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Corkey · 04-13-2010, 01:16 PM

Focus on what you need to make you happy, you are the only one who can do this. Not another soul on the planet can accomplish this for you. Look within to find your answers, they are there just waiting for you to discover them. Find your inner bliss, and reflect on what you can do to change your circumstance.
Good luck and enjoy the journey!

always2late · 04-13-2010, 01:30 PM

We are the same age. And I understand how hard it is to find yourself alone at this point. Especially when you had dreams about being with someone, spending your life with someone, etc... My advice to you is...enjoy it. That may sound cliche, and I know that its sometimes not easy, but focus on yourself. Find things that make you happy. Sometimes the best things come when you aren't looking for them. And, if you ever need a friend...I am a really good listener.

Heart · 04-13-2010, 03:34 PM

Awww... I hear ya hon. I ended a long-term relationship almost 2 years ago and I'm older than you. I started dating a new person I really liked 6 months ago - I was hopeful. But she needed to end it, so I'm feeling a mite bereft.

Breakups are hard and I agree that it's harder once we're past 40. But love is a mysterious thing and I don't think it cares one bit how old we are. It just comes along when it does and it can go at any moment too. There are never any guarantees.

Friends, work, chosen family, activities, self-care -- these are things we have a measure of control over. Make good choices for yourself, treat yourself very gently and kindly, reach out for support, and stay hopeful.

Heart

04-13-2010, 01:16 PM	#1
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Focus on what you need to make you happy, you are the only one who can do this. Not another soul on the planet can accomplish this for you. Look within to find your answers, they are there just waiting for you to discover them. Find your inner bliss, and reflect on what you can do to change your circumstance. Good luck and enjoy the journey! __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

04-13-2010, 01:30 PM	#2
always2late Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 2,000 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,834 Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	We are the same age. And I understand how hard it is to find yourself alone at this point. Especially when you had dreams about being with someone, spending your life with someone, etc... My advice to you is...enjoy it. That may sound cliche, and I know that its sometimes not easy, but focus on yourself. Find things that make you happy. Sometimes the best things come when you aren't looking for them. And, if you ever need a friend...I am a really good listener. __________________ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi

04-13-2010, 03:34 PM	#3
Heart Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: rainbows! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: NY Posts: 466 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,522 Times in 409 Posts Rep Power: 12032610	Awww... I hear ya hon. I ended a long-term relationship almost 2 years ago and I'm older than you. I started dating a new person I really liked 6 months ago - I was hopeful. But she needed to end it, so I'm feeling a mite bereft. Breakups are hard and I agree that it's harder once we're past 40. But love is a mysterious thing and I don't think it cares one bit how old we are. It just comes along when it does and it can go at any moment too. There are never any guarantees. Friends, work, chosen family, activities, self-care -- these are things we have a measure of control over. Make good choices for yourself, treat yourself very gently and kindly, reach out for support, and stay hopeful. Heart