What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

DJ Bear · 03-29-2013, 05:00 PM

nonnegotiables for me:

We BOTH Communicate with each other.
No Lies by either of us.
She craves affection and I crave her.
Respect, goes both ways.
She loves surprises, getting flowers, little gifts.
She loves the holidays and enjoys decorating for them.
She wants a Butch/Daddy.
Lastly, she loves all animals especially my dog.

Jean_TX · 03-29-2013, 05:48 PM

What a challenge to limit my "non-negotiables" to just three things! For me, the top three are fundamental and absolute:

1. Honesty - the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth when it comes to those things that can affect our lives. I will not tolerate deception (overt lies, concealment, or weasel wording).

2. Fidelity - in thoughts, words, and deeds. True fidelity is the product of one's deep love; it is not merely a matter of following some 'rules' that have been imposed on oneself by one's partner.

3. Kindness - which, in addition to thoughtfulness and affection, implies treating one another respectfully.

Velvetkitten · 03-30-2013, 10:10 PM

Just Three?? As someone said in an earlier post after having to go through heartache and having those experiences there's a lot more then three but the top three would have to be:

Honesty

Must be a Daddy, a real one don't just talk the talk. I am use to being the boss and I want to come home and surrender completely and know I am being taken care of mentally and physically

Must love animals...you know that saying "If you don't like pet hair stay off my furniture" My animals are allowed on the bed, on the couch and just about wherever they are comfortable

MysticOceansFL · 03-30-2013, 10:12 PM

Don't Lie, Cheat or steal

chris1life · 05-15-2013, 08:14 AM

1. Must understand I have children and they will come first! I'm not saying if we have something planned that I Would cancel plans Because the kidos want me to take them somewhere but if I made plans to do something with them I will not cancel Because u want to go to the mall.
2. No addictions (drugs, alcohol, or gambling) I don't want to Come to pick u up and find u so drunk u can't walk.
3. Do not take me for granted. Ill treat u like a queen but don't treat me as if I'm your servant (hehe well unless I'm in the mood for some play)

Sweet Bliss · 05-15-2013, 08:32 AM

Accept what is.

I do.

Live the tenents of the Four Agreements.

I do.

Laugh daily.

I do.

JAGG · 05-15-2013, 08:53 AM

Affection

Passion

Integrity in all things

03-29-2013, 05:48 PM	#2
Jean_TX Junior Member How Do You Identify?: via driver's license Preferred Pronoun?: Jean Relationship Status: Not available Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 78 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 197 Thanked 216 Times in 61 Posts Rep Power: 1155756	What a challenge to limit my "non-negotiables" to just three things! For me, the top three are fundamental and absolute: 1. Honesty - the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth when it comes to those things that can affect our lives. I will not tolerate deception (overt lies, concealment, or weasel wording). 2. Fidelity - in thoughts, words, and deeds. True fidelity is the product of one's deep love; it is not merely a matter of following some 'rules' that have been imposed on oneself by one's partner. 3. Kindness - which, in addition to thoughtfulness and affection, implies treating one another respectfully. __________________ Why not just remove all the warning labels and let Nature take care of the problem?

03-30-2013, 10:12 PM	#4
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,033 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	My thoughts Don't Lie, Cheat or steal __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

05-15-2013, 08:32 AM	#6
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Good Morning Gentle Folk! Accept what is. I do. Live the tenents of the Four Agreements. I do. Laugh daily. I do.

05-15-2013, 08:53 AM	#7
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,531 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Affection Passion Integrity in all things __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

03-29-2013, 05:00 PM	#1
DJ Bear Member How Do You Identify?: Daddy, Papa, just Me Preferred Pronoun?: he, him, sir, bro, hey you Relationship Status: Married to library_girl Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Illinois with my baby girl Posts: 144 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 404 Thanked 552 Times in 138 Posts Rep Power: 8324586	nonnegotiables for me: We BOTH Communicate with each other. No Lies by either of us. She craves affection and I crave her. Respect, goes both ways. She loves surprises, getting flowers, little gifts. She loves the holidays and enjoys decorating for them. She wants a Butch/Daddy. Lastly, she loves all animals especially my dog.

03-30-2013, 10:10 PM	#3
Velvetkitten Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Bratty Daddys girl Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Girl,Girl, friend Relationship Status: My soul is torn leave be Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Boston Posts: 217 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 350 Times in 100 Posts Rep Power: 0	Just Three?? As someone said in an earlier post after having to go through heartache and having those experiences there's a lot more then three but the top three would have to be: Honesty Must be a Daddy, a real one don't just talk the talk. I am use to being the boss and I want to come home and surrender completely and know I am being taken care of mentally and physically Must love animals...you know that saying "If you don't like pet hair stay off my furniture" My animals are allowed on the bed, on the couch and just about wherever they are comfortable

05-15-2013, 08:14 AM	#5
chris1life Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, syr, he Join Date: May 2013 Location: US Posts: 84 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 90 Thanked 276 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 2169073	1. Must understand I have children and they will come first! I'm not saying if we have something planned that I Would cancel plans Because the kidos want me to take them somewhere but if I made plans to do something with them I will not cancel Because u want to go to the mall. 2. No addictions (drugs, alcohol, or gambling) I don't want to Come to pick u up and find u so drunk u can't walk. 3. Do not take me for granted. Ill treat u like a queen but don't treat me as if I'm your servant (hehe well unless I'm in the mood for some play)