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LoyalWolfsBlade · 12-09-2013, 07:43 PM

You know it still surprises me how accepting this area is. More so how wonderful my college has been and is being when it comes to anything relating to me being an open and out transgender pre op FtM. I finally had to have the bathroom talk with student services today. I was having difficulty with some individuals when I used one of the two men's rooms so at the time I choose to do everything possible not to use the restroom ay school. You know one of those puck your battles situations. After all I will not be going there four years. Well I was reminded Friday that my bladder shrinks to the size of a pea in the winter and recalling the hassles from last semester I used the woman's room hoping it was empty. I feel bad for the woman that was in there bcs I scared the shit out of her. Hell if I was a woman and someone that looked like me walk into the restroom I would have been scared to. So I decided it was time to take the issue to the decision makers today. I sure didn't want to scare anyone or put up with harassment I didn't have to. The woman in student services was wonderful. Of course she couldn't make any decisions but I knew she would know the rest of the steps and people. So she listened and made sure I hadn't experienced anything hateful then took me to the first in line for these things. She did all the talking referred to me in all the proper pro nouns and other terms. Then again she has been wonderful in her treatment to me since I started school. I don't even mind it when she refers to me as the schools test subject jokingly. It was decided the campus president would have to handle this issue. So I have to talk to him tomorrow mainly because he wants to hear first hand about the incidents that occurred when I attempted to use the men's room and to get my input on how to handle it. Again he has always been great with me and very respectful so I am not to worried about it. I guess I am still amazed by the responces because it is so drastic from what I would have gotten back home. Doesn't hurt that my T has helped my responces to these things at least that's what I give the credit to for my more rational thinking and calmer approach to things. Let's hope I don't loose the right to take it on Thursday and if I do these are two of the things I get to keep from having used T.

BestButchBoy · 12-10-2013, 07:22 AM

Bump up the positive thinking, posting, sharing, being.

Liam · 12-10-2013, 10:20 AM

I am attending a three week/six session empowerment workshop for trans folk. My co-attendees range in age from young to old, with those preferring male, female and gender neutral pronouns. I am honored to hear their stories, and they inspire me to continue to be out as a trans man. Forty years ago I could see the importance of being out, believing that the stigma attached to being queer would lose its weight and there would be more acceptance for lesbians and gay men. I've witnessed the truth of this in my lifetime, and while not everyone may embrace the rainbow family, enough do, to make it feel safer to be queer. So I have put aside my fear once again, to say to the world, this is who I am, and it is okay to be me.

Nadeest · 12-10-2013, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ~KnightsBlade~

You know it still surprises me how accepting this area is. More so how wonderful my college has been and is being when it comes to anything relating to me being an open and out transgender pre op FtM. I finally had to have the bathroom talk with student services today. I was having difficulty with some individuals when I used one of the two men's rooms so at the time I choose to do everything possible not to use the restroom ay school. You know one of those puck your battles situations. After all I will not be going there four years. Well I was reminded Friday that my bladder shrinks to the size of a pea in the winter and recalling the hassles from last semester I used the woman's room hoping it was empty. I feel bad for the woman that was in there bcs I scared the shit out of her. Hell if I was a woman and someone that looked like me walk into the restroom I would have been scared to. So I decided it was time to take the issue to the decision makers today. I sure didn't want to scare anyone or put up with harassment I didn't have to. The woman in student services was wonderful. Of course she couldn't make any decisions but I knew she would know the rest of the steps and people. So she listened and made sure I hadn't experienced anything hateful then took me to the first in line for these things. She did all the talking referred to me in all the proper pro nouns and other terms. Then again she has been wonderful in her treatment to me since I started school. I don't even mind it when she refers to me as the schools test subject jokingly. It was decided the campus president would have to handle this issue. So I have to talk to him tomorrow mainly because he wants to hear first hand about the incidents that occurred when I attempted to use the men's room and to get my input on how to handle it. Again he has always been great with me and very respectful so I am not to worried about it. I guess I am still amazed by the responces because it is so drastic from what I would have gotten back home. Doesn't hurt that my T has helped my responces to these things at least that's what I give the credit to for my more rational thinking and calmer approach to things. Let's hope I don't loose the right to take it on Thursday and if I do these are two of the things I get to keep from having used T.

