Is Marriage for you?

kittygrrl · 05-24-2013, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Velvetkitten

With all do respect IMHO it is more then just a piece of paper. It could mean the difference between someone having admittance to their partner in a hospital or being allowed to make decisions for said partner. Then there's tax breaks and I could go on.
As for the question. I've been married twice.The first time I was way to young and not for the right reasons as we were pressured by family.The second one was to my partner of 11 years we are divorced but on good terms. So would I marry again, absolutely I love the commitment and love that surrounds it.

I see, well it depends how you look at it. A power of attorney is effective, actually more powerful than a license. And why do I need a license to show love and commitment? It's a personal choice.

Tuff Stuff · 09-12-2015, 10:11 PM

I Never was,so i'm somewhat curious about being married..
but like..curiousity killed the cat.

JDeere · 09-13-2015, 10:44 PM

I have never been married so IDK.

Now that it is legal in the US, I still don't know if I want to be married

My choice of partners hasn't been good or the relationships don't last long.

I really do not want to deal with all that entails a failed marriage either.

TruTexan · 09-13-2015, 10:59 PM

Marriage? Is it for me? I would say YES. I want to be married to the love of my life. Right now, I'm single, I just haven't met the right woman YET.
Maybe one day I will find the Right woman for me.

betruetoyoursoul · 09-14-2015, 12:27 AM

I realize marriage is not for everyone....In the future I would love to be married to my forever love*S

VintageFemme · 09-18-2015, 09:53 PM

Absolutely.

It's the stuff my dreams are made of.

Glenn · 09-19-2015, 10:41 AM

Yes. I have been faithfully married for 35 years. But it is very hard. Sh*it happens. I probably would have still been married if my wife hadn't become incurably ill with schizophrenia. You'll need a lot of patience, discipline, and control, along with genuine respect and love, to make it last a life-time.

imperfect_cupcake · 09-19-2015, 03:01 PM

Got married once. Loved the bond and loved being called wife. My error was with what happend between us and in not understanding certain aspects of character with my exwife.

So yes, I would do it again. I think I'd be even more cautious about it, and yes a prenup (even though I never had any problems that way between my ex and I), and I wouldn't want us to live together. I feel much, much more open to getting married again than to living with someone again.

Besides, where I live, if we live together for two years, we are domestic partners and all the same legal stuff kicks in anyway. Might as well have a big party, be able to be called a wife, and NOT live together!

I'm not raising kids or dogs, I have my own money, my own career and soon my own place. Id like to share the good stuff with someone, not become jointly locked in debt and domestic chores. Wow. Sexy.

Shystonefem · 09-19-2015, 03:59 PM

I don't know.

My license plate clearly reads "nvr*agn". Lol

There would have to be a prenup and we would have to agree on everything to do with finances, chores, etc before we got married.

I was cheated on and, although we split the houses, the cheat and cheater live in the house I used to live in.

I guess the answer is no unless someone blows my mind.

Orema · 09-19-2015, 04:02 PM

I'm not getting married again. I was married to a man for a very long time and lived with a woman for a number of years and I don't want those kinds of relationships again.

Living on opposite sides of the park, lake or city is what I want, or even different cities would work for me. Spend a few days at her place, a few at mine, then off on our own. I like exclusive and monogamous relationships, but I need my own space and want time on my own.

Jane Bond · 09-21-2015, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by TruTexan

Marriage? Is it for me? I would say YES. I want to be married to the love of my life. Right now, I'm single, I just haven't met the right woman YET.
Maybe one day I will find the Right woman for me.

Get a prenup, and best wishes.

MsTinkerbelly · 09-21-2015, 06:47 PM

I'm curious about something....

Of the 18 people who said in the poll that they had an alternate joining, will any of you now be getting married as it is legal everywhere here in the States?

Has anyone that said no they never would, gotten married since?

If you were married at the time of the poll, have you since divorced?

One of the arguments always used against us to deny equal marriage, was that we jumped from relationship to relationship, and didn't want/need marriage...have you found yourselves taking relationships more seriously since marriage equality passed?

JDeere · 09-21-2015, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

I'm curious about something....

Of the 18 people who said in the poll that they had an alternate joining, will any of you now be getting married as it is legal everywhere here in the States?

Has anyone that said no they never would, gotten married since?

If you were married at the time of the poll, have you since divorced?

One of the arguments always used against us to deny equal marriage, was that we jumped from relationship to relationship, and didn't want/need marriage...have you found yourselves taking relationships more seriously since marriage equality passed?

Interesting questions, I hope someone steps up and answers!

View Poll Results: What is your ststus?
I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
Voters: 176. You may not vote on this poll

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09-19-2015, 03:01 PM	#8
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MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,907 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm curious about something.... Of the 18 people who said in the poll that they had an alternate joining, will any of you now be getting married as it is legal everywhere here in the States? Has anyone that said no they never would, gotten married since? If you were married at the time of the poll, have you since divorced? One of the arguments always used against us to deny equal marriage, was that we jumped from relationship to relationship, and didn't want/need marriage...have you found yourselves taking relationships more seriously since marriage equality passed?