New sex partner=new toys? Your opinion

The_Lady_Snow · 03-06-2013, 01:22 PM

I don't understand how being a feminist = hating men..

Originally Posted by Bard
I know when I broke up with my ex( Gooses mother) she um went into the spare bedroom where I was staying and found my harness and a new cock that I had purchased before we even broke up she cut them both up and left it on my bed.
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Originally Posted by meridian

I'm sure there are valid reasons for doing this, but not many. Yowsie.

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meridian, there is no validity for taking someone's personal property and ruining it NONE.. That kind of shit is gross and there are some deep issues going on there.

I am pretty sure we can safely say that by her cutting up the equipment did NOT stop Bard from seeking another relationship/s...

Destroying property isn't cool, justifiable or ok no matter what, if you're (general) cray cray is showing that bad and you (general) are starting to get that creeping thought of destroying stuff that belongs to a lover, ex, or ANYONE perhaps a trip to the therapist is due...

WOW!! I can't believe I read what I read just now!!!

meridiantoo · 03-06-2013, 01:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I don't understand how being a feminist = hating men..

Originally Posted by Bard
I know when I broke up with my ex( Gooses mother) she um went into the spare bedroom where I was staying and found my harness and a new cock that I had purchased before we even broke up she cut them both up and left it on my bed.
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Originally Posted by meridian

I'm sure there are valid reasons for doing this, but not many. Yowsie.

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meridian, there is no validity for taking someone's personal property and ruining it NONE.. That kind of shit is gross and there are some deep issues going on there.

I am pretty sure we can safely say that by her cutting up the equipment did NOT stop Bard from seeking another relationship/s...

Destroying property isn't cool, justifiable or ok no matter what, if you're (general) cray cray is showing that bad and you (general) are starting to get that creeping thought of destroying stuff that belongs to a lover, ex, or ANYONE perhaps a trip to the therapist is due...

WOW!! I can't believe I read what I read just now!!!

You rape a woman, you earn that. That's my point of view. There are reasons I can see women do it. I personally would not. But, I also would not judge someone who was raped and did that in angst.

Just my 2 cents....

I don't go around chopping cock up for personal pleasure.

The_Lady_Snow · 03-06-2013, 01:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by meridiantoo

You rape a woman, you earn that. That's my point of view. There are reasons I can see women do it. I personally would not. But, I also would not judge someone who was raped and did that in angst.

Just my 2 cents....

I don't go around chopping cock up for personal pleasure.

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I'm confused when did rape come into the convo?

Bard · 03-06-2013, 01:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by meridiantoo

You rape a woman, you earn that. That's my point of view. There are reasons I can see women do it. I personally would not. But, I also would not judge someone who was raped and did that in angst.

Just my 2 cents....

I don't go around chopping cock up for personal pleasure.

uh she did it for spite so that i would not be able to fuck another woman her words not mine i am gonna bow out of this topic now

meridiantoo · 03-06-2013, 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bard

uh she did it for spite so that i would not be able to fuck another woman her words not mine i am gonna bow out of this topic now

Right..not saying you raped her. Saying that would be one of the few viable reasons I can see someone doing that, that's all.

My head hurts!

CherylNYC · 03-06-2013, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Bard

uh she did it for spite so that i would not be able to fuck another woman her words not mine i am gonna bow out of this topic now

Thank you for being so patient with a very inflammatory post, Bard.

Meridian, I'm shocked that you would jump all the way to rape in the middle of this conversation. That was really inappropriate.

03-06-2013, 03:33 PM

Rape is a reason to prosecute someone for a violent crime, not carte blanche to respond in kind.

meridiantoo · 03-06-2013, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by CherylNYC

Thank you for being so patient with a very inflammatory post, Bard.

Meridian, I'm shocked that you would jump all the way to rape in the middle of this conversation. That was really inappropriate.

I'm not sure what you mean by inflammatory. I was thinking of 2 separate posts when I made that response to Bard. I in no way meant to insinuate that Bard had raped anyone, nor that it was even a thought Bard had misconducted in any way. I was trying to address 2 things at once - 1 being that there is very rare occasion to ever think of doing something like that (butchering someone's stuff, specifically their equipment/toys/cock/not sure what word you prefer here), which would be rape, and 2 being that I thought it was inappropriate of her ex to do that, considering it wasn't a situation of rape. I did not explain myself well, so I can understand the jump seemed extreme and unwarranted. However, my intentions were benign and meant to both allude to Bard's ex as way off course in her actions as well as express understanding that there are instances, though rare, where it would be understandable for someone to react in such a way. I could just as easily have chosen murder as an understandable reason for someone destroying property. As I said, instances for that are rarely excusable. It's like that song by a country female vocalist who slashes her boyfriend's car because he cheats on her. I don't think that's appropriate. But, many would say an eye for an eye. To each their own.

