Our Answers To Big Questions

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Huge-Smile

So, yes; I would absolutely like to know the day, but not the how.

Yeah, it would be a total bummer to know that you're gonna get smashed to smithereens by a flaming toilet seat.

[Smiling]

Originally Posted by Gemme

Yeah, it would be a total bummer to know that you're gonna get smashed to smithereens by a flaming toilet seat.

lmao; you're not kidding!

[PoeticSilence]

Originally Posted by Blade View Post
QUESTION 3/11

Would you like to know the precise date of your death?
Why or why not??


I think I'd like to know when I was going to die, and I'm not so big on the how part.

I believe it would be a lot easier to be kinder and more thoughtful if I knew when. I could be more forgiving to people who were unkind and thoughtless. I could be more generous with my time. I could plan ahead and tie up what might be considered loose strings that my family might have to take care of. I could go through things and designate them to the children (knowing there would be no more). I could pay in advance for that cremation and save the kids the trouble. I could write my own obituary! I could print out all of the emails between me and my wife (many of them sappy or silly) and make a little after-I'm-gone book for her. I could work on doing some repairs that I've been putting off. I would keep my desk more tidy and organized. I could sit down and patiently make a video for each kid that will remind them of how I feel about them and how they've changed my life and put them away to be viewed later. So much that could be done. I wouldn't have time to be worried or depressed about anything at all.

I grew up believing I would die at fifty, like the majority of my family does. By majority I mean there are only a couple of us over fifty. When I turned fifty one I was...astonished.

Sure I can do a lot of those things still, and some of them I do, but there's that little procrastinator in me that puts some things off. Still.

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Blade View Post
QUESTION 3/11

Would you like to know the precise date of your death?
Why or why not??




I would love to know the precise date of my death only because (and there is no pun intended here) I work better with deadlines. Deadlines help me to budget my time and resources for maximum benefit.

[Smiling]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Originally Posted by Blade View Post
QUESTION 3/11

Would you like to know the precise date of your death?
Why or why not??




I would love to know the precise date of my death only because (and there is no pun intended here) I work better with deadlines. Deadlines help me to budget my time and resources for maximum benefit.

Kobi, I totally get that! I, too, do my best work under pressure. In fact, when there is no pressure, nothing usually gets done at all, lol.

[Cin]

It seems the reality of my eventual death, as irrefutable as it is, has had little impact on my life so far, so I don’t believe an exact date would move me. At least not in any direction I would enjoy. I could see it making me more anxious and stressed as I tried to do more, be more, live more, give more, take more and just all around incorporate more into my everyday existence.

My days are already numbered, as are everyone’s, and although I know this, I still have to remind myself to live in the moment, to appreciate every minute, to be thankful for the precious gift of life, to enjoy the people I love, to tell them and show them what they mean to me, to never miss an opportunity to experience life. If understanding that life is finite hasn’t taught me to appreciate every single day, I can’t imagine that having a date for my death will.

Of course it would allow me to be better prepared. Have my affairs in order so to speak. I guess I’m just one of those people who isn’t all that interested in ordering my affairs. I’ll have to give that some thought.

But knowing the number of my days wouldn’t help me be more present in my life. It might even distract me. It’s hard enough some days to remember to enjoy life no matter how it’s going. Each one of my days is precious because it’s a singular occurrence and will never come around again. Sometimes that’s a happy thought; most times it’s not. But it’s always the truth and to remember that as the day unfolds matters to me. I am not always successful but when I am it is awesome. It fills me with wonder and a determination not to miss a moment of my life. Doesn’t last though and moment after moment tumbles away unnoticed or unappreciated. I don’t think knowing the exact time of my death will slow anything down for me.

[Blade]

Someone left me a PM that they enjoyed this thread and if I had time could I Get the little book of big questions back out.

Sooooo here we go.

Question
How do you know when you are interfering in someone's life?