A space for positive trans posts

[BestButchBoy]

...in hopes of keeping a positive dialogue open. I had participated in a male-id butch / trans group at The Center in Manhattan. I was/am struck by how poorly people feel about themselves. It all starts with you: Self-love. Self-acceptance.

Discuss.

[Bad_boi]

Originally Posted by BestButchBoy

It all starts with you: Self-love. Self-acceptance.

Discuss.

I would have to agree with this statement.

Sometimes I think it is hard for people to love themselves. In our society loving yourself is considered "vain" or "conceited". The fact is if you like and accept yourself as you are that is healthy.

Its hard to love and accept being in a body that feels "wrong". I can't speak for anyone else but myself really. I have some issues with dysphoria but I realize things like I can do most anything any other man can do. (I might need to attach somethings but hey, what guy wouldn't want to be any size he chooses at any given time? Haha) I also have come to realize that I don't have dysphoria about a lot of my body and I focus on the things I can do with it and what I am thankful for.

For trans folks there is a big focus on change that we have to let go of sometimes. We have to understand that what is on the inside is what counts and we are people despite our "parts". Those parts do not define us the way our souls do.

[Nadeest]

I just realized, yesterday, that I am likely going to have to train my new VA health care providers on transgender health care. This is going to be 'interesting'.

[SirLucian]

for this thread
it is nice to have a space
for US

[DMW]

Reflection making me smile...
My cousin's initial response upon learning of my transition.
Which he later shared with me while we were both cracking up
and smoking cigars together.
"Well, we knew he was seriously butch, but not that butch."
Love it.

[Liam]

I am so grateful that I have such wonderful healthcare providers. I do not have health insurance, but I have healthcare for no/low income people. I did not join the clinic which targets trans folks, but one that targets native americans. Each person there treats me, as well as my partner, with respect and kindness, and I find them to be genuine. My doctor is just as excited about my pending top surgery, as I am. I wish every transperson had the resources available to them, that I do.

[DMW]

The Man In The Glass
Peter Dale Wimbrow Sr.

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.

For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.

He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
For he’s with you, clear to the end
And you’ve passed your most difficult, dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Liam

I am so grateful that I have such wonderful healthcare providers. I do not have health insurance, but I have healthcare for no/low income people. I did not join the clinic which targets trans folks, but one that targets native americans. Each person there treats me, as well as my partner, with respect and kindness, and I find them to be genuine. My doctor is just as excited about my pending top surgery, as I am. I wish every transperson had the resources available to them, that I do.

Hi, Liam. I can't remember if you told us who was doing your top surgery?

What's the date of the surgery? Good luck to you!