Bard, I apologize if my response brought you into that negative light. It was not my desire to do so.

Toughy · 03-06-2013, 04:04 PM

There were matriarchal societies.....read books written by women and not men to find out about them. I have an entire bookshelf full of books about that subject dating back to the 70's.

I do not have any rules about when I have sex with someone. It happens when it happens. I probably would not ever date anyone who said 'no sex for 3 months'. I don't have time to wait 3 months for you to make up your mind whether you like me or want to have sex with me. I know the minute I lay eyes on you if I want to have sex with you and generally it takes about 3 hours or less of conversation to figure out if I like you. Life is short and getting shorter all the time (for me). When the mood strikes sex should happen.

I actually do not care at all about testing for STDs because I practice safer sex. I have had sex with folks with HIV and Hep C.....safer sex. I do not have either of them. If I ever decide to be fluid bonded with someone, then we will have that conversation, knowing it will take at least 6 more months of safer sex and testing before that bonding occurs.

There is a body fluid I will exchange and happily with anyone I am having sex with........that would be spit.......I love kissing and you cannot do it properly without some spit swapping......laughin..........

kittygrrl · 03-06-2013, 05:09 PM

Yes..I love kissing also and while I've always thought it was fairly safe, I've read lately the HPV virus may be possible with even this activity. Also while we are talking safety I hope all who have access do take the HPV vaccine that is available. It won't protect you from all the mutations of the HPV but it does give some protection. Talk about scarey HPV has some very sobering stats..please excuse the digression..

Hollylane · 03-06-2013, 11:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I don't understand how being a feminist = hating men..

Originally Posted by Bard
I know when I broke up with my ex( Gooses mother) she um went into the spare bedroom where I was staying and found my harness and a new cock that I had purchased before we even broke up she cut them both up and left it on my bed.
------------------------------------------
Originally Posted by meridian

I'm sure there are valid reasons for doing this, but not many. Yowsie.

------------------------------------------------------------------------------

meridian, there is no validity for taking someone's personal property and ruining it NONE.. That kind of shit is gross and there are some deep issues going on there.

I am pretty sure we can safely say that by her cutting up the equipment did NOT stop Bard from seeking another relationship/s...

Destroying property isn't cool, justifiable or ok no matter what, if you're (general) cray cray is showing that bad and you (general) are starting to get that creeping thought of destroying stuff that belongs to a lover, ex, or ANYONE perhaps a trip to the therapist is due...

WOW!! I can't believe I read what I read just now!!!

I agree. I tend to become very concerned about someone's state of mind when they start to feel the need to destroy property in a symbolic way. To me, the idea of needing to destroy something and then present it to that person, feels violent, and controlling. Yuck.

03-06-2013, 01:22 PM	#1
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Toughy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: pervert butch feminist woman Preferred Pronoun?: see above Relationship Status: independent entity Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oakland Posts: 1,826 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,068 Thanked 7,654 Times in 1,523 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	There were matriarchal societies.....read books written by women and not men to find out about them. I have an entire bookshelf full of books about that subject dating back to the 70's. I do not have any rules about when I have sex with someone. It happens when it happens. I probably would not ever date anyone who said 'no sex for 3 months'. I don't have time to wait 3 months for you to make up your mind whether you like me or want to have sex with me. I know the minute I lay eyes on you if I want to have sex with you and generally it takes about 3 hours or less of conversation to figure out if I like you. Life is short and getting shorter all the time (for me). When the mood strikes sex should happen. I actually do not care at all about testing for STDs because I practice safer sex. I have had sex with folks with HIV and Hep C.....safer sex. I do not have either of them. If I ever decide to be fluid bonded with someone, then we will have that conversation, knowing it will take at least 6 more months of safer sex and testing before that bonding occurs. There is a body fluid I will exchange and happily with anyone I am having sex with........that would be spit.......I love kissing and you cannot do it properly without some spit swapping......laughin.......... __________________ We are everywhere We are different I do not care if resistance is futile I will not assimilate www.butchfemmesocials.com/

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03-06-2013, 03:33 PM	#7
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