What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

silkepus · 12-28-2013, 01:45 PM

My number one rule in any relationship is to never expect something Im not willing to give.

but non-negotioable things

Respecting and trusting each other

Having that certain sumtin' sumtin' connection.

Sharing a sense of humor is also very important.

They wouldnt have to share all my interests and I dont expect to share all of theirs, but they would have to be accepting and propbably try to take part in them a little and I would do the same for them.

~ocean · 12-28-2013, 02:06 PM

non - negtionalbes

1. my finances are just that MINE ~
2. lies ~ not allowed ~ I 'll end it right there and then ~
3. no physical violence ~

Flynn · 01-09-2014, 05:41 AM

Honesty, faithfulness, committed.

01-09-2014, 05:56 AM

Honesty, open-mindedness and willingness.

fatallyblonde · 01-11-2014, 04:24 AM

I'm trying to decide which of my non negotiables are most important here...
...
1. have your shit together (be employed or otherwise able to support yourself)
2. don't be an abusive jerk (this includes no headgames or drama for the sake of it)
3. be committed, loyal and honest

puddin' · 01-11-2014, 08:19 AM

be real
be kind
be giving

*Anya* · 01-11-2014, 09:11 AM

No fear or defensiveness in hearing the authentic feelings of another.

In turn, talking from the heart, with depth, emotion and vulnerability;

regarding how you are feeling.

Both, without false selves, keeping each others' sharing as gifts and trusting that it was safe to open up.

Sweet Bliss · 01-19-2014, 08:14 PM

omg... Are we looking for a Golden Retriever ?

C0LLETTE · 01-19-2014, 08:26 PM

worship me
adore me
make me laugh

btw I don't think we should pick apart other people's choices here.

kylieluvsart · 01-20-2014, 06:29 AM

hi everyone.
my three and this comes from experience .
complete honesty.
a job stable job.
mentally and emotionally stable
not addicted to anything ...ok it was four.

12-28-2013, 02:06 PM	#2
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01-11-2014, 08:19 AM	#6
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01-11-2014, 09:11 AM	#7
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,445 Times in 7,285 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	No fear or defensiveness in hearing the authentic feelings of another. In turn, talking from the heart, with depth, emotion and vulnerability; regarding how you are feeling. Both, without false selves, keeping each others' sharing as gifts and trusting that it was safe to open up. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

12-28-2013, 01:45 PM	#1
silkepus Member How Do You Identify?: covered in ink and glitter Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: watching pictures of cats on tumblr Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Scandinavia Posts: 382 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 359 Thanked 701 Times in 196 Posts Rep Power: 10186797	My number one rule in any relationship is to never expect something Im not willing to give. but non-negotioable things Respecting and trusting each other Having that certain sumtin' sumtin' connection. Sharing a sense of humor is also very important. They wouldnt have to share all my interests and I dont expect to share all of theirs, but they would have to be accepting and propbably try to take part in them a little and I would do the same for them.

01-09-2014, 05:41 AM	#3
Flynn Timed Out - Identity Issues How Do You Identify?: Timed Out Preferred Pronoun?: He, Sir Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Seattle Posts: 4 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9 Thanked 12 Times in 3 Posts Rep Power: 0	Honesty, faithfulness, committed.

01-09-2014, 05:56 AM	#4
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Honesty, open-mindedness and willingness.

01-11-2014, 04:24 AM	#5
fatallyblonde Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: earth Posts: 446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 770 Times in 181 Posts Rep Power: 7054721	I'm trying to decide which of my non negotiables are most important here... ... 1. have your shit together (be employed or otherwise able to support yourself) 2. don't be an abusive jerk (this includes no headgames or drama for the sake of it) 3. be committed, loyal and honest

01-19-2014, 08:14 PM	#8
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	omg... Are we looking for a Golden Retriever ?

01-19-2014, 08:26 PM	#9
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01-20-2014, 06:29 AM	#10
kylieluvsart Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: i like being called a boi Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Geelong Australia Posts: 2 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5 Thanked 4 Times in 2 Posts Rep Power: 0	hi everyone. my three and this comes from experience . complete honesty. a job stable job. mentally and emotionally stable not addicted to anything ...ok it was four.