Does a Soulmate really Exist?

Siren's Song · 08-19-2013, 07:23 PM

Rumor has it. It's a lovely dream. I'm not sure if soul mates exists or not. I do know that I can be my sweetest love and give myself what I dream of. I do know that I own the love that lives inside of me, and I can give it to myself. In reality I have control over this. If someone comes a long that is my perfect fit, well that's sugar in my cup.

macele · 08-19-2013, 08:29 PM

like others have said, a soulmate does not guarantee you'll be together forever. a soulmate is a connection that is truly madly deeply. friend, lover, or maybe i've never met them face to face. but if my soul is touched, then well, my soul has a mate. i've be fortunate to have had more than one. i like to think of the soul as a vessel. the soul gives the spirit a means of transportation. when i think of those that have took my spirit for a "ride", ... o my how i miss them and love to think about. blessed. a soulmate makes you a better person via the connection.

NorCalStud · 08-19-2013, 08:46 PM

Found. There is no doubt in my mind that I have found my soulmate. We are . We just are. Nothing else compares!

sierragirrl · 08-19-2013, 09:31 PM

IMO:
you would be soul mates when you are together, for the time..no one is put into your life by mistake. you learn from it, you grow from it, you love from it, you hurt from it.
feeling giddy and full of "love" is great we all like it. it has our souls feeling good and it improves our self esteem, puts a skip in our step.

could it be forever?
sure if you can work on issues together.
unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way.

then its time to sit down and revaluate things, work on ourselves, and when the right person steps into your life & you are willing to try again.
cowboy up, and have fun!

Allison W · 08-19-2013, 10:11 PM

No.

I'd explain why, but Tim Minchin does it better, so I'll let him do it.

gaea · 08-19-2013, 11:32 PM

I have met more than one in this lifetime however the blue eyes one I have waited and looked for .......hy is here in my arms my soul knows this connection better than any other and there is no explaining to the human what the soul already knows.

the one I sought has finally arrived.

RockOn · 08-20-2013, 04:36 AM

My opinion on soul mates ...

Yes, I believe they exist.

I also believe they are people who sincerely love and care for each other to the point of working through each others difficult issues without bailing out. They grow together in similar directions and stay together. (If the relationship is built on a healthy basis, I like to see people stay together and work things out.)

I think many times the grass looks greener on the other side, and then people find, after a while, that "greener grass" was not all that.

Maybe I am a fairy tale butch. Though I am not in the market and am not looking around at the present, I do still believe in the existence of the type soul mates I described. Just for me, if I stopped believing it, I would become a very hard person. I am not there ... yet?

Tuff Stuff · 09-10-2015, 01:13 AM

I suppose anything can exist..if you want it to.Many many years ago I believed in Soulmates..I truly believed he (yes He) was out there,somewhere.Do I believe he is still out there?,no..Do I believe she is out there?,no.
All I know is that I need love...and whoever offers me the kind of love i'm looking for,well,that's my soulmate.

What is love?...You Are There for Me.

Make sense?

Tuff Stuff · 10-11-2017, 10:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tuff Stuff

I suppose anything can exist..if you want it to.Many many years ago I believed in Soulmates..I truly believed he (yes He) was out there,somewhere.Do I believe he is still out there?,no..Do I believe she is out there?,no.
All I know is that I need love...and whoever offers me the kind of love i'm looking for,well,that's my soulmate.

What is love?...You Are There for Me.

Make sense?

Have I soften up since? or gotten harder?? *shrugs*
I guess i'm back to believing in Soulmates.I married for love,and that's what I got..but something is still missing.

imperfect_cupcake · 03-10-2018, 02:34 AM

Depends on how you define Soul Mate.

Does it mean "someone who understands me, loves me, clicks with me, and sticks by me for decades"? then yes. I have a few of those. They are friends I've had for over 30 years. Also, my half brother, who died about 17 years ago.

I don't personally believe in souls so the definition has to be explained to me in a different way... someone who gets the core of me? touches deep parts of me? loves them? Well, I'd say most of my partners *DID*. Just because it wasn't for ever doesn't me the love was fake. I really loved them. They really loved me. They totally understood and got me. It was just our dynamics that didn't work. Our behaviours and patterns and acting out. So who's to say ALL of them weren't?

My ex wife I loved more than all of them put together, though. But is intensity of feeling proof of ... what? Still didn't work because of dynamics. Nothing is perfect.

My friendships have taken a lot of work over 30+ years and a lot of patience and eyerolling and just letting things be and accepting shit or it won't work. And knowing when to work and when to just let it be.

I believe in chemistry, imprinting when young, social imprinting in your core group as you come of age, understanding things as a teen and early 20s seems to really "sit". I still carry the core beliefs of that - that's why I'm still friends with my friends.

And why I don't "click" with mainstream north american socially conservation traditional beliefs around romance and dating. I wasn't raised with it, so I don't "get" it. I was only introduced to it when I went gay and started dating American butches.

So when I meet those who "get" that same view point as me that *don't* come from my back ground, and they share my irreverent humour... I get excited we are working with the safe platform and understanding - that click.

Soul mate... being understood, respected, loved, "gotten", with shared vision/values. Yeah, luckily, I've had several.

and many are my friends

girl_dee · 03-10-2018, 05:42 AM

i’ll know in the end.

