What are your faults?

[starryeyes]

<---- messy!! I can't help it! Clothes belong on the floor... Lol

[TheMerryFairy]

When I am in procrastination mode I can become easily addicted to activities. For instance the forums or watching youtube cat videos. I am hoping this fault regulates as I work towards other goals.

[meridiantoo]

6) I fight sleep like a child, afraid I will miss something

[Jean_TX]

What are my faults? Well, I have some characteristic behaviors that I feel need improvement, and I have some characteristic behaviors that annoy others. The two sets of "faults" don't necessarily coincide. The "faults" that I've listed below apply only to personal relationships.

From my perspective, my "faults" (characteristics that I feel do not always contribute positively to my personal life) are
- I am too trusting, almost to the point of being naive. I take people at their word. I assume that people's intentions are good.
- I am too tolerant of other people's hurtful behavior and do not immediately call out them on their thoughtlessness.
- I am not assertive enough.

From the perspective of others, my "faults" are
- I avoid confrontation. (I agree that I do this, but I disagree that this is necessarily a fault.)
- I am too analytical and objective. (I slightly disagree.)
- I am not aggressive enough. (I slightly agree.)
- When I am angry, I react by withdrawing rather than expressing my anger and forcing immediate resolution. (I agree. I tend to stifle my anger and withdraw. When the cumulative anger reaches a certain level, I explode - which usually appears to be an over-reaction to the latest thing that angered me.)

[PinkieLee]

Faults, yep we've all got them. Well, let's see what I've got going on...

Being the people pleaser that I am, I have a very hard time telling people NO.

I am the world's best cheerleader for others, but I am my own worst critic.

If someone upsets me, I very rarely ever tell them. It leads to hurt & resentment... and if I would just learn to speak up for myself a lot of these feelings could be avoided.

[TheMerryFairy]

I talk too much.

[MsTinkerbelly]

I have a lead foot...vroooommmmmmmm

[Blade]

Impatience
I'm OCD about some things
Perfectionist

[deb0670]

even if You hurt me, i mean really hurt me, i will not retaliate. i will still treat You with respect and take care of You to the best of my ability
i see good in someone or something and no matter what, i try my best to bring that out of them.. even if it is just .01 percent and the other 99.9 percent is downright evil
i think very little about myself
i am too much of an open book.
i am too trusting.

[Kent]

I'm very impatient.....

[grenade]

Where to begin...

I'm Moody. Vain. Pouty. Perpetually bored. Hard time focusing. Immature. Slightly meanish. Rarely satisfied. Shopaholic. Messy. Obsessive compulsion. Anxious. Cry baby. So much more.

[VintageFemme]

How much time do you have?

Moody, insecure, untrusting, anti-social, immature, obsessive compulsive, spendthrift, spontaneous, crybaby... should I go on?

[Kätzchen]

I have a few faults which have evolved over time. Some of my faults actually help me and other faults leave me in a state of emotional distress or impair my ability to act in immediate ways.

One “Fault” that can be helpful: I seem to have an ability to identify difficult-to-name behaviors. I have been told by others that I seem to have a ‘gift’ for identifying things of this nature, but what others may not realize is that it is not a gift: My ability to do this finds its roots in having suffered on-going issues of abuse in my own family (growing up) and also in a small handful of romantic relationships. I would say that the downside to this ‘gift’ or ‘fault’ is that it slows my ability to develop close relationships. In some cases of particular clusters of difficult-to-identify behaviors, I create an extremely wide berth of distance between myself and these particular individuals; because while their sets of behaviors can be very scary, I take great care to make sure that my personal sense of safety and well-being is least likely to be violated. But really, I see it as an upside to building safe and healthy relationships.

