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05-21-2013, 09:23 PM
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Timed Out
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Like Bonnie Raitt's song..I Can't Make You Love Me. it's true..You can't. Long hard lesson learned.
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05-23-2013, 07:49 AM
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she, her, syr, he 
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I learned that when someone starts a conversation with "you know I really love you but..."don't let the finish the sentence pack their shit up and put it on the porch and change the locks. Another lesson is you never really know what's going on in someone else's head
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05-23-2013, 07:55 AM
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Leather polyamorous family Join Date: Apr 2013
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i have learned if it is not working well let it go with no regret or heartbreak because it will become more painful. i have learned not to allow my emotional attachment to dictate truth. hen it is over it is over.
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i will wait to love You. i will wait another day For You i'd leave all this behind. i will wait for you tonight. iwill waste another dream on You Always run to You. Uh Huh Her |
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05-23-2013, 05:16 PM
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Infamous Member
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Til you believe 
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A leopard doesn't change his spots just his excuses.
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05-23-2013, 06:02 PM
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Senior Member
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Don't let people try and tell you who you are.
I've been out of the dating scene for quite some time, but this one stuck. |
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05-24-2013, 09:09 PM
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Timed Out - Identity Issues
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To the moon and back. 
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I learned to always be respectful............karma.
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06-17-2013, 11:47 AM
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Ok these are my lessons for me; I have screwed up a hell of a lot, and hurt a few folks on the way to learning this shit, and been hurt by a few.
these are some of the lessons i have learned. Lessons learned over the past 12 years... 1. do not date unless you are really ready to do so. 2. Dont think its love just cause it feels good. 3. dont think you are ready to commit, if you havent had some kind of closure on prior stuff. 4. Even if you think u are sooooo over....take another 6 months before u believe it. 5. Not everyone is honest, tho most all of us try to be. 6. A persons perception of themselves is usually quite different than your perception of them..and visa versa. 7. If you are not ready dont do it. 8. It is better to say, I am not ready yet, then to end up in something and end up hurting other people as well as yourself. 9. All people have baggage, it just depends on whether you carry it around all the time or set it in a safe place and come visit it from time to time. 10. If you cant figure out a way to be involved with your children and keep the "EX" involvement to an absolute minimum, then dont be an ass, dont get involved with anyone else till you have that issue resolved. 11. sometimes its not love its pride or fear, or anger that makes a person do anything they can to keep you, even tho u both know its over. 12. sometimes you just gotta say WTF...pull up your big boi/grl pants and get over it!
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11-20-2013, 12:29 PM
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Infamous Member
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No, thank you. 
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Never lose your autonomy....
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11-10-2013, 10:59 AM
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Infamous Member
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Observe if he/she has the basics (ie pays bills on time, thoughtful involvement with parent/s, tips appropriately, dependable, mentally sound) it's amazing what we dismiss/excuse/miss...
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11-10-2013, 11:13 AM
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to say what you mean and mean what you say.
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11-10-2013, 11:13 AM
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Magically Delicious
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Stop holding on to that past relationship in your heart or you'll never be able to fully move on to a future relationship and hurt everyone that tries to touch your emotional heart.
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 Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo
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11-29-2013, 10:22 PM
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Junior Member
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Married to wintergreengem 
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I learned
You have to stick with it...good times and bad. It isn't all about sex either. You have to give to get, being there to help one another. To truly and honestly love each other. I have been humbled by the 2 women that have shown me the way.
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11-29-2013, 10:40 PM
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Senior Member
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REAL. TIME. ONLY. 
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Vida
...that love never dies...and that it energizes my new life, and for this
I am grateful. Greco |
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10-24-2018, 11:11 AM
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Junior Member
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What I Learned...
Oh, I learned so much from so many...(haha)
I learned: People can change - but only if they want to. Monogamy can be beautiful...and overrated. Washing butch cock is important. Don't aim a champagne bottle at anything breakable. Sex doesn't need love...but it does need like. Trust. I either do or I don't. How to let things go. Fuck the rules. Don't fuck the boss. Big brains are sexy. Kissing matters. How people treat others tells you who they really are. Strength isn't always muscle. I'm better suited as an aunt, not a mother. Keep the cowboy boots on. Even non-smokers like it when I smoke cigars. Don't hide who I am. |
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10-24-2018, 02:13 PM
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Member
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My potential/future relationships are negotiable.
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