Pressure to "prove" yourself?

[Girl_On_Fire]

Originally Posted by Chinajewelry

Yes! It's stupid and backwards.. I'm a femme and no one ever thinks I'm a lesbian. They think it's hard to believe. I end up doing silly and obvious things like wearing rainbows. I don't get noticed by girls, and I'm kinda shy so that sucks!

I can identify with this. I have a rainbow necklace myself. lol! This is sometimes why online dating is so much easier. Still, I get those "you're a lesbian" comments. Well, no I identify as queer but yeah, I'm queer. It's very annoying and condescending especially if some biological man thinks you just haven't met the right one yet.

[Chinajewelry]

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire

It's very annoying and condescending especially if some biological man thinks you just haven't met the right one yet.

Yes! Well put. They think that if they can get us in bed they can prove to us that it's really a man we want. Like, they don't realize how ridiculous that sounds!? Persistent little buggers too haha