08-19-2013, 07:23 PM	#1
Siren's Song Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Deep at sea. Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 84 Thanked 168 Times in 62 Posts Rep Power: 1360612	Do soul mates exist? Rumor has it. It's a lovely dream. I'm not sure if soul mates exists or not. I do know that I can be my sweetest love and give myself what I dream of. I do know that I own the love that lives inside of me, and I can give it to myself. In reality I have control over this. If someone comes a long that is my perfect fit, well that's sugar in my cup. __________________ Life is the flower for which love is the honey.~Victor Hugo

08-19-2013, 08:46 PM	#3
NorCalStud Member How Do You Identify?: gaea's Daddy and Fiance Preferred Pronoun?: Ours Relationship Status: Engaged with gaea:-) Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Island Mountain Posts: 440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,630 Thanked 1,465 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 18918589	Soulmate Found. There is no doubt in my mind that I have found my soulmate. We are . We just are. Nothing else compares! __________________ "Love the questions" ...Rainier Marie Rilke...Letters to a young poet Che

08-19-2013, 11:32 PM	#6
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	yes I have met more than one in this lifetime however the blue eyes one I have waited and looked for .......hy is here in my arms my soul knows this connection better than any other and there is no explaining to the human what the soul already knows. the one I sought has finally arrived. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

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macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	like others have said, a soulmate does not guarantee you'll be together forever. a soulmate is a connection that is truly madly deeply. friend, lover, or maybe i've never met them face to face. but if my soul is touched, then well, my soul has a mate. i've be fortunate to have had more than one. i like to think of the soul as a vessel. the soul gives the spirit a means of transportation. when i think of those that have took my spirit for a "ride", ... o my how i miss them and love to think about. blessed. a soulmate makes you a better person via the connection.

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sierragirrl Member How Do You Identify?: .... Relationship Status: <3 Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 783 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,417 Thanked 2,870 Times in 667 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	IMO: you would be soul mates when you are together, for the time..no one is put into your life by mistake. you learn from it, you grow from it, you love from it, you hurt from it. feeling giddy and full of "love" is great we all like it. it has our souls feeling good and it improves our self esteem, puts a skip in our step. could it be forever? sure if you can work on issues together. unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way. then its time to sit down and revaluate things, work on ourselves, and when the right person steps into your life & you are willing to try again. cowboy up, and have fun!

08-19-2013, 10:11 PM	#5
Allison W Member How Do You Identify?: TG Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Loner Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,414 Thanked 1,195 Times in 319 Posts Rep Power: 12203815	No. I'd explain why, but Tim Minchin does it better, so I'll let him do it.

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RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	My opinion on soul mates ... Yes, I believe they exist. I also believe they are people who sincerely love and care for each other to the point of working through each others difficult issues without bailing out. They grow together in similar directions and stay together. (If the relationship is built on a healthy basis, I like to see people stay together and work things out.) I think many times the grass looks greener on the other side, and then people find, after a while, that "greener grass" was not all that. Maybe I am a fairy tale butch. Though I am not in the market and am not looking around at the present, I do still believe in the existence of the type soul mates I described. Just for me, if I stopped believing it, I would become a very hard person. I am not there ... yet?

09-10-2015, 01:13 AM	#8
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	I suppose anything can exist..if you want it to.Many many years ago I believed in Soulmates..I truly believed he (yes He) was out there,somewhere.Do I believe he is still out there?,no..Do I believe she is out there?,no. All I know is that I need love...and whoever offers me the kind of love i'm looking for,well,that's my soulmate. What is love?...You Are There for Me. Make sense?

03-10-2018, 02:34 AM	#10
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Depends on how you define Soul Mate. Does it mean "someone who understands me, loves me, clicks with me, and sticks by me for decades"? then yes. I have a few of those. They are friends I've had for over 30 years. Also, my half brother, who died about 17 years ago. I don't personally believe in souls so the definition has to be explained to me in a different way... someone who gets the core of me? touches deep parts of me? loves them? Well, I'd say most of my partners DID. Just because it wasn't for ever doesn't me the love was fake. I really loved them. They really loved me. They totally understood and got me. It was just our dynamics that didn't work. Our behaviours and patterns and acting out. So who's to say ALL of them weren't? My ex wife I loved more than all of them put together, though. But is intensity of feeling proof of ... what? Still didn't work because of dynamics. Nothing is perfect. My friendships have taken a lot of work over 30+ years and a lot of patience and eyerolling and just letting things be and accepting shit or it won't work. And knowing when to work and when to just let it be. I believe in chemistry, imprinting when young, social imprinting in your core group as you come of age, understanding things as a teen and early 20s seems to really "sit". I still carry the core beliefs of that - that's why I'm still friends with my friends. And why I don't "click" with mainstream north american socially conservation traditional beliefs around romance and dating. I wasn't raised with it, so I don't "get" it. I was only introduced to it when I went gay and started dating American butches. So when I meet those who "get" that same view point as me that don't come from my back ground, and they share my irreverent humour... I get excited we are working with the safe platform and understanding - that click. Soul mate... being understood, respected, loved, "gotten", with shared vision/values. Yeah, luckily, I've had several. and many are my friends

03-10-2018, 05:42 AM	#11
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