How about butch and butch?

Ginger · 07-27-2013, 10:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ciaran

Genuinely not trying to be confrontational but I'm not sure that this post rests comfortably with me i.e. maybe not intentional but my reading of it is that being "done to" is an element of being a "girly femme" and "doing to" is something of a polar opposite.

Also, whether someone is "done to" or "doing to" in the bedroom, why does that necessarily indicate a lack of equality in the bedroom ..... surely, if it's what both parties want, it is as equal in the bedroom as sharing equally in the relationship outside of the bedroom.

Long live the logic!

Love it, and not just because I agree.

RockOn · 07-28-2013, 04:55 AM

Finally getting back to you. Started to last night but dinner put it to the back of the queue.

Ciaran, yesterday morning I was in a hurry to leave the house. I owe you the apology for not correctly reading your initial post to my initial post.

Yes, of course there is total equality in the bedroom (as well as outside it) in regards to how I was describing my particular desires but I left out that part. Thank you for bringing this to my attention. Otherwise, I would not have caught it.

Please key in on the two words "the ones" where I stated I am attracted to the girly femmes, "the ones" who only enjoy being done to. There are lots and lots of girly femmes who enjoy something different than what I am describing.

Lastly, being "done to" or "doing to" is not something that is defined as masculine or feminine. At least not to me. I have heard that lingo and have used it for years and years. It has served me in providing a shorthand method to describe ... that is all.

I came back to apologize to Ciaran, correct myself and not for the purpose of making myself appear more agreeable to site members.

SirLucian · 08-21-2013, 03:28 PM

great thread

psykftm · 09-09-2013, 02:33 PM

Partly to bump this thing again...

This friend of mine used to be a councilmen, and we've been hanging out and exchanging music (he's a musician) anyway, on top of motivating him to want to change the florida law on being able to change your license to whatever gender you feel is yours, he also became as miserably aware as I am that there is no butch on butch stories, porn, pictures, freakin nothing out there.

He has made a movie before, just a documentary about this lady that helped found a college and put together an orchestra, so he has movie making experience. He was thinking about making a butch on butch movie/love story. Damn that would be so awesome.

If you know any butch/butch movies, let me know because I can't find anything.

Take care,
-psykbutch

butchiegirl · 09-09-2013, 04:21 PM

The idea of being a minority in the queer community makes me smile. Being attracted to someone so much like me is not frowned upon. Meeting a fellow butch that gets my choice of clothes, ultra short hair, and refusal to conform to society's rules can't be impossible. They wink when they see me pass them on the sidewalk. Been told good luck with that quest. It's my destiny, not luck.

o'queery · 09-19-2013, 01:20 PM

Bumping for the LOVE of the masculine exchange between butches/boys/boi's/Ftm's

GeeGina · 09-19-2013, 03:04 PM

Why not?

Who anyone decides to partner up with - for a night or a lifetime - is their business. If one butch finds another attractive (and vice versa) I say follow the bliss.

To quote the Pope "Who am I to judge?"

So sayeth this femme chica...

07-28-2013, 04:55 AM	#2
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08-21-2013, 03:28 PM	#3
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09-09-2013, 02:33 PM	#4
psykftm Junior Member How Do You Identify?: FtM Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: single, healing Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: palm bay, fl Posts: 41 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 145 Times in 34 Posts Rep Power: 1779618	Partly to bump this thing again... This friend of mine used to be a councilmen, and we've been hanging out and exchanging music (he's a musician) anyway, on top of motivating him to want to change the florida law on being able to change your license to whatever gender you feel is yours, he also became as miserably aware as I am that there is no butch on butch stories, porn, pictures, freakin nothing out there. He has made a movie before, just a documentary about this lady that helped found a college and put together an orchestra, so he has movie making experience. He was thinking about making a butch on butch movie/love story. Damn that would be so awesome. If you know any butch/butch movies, let me know because I can't find anything. Take care, -psykbutch

09-09-2013, 04:21 PM	#5
butchiegirl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Minnesota Posts: 4 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 30 Times in 4 Posts Rep Power: 0	The idea of being a minority in the queer community makes me smile. Being attracted to someone so much like me is not frowned upon. Meeting a fellow butch that gets my choice of clothes, ultra short hair, and refusal to conform to society's rules can't be impossible. They wink when they see me pass them on the sidewalk. Been told good luck with that quest. It's my destiny, not luck.