Have You Found Your Soul Mate?

julieisafemme · 04-09-2010, 11:24 AM

My sister is my soul mate. We are mirrors and opposites of one another. But she annoys me sometimes and sometimes we don't understand one another.

Romantically I think you can have a connection with someone but a soul mate connection is not necessary for a successful relationship.

Sachita · 04-09-2010, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by julieisafemme

My sister is my soul mate. We are mirrors and opposites of one another. But she annoys me sometimes and sometimes we don't understand one another.

Romantically I think you can have a connection with someone but a soul mate connection is not necessary for a successful relationship.

I agree with this. I have the same with my sister. It's very symbiotic and I notice the more I learn to love myself, honor myself, etc the easier it is to share this with others.

I think that for some people the traditional ideal means all or nothing in one. I've never understood this or agreed but then again I've been single more then in relationships, however in retrospect I think about my life and see how full it really was/is and that I've always loved and felt love no matter what. This had nothing to do with one person but a collection and the quality of my life. You only get what you give. Thats a fact.

I believe our spirits/souls connect with like enegry patterns and as we move through life we connect profoundly for many reasons. For me most of this has been an evolving journey, many lessons and all to simply become conscious.

Gemme · 04-09-2010, 11:48 AM

While I've had people in my life that I did/do feel connected to, it's not been romantic. Sisterly love.

Romantically, I've not had that experience and I don't know if I want it. It's such a huge amount of pressure to put on someone I think. You are my ONE and ONLY and all my hopes and dreams are going to be thrust onto you and you be assigned responsibility for them and me and my happiness FOREVER. The cosmos have declared it! Maybe I am jaded....okay, I know I am...but that spells doom from the beginning.

I tend to think along the lines of, gee, this is great. Let's try to keep this good vibe. Sometimes it works for a while and sometimes the end is short and sweet. But I don't utter those words...soul mate...even if I feel it might be appropriate. Why? It's too much damn pressure for another human being. I don't want it put on me and I won't put it on another person.

Puplove · 04-09-2010, 08:39 PM

I get that the idea of soulmate would put pressure on someone or you...but what I found (and what also was one of the many things that made me so sure this is a true soulmate) is that we connect so naturally and easily - there never was any pressure. We both just knew, and we have a connection that goes down to our cores without the pressure or question of thrusting hopes and dreams etc -- we just ARE. And that is perfect. And that we are together makes it very peaceful and giddily joyful at the same time as it is so EASY and grounded.

I think feeling responsibility and pressure is an indication that one or both of you are hoping/wishing you'd be soulmates and want so much to make it so...but it ain't happenin. That is how my first "wish you were my soulmate" relationship went, and is a wonderful contrast to my "know you are my soulmate" treasure!

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Originally Posted by Gemme

While I've had people in my life that I did/do feel connected to, it's not been romantic. Sisterly love.

Romantically, I've not had that experience and I don't know if I want it. It's such a huge amount of pressure to put on someone I think. You are my ONE and ONLY and all my hopes and dreams are going to be thrust onto you and you be assigned responsibility for them and me and my happiness FOREVER. The cosmos have declared it! Maybe I am jaded....okay, I know I am...but that spells doom from the beginning.

I tend to think along the lines of, gee, this is great. Let's try to keep this good vibe. Sometimes it works for a while and sometimes the end is short and sweet. But I don't utter those words...soul mate...even if I feel it might be appropriate. Why? It's too much damn pressure for another human being. I don't want it put on me and I won't put it on another person.

bigbutchmistie · 04-10-2010, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Puplove

I get that the idea of soulmate would put pressure on someone or you...but what I found (and what also was one of the many things that made me so sure this is a true soulmate) is that we connect so naturally and easily - there never was any pressure. We both just knew, and we have a connection that goes down to our cores without the pressure or question of thrusting hopes and dreams etc -- we just ARE. And that is perfect. And that we are together makes it very peaceful and giddily joyful at the same time as it is so EASY and grounded.

I think feeling responsibility and pressure is an indication that one or both of you are hoping/wishing you'd be soulmates and want so much to make it so...but it ain't happenin. That is how my first "wish you were my soulmate" relationship went, and is a wonderful contrast to my "know you are my soulmate" treasure!

Ive heard from even friends that when you meet the one, there isnt any jumping through hoops "making" it work. It just fits like you said. It just is. Its easy and natural. Im glad you found that

Thanks for the post.

Ldyluck88 · 04-10-2010, 12:22 PM

Soulmate is just that, A Mate of the Soul, which to me is not in the physical sense, tho I wish I would have that kind of a connection with a partner.

bigbutchmistie · 04-10-2010, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Ldyluck88

Soulmate is just that, A Mate of the Soul, which to me is not in the physical sense, tho I wish I would have that kind of a connection with a partner.

Yep me too I wished I could connect like that with a partner

Oiler41 · 04-12-2010, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Puplove

I get that the idea of soulmate would put pressure on someone or you...but what I found (and what also was one of the many things that made me so sure this is a true soulmate) is that we connect so naturally and easily - there never was any pressure. We both just knew, and we have a connection that goes down to our cores without the pressure or question of thrusting hopes and dreams etc -- we just ARE. And that is perfect. And that we are together makes it very peaceful and giddily joyful at the same time as it is so EASY and grounded.

I think feeling responsibility and pressure is an indication that one or both of you are hoping/wishing you'd be soulmates and want so much to make it so...but it ain't happenin. That is how my first "wish you were my soulmate" relationship went, and is a wonderful contrast to my "know you are my soulmate" treasure!

Ditto,,,and furthermore,,ditto. It is, and has been from the beginning, as natural as breathing. The attempt to force a square peg into a round hole is something that I suppose nearly everyone has tried at least once in their life. We need not go through that motion further. We have found that perfect fit, and for that, I am grateful every day!

Glynn

redrose · 05-04-2010, 07:56 AM

i did

PinkieLee · 05-04-2010, 08:47 AM

Yes, I do believe in soulmates... but I don't believe that you only have one in your entire lifetime. I believe that you have soulmates for different times in your life.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Each relationship serves a purpose or teaches us lessons on the journey of who we are. Soulmates consist of not only lovers, but can be friends and family as well. It's a connection, that you feel in your soul, that they are meant to be in your life, where you feel completely at peace that you've arrived home. Along the way, I've had that with 2 partners and with my BBFF.

I feel as though if you are only focusing on the goal of finding your "one true love in life" you aren't truly living and learning. Take that energy and focus on living life itself... you can write your own happy ending.

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Ldyluck88 Member How Do You Identify?: Me Relationship Status: not here Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: somewhere Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 161 Thanked 117 Times in 67 Posts Rep Power: 23	Soulmate is just that, A Mate of the Soul, which to me is not in the physical sense, tho I wish I would have that kind of a connection with a partner.

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PinkieLee Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: I need ya boo, gotta see ya boo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Big Money Texas Posts: 4,708 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,309 Thanked 13,074 Times in 3,049 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Yes, I do believe in soulmates... but I don't believe that you only have one in your entire lifetime. I believe that you have soulmates for different times in your life. People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Each relationship serves a purpose or teaches us lessons on the journey of who we are. Soulmates consist of not only lovers, but can be friends and family as well. It's a connection, that you feel in your soul, that they are meant to be in your life, where you feel completely at peace that you've arrived home. Along the way, I've had that with 2 partners and with my BBFF. I feel as though if you are only focusing on the goal of finding your "one true love in life" you aren't truly living and learning. Take that energy and focus on living life itself... you can write your own happy ending.