Perhaps I am misunderstanding things, but did you say that you might lose the right to take T ??? NO ONE has the right to tell you that, not anyone at all! If anyone tells you that, tell them that I say to them: "Fuck you!".

I hope that what you meant was that you might lose the right to use the men's room. Please show the university president your 'Carry Letter.' That should help take care of the problem, if your's is anything like my 'Carry Letter'.

Hang in there, honey, and good luck. Hugs, Nadine

LoyalWolfsBlade · 12-11-2013, 12:30 AM

Actually you read it right but I worded it wrong. Blame it on my grieving process for the lose. What I should have said that there is a good chance that on Thursday I will have to stop taking T due to a medical side effect. They found tumors on both of my andrino glands while I was in the hospital for phenomena. However I also found out yesterday that my sister has the same thing so it could be genetic and not T related. I apologize for the wording but that is how it feels after such a long fight to finally get to start my transition. However, as Liam and Lady Pamela reminded me it is not the T that makes me who I am or the man I am. I just am. Granted the T helps in a lot of ways I can't even explain. Still though it is good to have friends like Liam and Lady Pamela that remind me of the truth.
As for the restroom it hasn't been resolved yet but that was bcs I pulled a 24 hr night and didn't make it to school. I am not to worried about the outcome especially since in one month my government id will state that I am legally a male. T or no T
Besides the school is being really good about everything to this point. We will see.

Nadeest · 12-14-2013, 08:01 PM

Eh, things happen. I hope that you can continue to take T, though. I know that I would not do well, at least right now, if I were forced to stop taking my hormones. I don't know for sure how that I would handle it, but I do know that I would be obtaining an orchidectomy ( This op removes the testicles, so that the body doesn't produce testosterone anymore, well, not much, anyhow.) immediately, if not sooner. I'd have to manage it, somehow, as I absolutely refuse to allow my system to go back to the way that it was.

Liam and Lady Pamela are right, you ARE a man, regardless of whether you are on T or not. Hang in there! HUGS

Bad_boi · 12-29-2013, 10:27 AM

I forgot to mention that I got Christmas cards with my real name on them

I swear seeing that my name is legally my name never gets old

BestButchBoy · 02-12-2014, 07:48 AM

http://www.nowness.com/media/embedvi...6&issueid=2765

Watch this trans-positive ad campaign for Barney's New York done by Bruce Weber. Great piece.

BestButchBoy · 05-31-2014, 07:39 AM

Liam · 06-01-2014, 09:59 PM

I am blessed to live on the edge of/and work in the gayest neighborhood of San Francisco. I am not the only transperson at my workplace; so my team mates and customers are savy, respectful, and very understanding. I am still waiting for my chest surgery, and I am not able to always hide the fact that I do not have the typical male chest, and since starting there at the end of January, my voice was cracking for awhile, and is once again, noticeably deeper. There have been several occasions, when I was asked questions that were pertinent, in the moment, related to my transition. They were asked discreetly and very respectfully. The sensitivity shown to me, touches me deeply, and I can feel how much I am cared for and liked. I feel like I am the luckiest guy in the world, and that I could not be in a better place, nor work with a finer bunch of folks.

LoyalWolfsBlade · 07-23-2014, 04:33 PM

I was completely shocked when my nice introduced me to her byfriend as her Uncle Alix still smiling over that one. Maybe there is hope for my bio family yet, well at least the younger generation!

