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04-06-2010, 07:37 PM | #21 |
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I have learned that when I cant be friends with an ex, its because of MY behavior, not theirs. Thats a hard pill to swallow but in my personal experience, this is the Truth that sticks....
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04-06-2010, 07:42 PM | #22 |
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I am friends with some of my exes. Two in particular that Im really close too. One of which I will attend their wedding soon, and hang out with, and go to church with. I never thought after we broke up that it would turn out this way. We both admit why it didnt work. Not because of something she did or didnt do or what I did or didnt do. Just sometimes things just dont work. Doeesnt mean we cant be friends. And we are really good friends. I am great friends with her fiancee. Who I think is a wonderful person. I love her friendship to death.
The other one is my first love. We have been through everything as friends and she broke it off cause of her cancer years ago... Our paths have led us to lead separate lives. And thats fine. If we were meant for each other we would have already ended up together. Whoever I end up with, is going to have to accept my friendship with them. They have always been there and will always be.. Its not sexual or any romantic feelings there for me. Although I willalways care about each of them... Other exes are just plain crazy and I dont want them in my life. Its not healthy for me. So I say depends on the situation and the people if exes should be friends... |
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My facts are just fine, thank you. You said "They lie and cheat" which is a very generalized comment about exes, applying those traits to *all* exes. I never said you were directing it towards anyone specific. I provided you with an example of an ex of mine who was not either of those things. Perhaps a space between the lines would have made that more clear, however, I thought it would be nicer than telling you that you sounded bitter. |
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This is why I hate treads like this. Don't talk about your ex, talk about your shortcomings. Your ex isn't here to defend themselves, and if they were it's a whole lot of drama for no good reason.
you meaning general
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You said something very generalized - implying that all exes were liars and cheats.. Someone called you on that fact. You then say it's not directly at anyone in particular and then follow that up with saying it IS IN FACT about someone in particular. So. Sucks that someONE lied to you and cheated on YOU. BUT that doesn't mean all exes are liars and cheaters or wastes of time. However, saying things like this in a thread of this nature? Just really not the best idea. Generalizations kind of suck. Might I suggest: "Years ago I had someone lie to me and cheat on me. Ever since then I don't waste my time on exes". It gets across your point and avoids generalizing all exes. |
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I try and start threads with some substance and commonality that we all experience as people. Sometimes it works, sometimes, it doesnt. Thank you to those who understood what the thread was about. My apologies to those who are still obviously healing from some bad experiences. June please close this thread.
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