Rethinking our partner wishlists. Is it "settling" or adjusting to reality?

Bells · 02-24-2013, 09:04 PM

LOL I was just telling a friend of mine. I was going to be a lonely old lady living with a bunch of dogs ....

I just want somone who accepts me the way i am flaws and all. who will not try to change me. and who can be themself/theirself and not try and change to what they think i want them to be.

who is not afraid of a little hard work, and willing to work with me.
when they say they are going to do something... DO IT !!!!

I could keep going but I think thats a good start.....

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Originally Posted by Contessa

I really don't find it hard at all to be alone now that I'm older and wiser. When I was younger, it seemed I always needed to be in a relationship. I just am not willing to settle either. I guess I settled one too many times as a youngster..lol
I don't have a written list. But I have a mental check list of what I want and what I don't want..

There was a time where I too blew off my check list in favor of chemistry and that was always a MISTAKE!! lol

In short, no more settling for me. If I die alone with my dogs..I'll die happy with my doggies; smiling. Another person in my life would enhance, not complete me..

TheMerryFairy · 02-24-2013, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by BrattyBells

LOL I was just telling a friend of mine. I was going to be a lonely old lady living with a bunch of dogs ....

I just want somone who accepts me the way i am flaws and all. who will not try to change me. and who can be themself/theirself and not try and change to what they think i want them to be.

who is not afraid of a little hard work, and willing to work with me.
when they say they are going to do something... DO IT !!!!

I could keep going but I think thats a good start.....

I am right there with you on that one! I don't have unreasonable expectations. Just let me be who I am and love me & I will give you the same. Manners and other desirable qualities are important too but you're right, it's a good start.

Sweet Bliss · 02-28-2013, 09:58 AM

I figure when I become the person I am in love with, I will be half way there.

kittygrrl · 03-02-2013, 08:09 PM

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Insatiable (for me)
Ethical

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