Liam · 07-24-2014, 01:45 PM

Father, writer, and public health consultant, Willy Wilkinson was the Transgender Law Center's, Claire Skiffington's Vanguard Awardee for 2014. I've had the pleasure of meeting Willy several times, and I have personally benefited greatly from a workshop which he wrote, and continues to add to, called the Trans Employment Empowerment Initiative, which is offered through The (LGBQT) Center in collaboration with TransThrive. One of the many reasons why I am happy to be living in San Francisco.

Recently, Willy alerted BABOYZ (Bay Area Boyz, an email group, which is a resource for transmen in the Bay Area, notifying members of news, events, and resources, relevant to transmen, as well as a venue for transmen to ask other transmen questions,) of an OP-ED piece that appeared in the Advocate this month, written by his wife.

"Check out my amazing wife Georgia Kolias' article in the Advocate about accepting my gender transformation. I love her brave, authentic voice about the complexities of being a lesbian married to a trans man."

http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2...transformation

In a later BABOYZ's email, it was shared that there was a Call for Submissions by Transgress Press, and to please let our partners know about it.

"Letters from Our Partners", inspired by "Letters for My Brothers", is an anthology of Letters written by partners to their trans* partner about their experience being partnered with a trans* person.

http://www.transgresspress.org/2013/...-our-partners/

Deadline has been extended. Email editor (on call page via link above) to get exact date.

Some of you might be familiar with "Letters for My Brothers", a book whose contributors included several members from our site.

I wanted to share this information, since this seems to be a persistent topic in my world, and on more than one occasion, an ongoing dialog which I have had with my partners, who identified as lesbians and femmes.

BestButchBoy · 10-19-2014, 08:58 AM

Unfortunately, I did not see this. You? I'm always happy to see something positive and mainstream out there about the lgbT community. I believe it helps to mitigate ignorance, which in turn, helps to mitigate fear. The antithesis to love and acceptance, of oneself and others. Cheers for Queers!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/1...n_5998692.html

tantalizingfemme · 11-19-2014, 06:20 AM

http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/1...-trans181114-0

Kelt · 12-02-2014, 11:16 PM

The New Face of Transgender Youth

Katie Couric interviews "Jazz"

LeftWriteFemme · 02-07-2015, 06:12 PM

BestButchBoy · 04-26-2015, 06:11 AM

For me, the thing that eliminates fear and ignorance is education and what could be considered mainstream exposure to groups of diverse people and experiences. As such, I'm thrilled and excited to see progress in the transgendered community and how some industries [like the fashion industry, performing arts, for instance...] are putting it out there for the whole world. I know if this were all available to, and witnessed by me, when I was a youth, it would have had a long-lasting and positive effect. I mean, the cover of Vogue still has a lot of cachet and it is broadly and internationally viewed as an accepted publication of fashion and advertising authority.

Cheers for Queers!

http://www.vogue.com/13253741/andrej...sgender-model/

12-10-2013, 07:22 AM	#2
BestButchBoy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Male ID Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,925 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 406 Thanked 5,450 Times in 2,037 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	BumpING... Bump up the positive thinking, posting, sharing, being.

12-10-2013, 10:20 AM	#3
Liam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 2,269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,865 Thanked 6,876 Times in 1,861 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I am attending a three week/six session empowerment workshop for trans folk. My co-attendees range in age from young to old, with those preferring male, female and gender neutral pronouns. I am honored to hear their stories, and they inspire me to continue to be out as a trans man. Forty years ago I could see the importance of being out, believing that the stigma attached to being queer would lose its weight and there would be more acceptance for lesbians and gay men. I've witnessed the truth of this in my lifetime, and while not everyone may embrace the rainbow family, enough do, to make it feel safer to be queer. So I have put aside my fear once again, to say to the world, this is who I am, and it is okay to be me. __________________ <3 Love is weird.