Faults of mine that are not so helpful: I can be rather quiet. I enjoy quietness within my own life at home, but I tend to temper the quiet side of life with random occasions of spur of the moment, over the top, loud and proud. But as I age, I seem to have to give more serious planning to the unquiet side of life. I tend to want it in small doses, repeatedly at times and I’ve been told that it’s annoying when I want to be quiet, rather than the opposite of quiet. I can be rather moody. Moody as in, I come across as rather a spoiled brat at times and if grapes are not peeled the right way with me, more than likely my spoiled side might get a bit out of control. My son’s have seen me this way before and usually call out my spoiled side; but also, depending on my mood, I have been known to make a mountain out of a mole hill and make it incredibly difficult to scale the precipice of my desires. If I experience fear, I will shut down immediately. And once this happens, it takes tremendous effort on my part to dislodge myself from what ever has caused me to become fearful. Sometimes I am able to help myself over come fear in a relatively fast way. Other times, it can be weeks to months – one time it was ten years; but time and distance helped in that particular case of fear.

[s0litude]

Hmmmm,... what are my faults? How much space do we have on the servers? This could take a while.

• I "care" too much. I try to save everyone I love / care for even to the point of not considering my own well-being
• I am much too analytical. I analyze everything and try to read between the lines. What's really bad; however, is that I automatically jump to the worst possible scenario and sometimes cannot "shake it off", don't realize that it's not the most likely answer.
• I am too quick to forgive; I allow people to hurt me and take advantage of me because I don't value myself enough. It's hard to offend me, but I am fiercely protective of those I care about and am quite familiar with the concept of "putting my foot in my mouth". (Wow, this is starting to sound like therapy....)
• While people don't really scare me unless I let them get too close, I allow situations to intimidate me or procrastinate in the things I really want to see or experience. I should be bolder.
• I sometimes "shut down" when I really should be more open about what I am feeling and thinking. I have to really trust someone to "let them in".

This could take days....

[BowtiePrincess]

I am so hard headed I will not admit that I cant accomplish something no matter what it is. I am well aware that at my height and weight I have less of a physical ability than most ppl , however I feel like I have the determination and brain power to make up for it. This being said, I needed to move a tractor wheel and tire yesterday. Those things are massive. I moved it however, I ache all over and Im pretty sure I broke my finger. So for today I will say that my big bull head is a fault because my body doesnt like me right now.

[Spirit Dancer]

Impatience
Hate being late for anything
When angry or upset i need space
Faults and flaws i own them, they make me who i am.
Perfectly flawed with faults.

[dixie]

Well....this could take a while so I might need to break it down into installments lol

- slightly egotistical/vain
- sometimes selfish
- feelings hurt easily
- pouty
- bossy
- harsh
- absent-minded
- sometimes lazy
- jealous
- picky
- obsessive
- dramatic
- overly excitable
- impatient
- anti-social
- moody/cranky
- distant
- disillusioned
- potty mouthed
- nosey
- extremely distrustful
- impulsive
- awkward
- sometimes talk too much, sometimes not enough...either way I usually say the exact wrong things

[KCBUTCH]

Impulsive
THINKS THINKS THINKS
can be too compromising
rationalizes others faults away

[Apocalipstic]

The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List covers many of my less than favorable traits nicely.

14 Characteristics of an Adult Child

These are characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household.

1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.

2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.

3. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.

4. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.

5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.

6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.

7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.

8. We become addicted to excitement.

9. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue”.

10. We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (denial).

11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.

12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.

13. Alcoholism is a family disease and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.

14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.– Tony A., 1978

[Ginger]

I have a lot of self-defeating behaviors.

One of these is that I tend to see the world in extreme black-and-white, which makes me very hard on myself and others, and perpetuates a bleak world view that makes it hard for me to feel hopeful.

Example: I quickly go to "never," as in, "It will never get better," and this makes it difficult to assess situations that really are hopeless—I don't trust my judgment and talk myself into giving it more time.

On the flip side of the same behavior, an extreme black-and-white perspective compromises my judgment when things are going great, and prevents me from being cautious when warranted.

It can also make me demonize or glorify people unwisely, though ironically, while I demonize myself, I rarely glorify myself.

I'm working on this one. Just being conscious of it, loosens its grip on me.