:55 AM	#28
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Well there are things I tell myself and things I do...when my depression is bugging me I tell myself to get up from my desk and go sit in the sun. And then I do it. When stress is overwhelming me I tell myself to breathe... Well actually Sir tells me to "breathe.... Breathe...." It so helps to just focus on His voice and breathe. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

02-20-2013, 02:47 PM	#22
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Usually just, "You've survived worse, you still have a sense of humor, everything will be okay, maybe you just need a nap." Sounds silly, but a nap changes everything. Gives the body a chance to recuperate, stops the stress reaction.

02-21-2013, 10:18 AM	#26
maryam Member How Do You Identify?: femme-ish Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: somewhere, out there.... Posts: 263 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 675 Thanked 794 Times in 231 Posts Rep Power: 4979164	I have two silly ones, but they work. I tell myself: "You're not a speshul snowflake. Snowflakes melt when the heat's on, and you're still here!" And if that doesn't work, "You can't take your kitties if you go to jail, and there's no bubble baths there either." Sometimes they help.

02-21-2013, 11:47 AM	#27
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	many times I have just sat back,took a deep breath,then a long drink of a very cold coke...then said to myself.This will pass...think clearly...cary on coutiously.Most of the time it works,but when it dosent and I have tryed it all,I get my war shield on and prepare to do it the easyest hard way possable for me to come out in the best way possable.

02-21-2013, 12:02 PM	#29
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I take a deep breath and remind myself that I am free. I might not have complete control over what happens but I can choose to be happy.

02-22-2013, 03:19 PM	#30
PearlsNLace Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: They/Them & her/she Relationship Status: Lucky, very lucky Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portlandia, Oregon Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 875 Thanked 1,284 Times in 315 Posts Rep Power: 6505517	I am easily overwhelmed by the big, the complex and my imagination will turn hard things in to potentially horrible things when contemplating the potential effects what ever this current bad thing is. So I break it down. I first remind myself, rather quickly, of what is positive now- roof over head that is mostly functional? Check. Me, my butch, and furbabies currently have food that will sustain us? Check. for this moment, car is functioning? check Ok. now one foot in front of the other- what do I need to do IN THIS MOMENT about the current situation? and then I take it in moments by moments until I forget I am needing to put one foot in front of the other and I am just DOING it. And then, somehow, it gets better. __________________ YOU are Unique and Unrepeatable AND your not alone. thetrevorproject.org

02-22-2013, 04:18 PM	#31
NickE TimeLord Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: recently single and very skeptical Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Oregon Posts: 117 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 174 Times in 77 Posts Rep Power: 2658423	odd but true ..ahem.. i either talk to the Great Mother .. or i talk to my 4 Guardian Angels..who are Ellen Ripley(Alien)Emma Peel ( The Avengers) and Miss Brenda and Miss Yasmin ( Bagdad Cafe )..starting with Mrs.Peel when i was a child, i've always felt i had these women looking after me and looking out for me.. strange but true..even in the worst of times i still feel them around me,caring about me,more than occasionally getting pissed at me for not getting out of my own way.. i think everybody gets to find their own Angels, wherever or whoever they may be.. although i think of them more as Warriors than Angels..oooh yeah well i kind of think of Xena,Gabrielle and River Song as Guardian Warriors too..except i'm not sure it's kosher to lust after your Guardians..let's just call them my Alternate Universe Wives...much better... ask my about my theory that everything fictional created by the human mind actually exists in some other universe..especially unsettling when you think of Pinhead and Hannibal Lector..

02-22-2013, 08:48 PM	#32
KCBUTCH Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Undaunted QUEER Dom, Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: MYSELF, Syr, Hy, or friend prefered Relationship Status: Cautious, indifferent... Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Below the foothills above the beach Posts: 1,848 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,240 Thanked 3,305 Times in 884 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I tell myself It will be ok it is always ok, you will and can get through this, The universe carries you and it did not save you from the ocean to let you drown in the bath tub... things have been much worse and only amazing things can come out of this, but the only way out is through Go be of service... it will help, call someone -anyone and ask how they are. __________________ "If you want to know the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration"-Nikola Tesla

06-05-2013, 06:36 PM	#33
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06-08-2013, 06:16 PM	#34
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06-08-2013, 06:36 PM	#35
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07-15-2013, 11:42 AM	#36
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07-15-2013, 12:22 PM	#37
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02-13-2018, 09:25 AM	#38
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Uranus will retrograde in Gemini Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,675 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,710 Thanked 22,140 Times in 7,211 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	It's not forever, you can get thru this.. __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

02-13-2018, 02:13 PM	#39
Katniss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dame, doll, twist, dish Preferred Pronoun?: Ladylike ones Relationship Status: ***** Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: We drink sweet tea here Posts: 2,903 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,654 Thanked 10,372 Times in 2,089 Posts Rep Power**: 21474852	When faced with a challenging situation or something I just plain old don't want to do, I tell myself "You don't have to do this, you get to do this." Saying that helps bring me back to the most grounding and strong of all emotions, gratitude. So whether jury duty, housework, exercise or career strife I remind myself how fortunate I am to have a home that needs cleaning, a judicial system with representation, a healthy and able body that deserves care or a job to go to each day. Katniss~~.

02-13-2018, 02:42 PM	#40
Lovely Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Jan 2018 Location: Canada Posts: 27 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 75 Thanked 73 Times in 21 Posts Rep Power: 429506	It gets better, You just gotta get over this hurdle.