12-11-2013, 12:30 AM	#5
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Actually you read it right but I worded it wrong. Blame it on my grieving process for the lose. What I should have said that there is a good chance that on Thursday I will have to stop taking T due to a medical side effect. They found tumors on both of my andrino glands while I was in the hospital for phenomena. However I also found out yesterday that my sister has the same thing so it could be genetic and not T related. I apologize for the wording but that is how it feels after such a long fight to finally get to start my transition. However, as Liam and Lady Pamela reminded me it is not the T that makes me who I am or the man I am. I just am. Granted the T helps in a lot of ways I can't even explain. Still though it is good to have friends like Liam and Lady Pamela that remind me of the truth. As for the restroom it hasn't been resolved yet but that was bcs I pulled a 24 hr night and didn't make it to school. I am not to worried about the outcome especially since in one month my government id will state that I am legally a male. T or no T Besides the school is being really good about everything to this point. We will see. __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

02-12-2014, 07:48 AM	#8
BestButchBoy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Male ID Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,925 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 406 Thanked 5,450 Times in 2,037 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Thank you Bruce Weber and Barney's New York http://www.nowness.com/media/embedvi...6&issueid=2765 Watch this trans-positive ad campaign for Barney's New York done by Bruce Weber. Great piece.

05-31-2014, 07:39 AM	#9
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12-09-2013, 07:43 PM	#1
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	You know it still surprises me how accepting this area is. More so how wonderful my college has been and is being when it comes to anything relating to me being an open and out transgender pre op FtM. I finally had to have the bathroom talk with student services today. I was having difficulty with some individuals when I used one of the two men's rooms so at the time I choose to do everything possible not to use the restroom ay school. You know one of those puck your battles situations. After all I will not be going there four years. Well I was reminded Friday that my bladder shrinks to the size of a pea in the winter and recalling the hassles from last semester I used the woman's room hoping it was empty. I feel bad for the woman that was in there bcs I scared the shit out of her. Hell if I was a woman and someone that looked like me walk into the restroom I would have been scared to. So I decided it was time to take the issue to the decision makers today. I sure didn't want to scare anyone or put up with harassment I didn't have to. The woman in student services was wonderful. Of course she couldn't make any decisions but I knew she would know the rest of the steps and people. So she listened and made sure I hadn't experienced anything hateful then took me to the first in line for these things. She did all the talking referred to me in all the proper pro nouns and other terms. Then again she has been wonderful in her treatment to me since I started school. I don't even mind it when she refers to me as the schools test subject jokingly. It was decided the campus president would have to handle this issue. So I have to talk to him tomorrow mainly because he wants to hear first hand about the incidents that occurred when I attempted to use the men's room and to get my input on how to handle it. Again he has always been great with me and very respectful so I am not to worried about it. I guess I am still amazed by the responces because it is so drastic from what I would have gotten back home. Doesn't hurt that my T has helped my responces to these things at least that's what I give the credit to for my more rational thinking and calmer approach to things. Let's hope I don't loose the right to take it on Thursday and if I do these are two of the things I get to keep from having used T.

12-14-2013, 08:01 PM	#6
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	Eh, things happen. I hope that you can continue to take T, though. I know that I would not do well, at least right now, if I were forced to stop taking my hormones. I don't know for sure how that I would handle it, but I do know that I would be obtaining an orchidectomy ( This op removes the testicles, so that the body doesn't produce testosterone anymore, well, not much, anyhow.) immediately, if not sooner. I'd have to manage it, somehow, as I absolutely refuse to allow my system to go back to the way that it was. Liam and Lady Pamela are right, you ARE a man, regardless of whether you are on T or not. Hang in there! HUGS

12-29-2013, 10:27 AM	#7
Bad_boi Member How Do You Identify?: Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status: Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle Posts: 727 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 0	I forgot to mention that I got Christmas cards with my real name on them I swear seeing that my name is legally my name never gets old

06-01-2014, 09:59 PM	#10
Liam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 2,269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,865 Thanked 6,876 Times in 1,861 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I am blessed to live on the edge of/and work in the gayest neighborhood of San Francisco. I am not the only transperson at my workplace; so my team mates and customers are savy, respectful, and very understanding. I am still waiting for my chest surgery, and I am not able to always hide the fact that I do not have the typical male chest, and since starting there at the end of January, my voice was cracking for awhile, and is once again, noticeably deeper. There have been several occasions, when I was asked questions that were pertinent, in the moment, related to my transition. They were asked discreetly and very respectfully. The sensitivity shown to me, touches me deeply, and I can feel how much I am cared for and liked. I feel like I am the luckiest guy in the world, and that I could not be in a better place, nor work with a finer bunch of folks. __________________ <3 Love is weird.

