Fierce Femmes, Allies and Gender Expectations...

Apocalipstic · 04-05-2010, 12:52 PM

Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things.

We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud.

I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme.

I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER.

I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me.

I don't need to be saved.

Spirit Dancer · 04-05-2010, 01:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things.

We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud.

I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme.

I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER.

I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me.

I don't need to be saved.

Claps hands thank you for starting this thread.

On more than one occasion I've been told why are you an Alpha Femme when you have a Syr. My reply is I was born Alpha I smacked the doc when I came out, grab mom's breast and took control. My gift to Syr is just that a gift and when there comes a time that we are not one, My gift will remain locked to Hym. My energy has always been this way, I tried to change and not going to happen. I'm aggressive and fierce a protector by nature. I can and have worked on cars, fix my own plumbing issues, and I have power tools. Femme Daddy yep that too.

Apocalipstic · 04-05-2010, 01:14 PM

People do not think before they ask questions or make comments do they? We can be who we want to be, date who we want to date, fuck who we want to fuck.

Thank you to all who have posted so far!

LaneyDoll · 05-24-2011, 11:51 AM

I tell everyone I am an enigma. So, if any of these sound stereotypical or offensive, I apologize-this is simply what I have encountered in my time...

I CAN take 3 hours to get ready BUT that is start to finish (shower, shave, shampoo etc etc etc).

However, if you tell me that I have 30 mins to get ready, I can-assuming I am already clean or can go with damp hair.

I am a disaster in the kitchen but can bake fairly well.

I know nothing about tools but can repair my costume jewelery when need be. AND, can make my own floggers (which would be in high demand if I would actually sell them.)

I cannot do anything to maintain my car and prefer to pay someone else to change the oil, detail it etc. I love to drive though and I love to drive fast!

I love to get dirty & sweaty when I work outside.

I do not bemoan a broken nail or a bad hair day.

I love to be waited on but do not expect it.

I will pay the check if you let me. I will always offer to, unless I tell you I am broke and cannot afford to go out and you offer to treat.

I do not maintain a manicure. I keep my nails short and neat but polish free. My toes ALWAYS have a pedicure-even in winter.

Do not dare to suggest I cannot do something I want to do. Just let me succeed or fail on my own.

Please do not ask me to be in a wedding-especially if you want me to be a server. If we are related, I will gladly help though. Do not ask me to host a shower. I will maybe attend, I WILL send a gift but I am not comfy chatting about most things discussed at those events.

Yes, I am approachable but am rarely approached. But, few people actually make the first move. I have had people tell me I am intimidating but I am really not.

greeneyedgrrl · 06-05-2011, 10:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I, for example, have way more in common with a 16 year old guy, than I do Betty Crocker!

I am not even sure what a feeling is.

I am very un-romantic.

I fall alsleep after sex.

I strap on.

I like to "run the show", as it were.

I like to be called Daddy

etc....

YES YES YES!

Quote:

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things.

We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud.

I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme.

I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER.

I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me.

I don't need to be saved.

EXACTLY!! ..and tell me i CAN'T do something i want to do..and i'll show u i CAN! what now??

04-05-2010, 12:52 PM	#1
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Femmes are not just one thing, We can be so many things. We can fix cars, we can use power tools, we are strong, we are proud. I refuse to be told I can't know about cars, or pump my own gas, or drive because I am Femme. I hate the mere suggestion that I have to be submissive about anything... EVER. I hate the suggestion that a Butch is soft or somehow less Butch if they like Femmes like Me. I don't need to be saved. __________________

04-05-2010, 01:14 PM	#3
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	People do not think before they ask questions or make comments do they? We can be who we want to be, date who we want to date, fuck who we want to fuck. Thank you to all who have posted so far! __________________

05-24-2011, 11:51 AM	#4
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I tell everyone I am an enigma. So, if any of these sound stereotypical or offensive, I apologize-this is simply what I have encountered in my time... I CAN take 3 hours to get ready BUT that is start to finish (shower, shave, shampoo etc etc etc). However, if you tell me that I have 30 mins to get ready, I can-assuming I am already clean or can go with damp hair. I am a disaster in the kitchen but can bake fairly well. I know nothing about tools but can repair my costume jewelery when need be. AND, can make my own floggers (which would be in high demand if I would actually sell them.) I cannot do anything to maintain my car and prefer to pay someone else to change the oil, detail it etc. I love to drive though and I love to drive fast! I love to get dirty & sweaty when I work outside. I do not bemoan a broken nail or a bad hair day. I love to be waited on but do not expect it. I will pay the check if you let me. I will always offer to, unless I tell you I am broke and cannot afford to go out and you offer to treat. I do not maintain a manicure. I keep my nails short and neat but polish free. My toes ALWAYS have a pedicure-even in winter. Do not dare to suggest I cannot do something I want to do. Just let me succeed or fail on my own. Please do not ask me to be in a wedding-especially if you want me to be a server. If we are related, I will gladly help though. Do not ask me to host a shower. I will maybe attend, I WILL send a gift but I am not comfy chatting about most things discussed at those events. Yes, I am approachable but am rarely approached. But, few people actually make the first move. I have had people tell me I am intimidating but I am really not. __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.