Fierce Femmes, Allies and Gender Expectations...

GeeGina · 10-10-2013, 10:04 AM

I consider myself "femme, but flexible", which reserves me the right to express myself in the manner that feels authentic to me. I make no rules for others and will have no such rules placed on me.

So, I will:
Make the first move if I want to.
Smoke fat cigars while wearing lipstick.
Shave my head in the summer, then wear a sundress to a bbq.
Wax. Or not.
Appreciate the feel of the packed crotch of my partner's jeans against my capri pants.
Never change my own oil.
Bake like a grandmother.
Buy shoes.
Mani and Pedi.
Burp (though not in public).
Drink big beers at the bar.
Wear your oversized shirt around the house.
Ask you what you need.
Make soup.
Wear boots.
Get muddy, then take a bubble bath.
Actually catch a football.
Rock a cocktail dress and hit a buffet like I'm going to the chair the next morning.

Etc, etc, etc. My point - be who you are and who you want to be, not what society or culture or mores thinks you should be...

imperfect_cupcake · 10-10-2013, 10:57 AM

that seems totally femme in my books and not any different to the ones I've hung out with in the past 10 years.

Crow · 10-10-2013, 07:44 PM

My gosh...but you're the perfect girl.

LexiLove · 10-11-2013, 03:04 PM

I am a newbie but I had to post to this thread. I would consider myself a femme for the most part. I love makeup, lace, heels, lingerie, etc BUT I am not weak. I have no problem getting under a car, getting in the dirt, letting my hair get wet, have makeup smeared on my face. I am a chivalrous person and can be very masculine at times yet demure and "delicate" other times. I am so happy that there are other femmes that are like me. I am sort of newly "out" and reading these threads has made me feel far less alone.

Thank you.

Gemme · 10-12-2013, 05:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LexiLove

I am a newbie but I had to post to this thread. I would consider myself a femme for the most part. I love makeup, lace, heels, lingerie, etc BUT I am not weak. I have no problem getting under a car, getting in the dirt, letting my hair get wet, have makeup smeared on my face. I am a chivalrous person and can be very masculine at times yet demure and "delicate" other times. I am so happy that there are other femmes that are like me. I am sort of newly "out" and reading these threads has made me feel far less alone.

Thank you.

Lexi!

Don't let anyone tell you that femme equates weak. The strongest, most fierce people in my life are femmes right here on this site. I'm glad you feel comfortable here and look forward to seeing you grow. Welcome to the site and please continue to embrace your femmedom.

Medusa · 02-01-2017, 11:17 PM

For lack of a better thread, and she may never see this anyway, but I wanted to honor a Femme sister with some love.

Arwen.

The simplest and most powerful thing I can say is that she is a true Sister in every sense of the word. Supportive. Calming presence. Smart as fuck. Sexy. REAL. She's honest in ways that most people only dream of.
In short, I love the woman and I'm honored to know her. <3

girl_dee · 02-21-2017, 05:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Medusa

For lack of a better thread, and she may never see this anyway, but I wanted to honor a Femme sister with some love.

Arwen.

The simplest and most powerful thing I can say is that she is a true Sister in every sense of the word. Supportive. Calming presence. Smart as fuck. Sexy. REAL. She's honest in ways that most people only dream of.
In short, I love the woman and I'm honored to know her. <3

I completely agree!

Arwen · 04-08-2017, 06:54 AM

You honor me. And I love you.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Medusa

For lack of a better thread, and she may never see this anyway, but I wanted to honor a Femme sister with some love.

Arwen.

The simplest and most powerful thing I can say is that she is a true Sister in every sense of the word. Supportive. Calming presence. Smart as fuck. Sexy. REAL. She's honest in ways that most people only dream of.
In short, I love the woman and I'm honored to know her. <3

10-10-2013, 10:04 AM	#1
GeeGina Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, but flexible. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Relationship Status: Single. Looking. Available. Open. Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 111 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10 Thanked 410 Times in 76 Posts Rep Power: 4115106	Swirl... I consider myself "femme, but flexible", which reserves me the right to express myself in the manner that feels authentic to me. I make no rules for others and will have no such rules placed on me. So, I will: Make the first move if I want to. Smoke fat cigars while wearing lipstick. Shave my head in the summer, then wear a sundress to a bbq. Wax. Or not. Appreciate the feel of the packed crotch of my partner's jeans against my capri pants. Never change my own oil. Bake like a grandmother. Buy shoes. Mani and Pedi. Burp (though not in public). Drink big beers at the bar. Wear your oversized shirt around the house. Ask you what you need. Make soup. Wear boots. Get muddy, then take a bubble bath. Actually catch a football. Rock a cocktail dress and hit a buffet like I'm going to the chair the next morning. Etc, etc, etc. My point - be who you are and who you want to be, not what society or culture or mores thinks you should be...

02-01-2017, 11:17 PM	#6
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,686 Times in 7,831 Posts Rep Power: 10000025	For lack of a better thread, and she may never see this anyway, but I wanted to honor a Femme sister with some love. Arwen. The simplest and most powerful thing I can say is that she is a true Sister in every sense of the word. Supportive. Calming presence. Smart as fuck. Sexy. REAL. She's honest in ways that most people only dream of. In short, I love the woman and I'm honored to know her. <3 __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch

10-10-2013, 10:57 AM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	that seems totally femme in my books and not any different to the ones I've hung out with in the past 10 years.

10-10-2013, 07:44 PM	#3
Crow Junior Member How Do You Identify?: lgbTq...the T...that's me Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. From my head down to my toes. Relationship Status: Sane Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Toto we're not in Seattle anymore! Posts: 49 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 71 Thanked 196 Times in 43 Posts Rep Power: 2383964	My gosh...but you're the perfect girl.

10-11-2013, 03:04 PM	#4
LexiLove Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce.Lesbian.Femme.Dyke. Preferred Pronoun?: She.Her.Sweetums. Relationship Status: I have her...hoping to keep her Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: NY for now Posts: 53 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 135 Times in 36 Posts Rep Power: 950353	I am a newbie but I had to post to this thread. I would consider myself a femme for the most part. I love makeup, lace, heels, lingerie, etc BUT I am not weak. I have no problem getting under a car, getting in the dirt, letting my hair get wet, have makeup smeared on my face. I am a chivalrous person and can be very masculine at times yet demure and "delicate" other times. I am so happy that there are other femmes that are like me. I am sort of newly "out" and reading these threads has made me feel far less alone. Thank you.