Talkin' 'bout love...

[Bit]

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Oh my, I think I might have forgotten to subscribe to this thread, lol--I started it before I set my preferences--so I didn't know anyone had answered! *laughing*

Thank you all for your input. I don't know if I believe that we choose to love or to not love *tilts head, considering* but I do believe that we choose to be obsessed or to let go. I've seen an awful lot of people refuse to let go and admit that they didn't get what they wanted. Over the years I've learned the hard way that you can never judge by only side of the story. So many times I have believed the person who told me there was something between them and another person--and taken their side completely when the other person behaved like an ass!--only to find out later that it was a one-sided relationship; the other person had not made any promises, didn't consider themselves in a relationship anymore, had moved on with their life, and by any reasonable standards had not been an ass at all.

I like the soulmate/lifemate/lustmate distinction. Mercedes Lackey has a term, "lifebonded" that just feels right to me; it feels like being woven together.

Thanks again! I enjoyed reading your posts!

[NotAnAverageGuy]

Hmmm I would have no idea that I was really "in love" with my ex's or just "being in love" with the whole idea of being with them and living with them, etc.

[atomiczombie]

I have fallen madly and deeply in love exactly twice. There have been others that I have loved deeply, but only 2 who I can honestly say I wanted to spend my life with them. It didn't work out, but that's life. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever feel that way about someone again, but some part of me doubts I will get that lucky.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Bit

"Being in love" is highly overrated. I personally don't need to live my life high, stoned on lust and hormones; I need to live it real, with both feet solidly on the ground and someone next to me just as solid. I need to live life loving each other for the long haul. I need to live life connected with a broad deep love that flows like a river to the sea, constant and self-replenishing; a love that uses all things, even the storms of life, to deepen and renew itself; a love that sustains vibrant life all around and brings richness to everything it touches.

I like your thoughts on this.

Of course, I enjoy the butterflies and anticipation in the beginning of a new relationship but it's the foundation underneath all that schmoopy stuff that I need. It needs to be solid and true.

[Hudson]

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[Laidbackgrly]

me I cant wait to be with that person I break my legs gettin outta work to go home to her all I can think about is her I cant wait to find that again I wonder if it will happen again

[Rockinonahigh]

This love you speak of,it is the thing we all go nuts after,try so hard to hold on to only to fall flat when its gone...then we do it alllllllll over again.Hummmm I think I will just sit and read cause this could very intresting.