07-23-2014, 04:33 PM	#11
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I was completely shocked when my nice introduced me to her byfriend as her Uncle Alix still smiling over that one. Maybe there is hope for my bio family yet, well at least the younger generation! __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

07-24-2014, 01:45 PM	#12
Liam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 2,269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,865 Thanked 6,876 Times in 1,861 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Father, writer, and public health consultant, Willy Wilkinson was the Transgender Law Center's, Claire Skiffington's Vanguard Awardee for 2014. I've had the pleasure of meeting Willy several times, and I have personally benefited greatly from a workshop which he wrote, and continues to add to, called the Trans Employment Empowerment Initiative, which is offered through The (LGBQT) Center in collaboration with TransThrive. One of the many reasons why I am happy to be living in San Francisco. Recently, Willy alerted BABOYZ (Bay Area Boyz, an email group, which is a resource for transmen in the Bay Area, notifying members of news, events, and resources, relevant to transmen, as well as a venue for transmen to ask other transmen questions,) of an OP-ED piece that appeared in the Advocate this month, written by his wife. "Check out my amazing wife Georgia Kolias' article in the Advocate about accepting my gender transformation. I love her brave, authentic voice about the complexities of being a lesbian married to a trans man." http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2...transformation In a later BABOYZ's email, it was shared that there was a Call for Submissions by Transgress Press, and to please let our partners know about it. "Letters from Our Partners", inspired by "Letters for My Brothers", is an anthology of Letters written by partners to their trans* partner about their experience being partnered with a trans* person. http://www.transgresspress.org/2013/...-our-partners/ Deadline has been extended. Email editor (on call page via link above) to get exact date. Some of you might be familiar with "Letters for My Brothers", a book whose contributors included several members from our site. I wanted to share this information, since this seems to be a persistent topic in my world, and on more than one occasion, an ongoing dialog which I have had with my partners, who identified as lesbians and femmes. __________________ <3 Love is weird.

10-19-2014, 08:58 AM	#13
BestButchBoy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Male ID Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,925 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 406 Thanked 5,450 Times in 2,037 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Unfortunately, I did not see this. You? I'm always happy to see something positive and mainstream out there about the lgbT community. I believe it helps to mitigate ignorance, which in turn, helps to mitigate fear. The antithesis to love and acceptance, of oneself and others. Cheers for Queers! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/1...n_5998692.html

11-19-2014, 06:20 AM	#14
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12-02-2014, 11:16 PM	#15
Kelt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Beach Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: SoCal Posts: 2,751 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19,765 Thanked 15,301 Times in 2,539 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	The New Face of Transgender Youth Katie Couric interviews "Jazz"

02-07-2015, 06:12 PM	#16
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04-26-2015, 06:11 AM	#17
BestButchBoy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Male ID Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,925 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 406 Thanked 5,450 Times in 2,037 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Positivity Spreads For me, the thing that eliminates fear and ignorance is education and what could be considered mainstream exposure to groups of diverse people and experiences. As such, I'm thrilled and excited to see progress in the transgendered community and how some industries [like the fashion industry, performing arts, for instance...] are putting it out there for the whole world. I know if this were all available to, and witnessed by me, when I was a youth, it would have had a long-lasting and positive effect. I mean, the cover of Vogue still has a lot of cachet and it is broadly and internationally viewed as an accepted publication of fashion and advertising authority. Cheers for Queers! http://www.vogue.com/13253741/andrej...sgender-model/