What attracts you to Ftms ......

[Koffeelvr]

Up to this point I have only dated women but I am finding myself more and more attracted to energy, packaging is less and less important.

I agree with this ...

Originally Posted by Diva

I guess I would have to say that I am first attracted to Someone's personality first....their spirit...their soul....and oh, look!....He's an FtM.....ok then.

[Kurt]

Enjoyed reading through some of these posts. Haven't finished yet, but plan to..lol Very interested in seeing more of what the ladies are attracted to about us.....

[1ladyface]

I have a notebook I am now convinced is magic. It's nothing special, just a plain college-ruled notebook from Target but several years ago I wrote down everything I was looking for in a dog, right down to the ridiculous little details, before I went to the animal shelter. (adult dog, blocky heady, floppy ears, short fur, 40-60 lbs, swimmer, snuggler, big smile, affectionate, house-trained, knows basic commands, will answer to "Annie Boots", etc) When I did go to the shelter my little girl was there! And her name was already Annie.

I used the same magic notebook to write down everything I was looking for in a partner, again, right down to the ridiculous little details. (taller/bigger than me, female born and masculine, chivalrous, tattooed, non-smoker, protective but not jealous, cowboy archetype, kinky, intelligent, dislikes children, loves dogs, pastry chef, etc.) Over time the list came to fill an entire page of the notebook. And it got left on a shelf and forgotten, until I met Oliver.

Six months after moving to Oakland I met a wonderful FTM guy. Our first date was drinks and then a walk around Lake Merritt. Our second date he made an amazing dinner. Afterwards he showed me how to make truffles...and outed himself as a pastry chef.

I was reminded of the notebook and checked it the next morning. He was ALL of the things, right down to the astrological sign.

Now Oliver and I have been together four months. I recently showed him the magic notebook and we used it to write down a detailed description of our dream home. (a dog-friendly old converted industrial loft in Oakland with enough space for him to throw epic dinner parties and for me to have a sewing workspace. Natural light, exposed brick, gas stove, etc)

So maybe the notebook isn’t *really* magic but it did show me just how powerful clarity, intention, ritual and instinct can be. And that might even be better than magic.

[1ladyface]

My guy is the cowboy archetype and I'm the absent-minded professor archetype.

He is a:
street smart
action oriented
stone and somewhat stoic
fiercely loyal
protective
physically skilled
risk taker

I am a:
book smart
quiet
quirky
head-in-the-clouds, lost-in-thought
creative
empath
who enjoys doing things slowly and deliberately

We balance each other really well. He spurs me to action when I might otherwise overthink and become immobilized. And I remind him to slow down and breath. He's calm in a crisis and I have ALL the feelings. But on the rare occasion that he has feelings that he needs to deal with he knows I'm a safe, non-judgemental person to come to. We both work with our hands and love to make things but as a chef his creative process is loud, fast-paced, improvisational and often collaborative. As a seamstress my creative process is a quiet, slow, deliberate, cerebral and solitary.

I wouldn’t be good at his life and he wouldn’t be good at mine but we have shared values that manifest in very different ways in accordance with our temperaments and I think that’s why we work so well. We understand each others values and motivations but since our shared values have very different outlets there’s an amount of space built-in to our relationship that allows for some breathing room and individuality. It also allows us to admire each other from a distance.

His gorilla hands and my bunny heart make an excellent team.

[gotoseagrl]

most admirable: the courage to be One's true self.

[Kurt]

Bumping this thread. Would love to hear from the ladies.

[Leigh]

I love their strength, courage, the way they love and just how they are really wonderful people. I have dated two FTM's in my past and would do so again if the right one came along