The Maturing FtM: Topics on Aging & Wellness

Nadeest · 03-05-2014, 04:09 PM

Discrimination, at that point, is extremely worrisome to me, as well, especially because I have no idea whether I will have had SRS by that point, or not. At the moment, I am a preop MTF, and being forcibly taken off of hormones would be utterly horrendous to me. Nor do I know if I would be forced to live with men or not. That, also, is scary to me. I don't think that I would be able to deal with it, at all.

Corkey · 03-05-2014, 04:19 PM

There is a LGBT older folks housing that just opened in Philly.

*Anya* · 03-05-2014, 05:09 PM

I will never be able to afford to live here when I get old(er) but it is beautiful.

Maybe, as time goes on, there will be more choices, in more budget ranges.

http://fountaingrovelodge.com

Joe Mario · 03-17-2014, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

There is a LGBT older folks housing that just opened in Philly.

Saw that in the news recently, Corkey. Really great!

DapperButch · 03-05-2014, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

Discrimination, at that point, is extremely worrisome to me, as well, especially because I have no idea whether I will have had SRS by that point, or not. At the moment, I am a preop MTF, and being forcibly taken off of hormones would be utterly horrendous to me. Nor do I know if I would be forced to live with men or not. That, also, is scary to me. I don't think that I would be able to deal with it, at all.

Hi, Nadeest. Exactly. You are the type of person I was referring to. When I was in the hospital for surgery some time ago, I was able to be in a private room. I have no idea why my insurance paid for it, but they did.

It would have been hard for me to be with a female and I was planning to pay for it out of pocket, so I did not have to room with a female/anyone. I suspect that for you, being with a male, would have been twice as hard as it would have been for me with a female, as I live my life in the gray already.

I hope (and expect), that things will continue to improve and change and that by the time you (and me/others) come to a place of needing assisted living, that discrimination will have been significantly reduced.

julieisafemme · 03-07-2014, 01:44 PM

Great thread. There are a number of places in California dealing with LGBT seniors.

http://gleh.org

http://openhouse-sf.org

There is also the Village movement across the country where people get together and create a supportive environment to age in.

http://www.vtvnetwork.org

None of them are exclusively LGBT. I think it is a great model though.

I worry a lot about Greyson being in a facility. Openhouse conducts trainings on LGBT cultural competentcy for hospitals and assisted living facilities. This is a great step in helping ensure we get adequate care with diginity. Our interactions with the hospital during his heart surgery were good, but not perfect. The most important thing is to be vocal! Advocate for yourself or assign an advocate for you. I was like a pit bull in the hospital so much so that Greyson had to tell me to simmer down!

I am hoping to work with seniors in my second career. I will certainly be advocating for LGBT people as a queer femme!

Jet · 03-07-2014, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by julieisafemme

Great thread. There are a number of places in California dealing with LGBT seniors.

http://gleh.org

http://openhouse-sf.org

There is also the Village movement across the country where people get together and create a supportive environment to age in.

http://www.vtvnetwork.org

None of them are exclusively LGBT. I think it is a great model though.

I worry a lot about Greyson being in a facility. Openhouse conducts trainings on LGBT cultural competentcy for hospitals and assisted living facilities. This is a great step in helping ensure we get adequate care with diginity. Our interactions with the hospital during his heart surgery were good, but not perfect. The most important thing is to be vocal! Advocate for yourself or assign an advocate for you. I was like a pit bull in the hospital so much so that Greyson had to tell me to simmer down!

I am hoping to work with seniors in my second career. I will certainly be advocating for LGBT people as a queer femme!

Very nice post with great information. Tell Greyson I said hello. He's one of my favorite people.

~baby~doll~ · 03-07-2014, 04:47 PM

i have been dealing with health issues for a number of years already. Six of us live here four upstairs and two downstairs. Three of us are senior citizens. we have gone over finances and legalities with an attorney and accountant.
All looks good until i have run into memory issues and care may be difficult. Long term care is way expensive.
The legal issues are the most important so all of your belongings and partners are protected from so rogue relative. Make sure all of the documentation is in order.
we are not certain which way the wind will blow but have tried to cover all of our bases
There are a number of LGBT facilities in the Chicago area and if that would be the case we could and would move for each other. Nice thread

Joe Mario · 03-17-2014, 09:02 AM

SO glad folks are finding this a useful thread! I am now over 50 and just want an

~> INDEX of RESOURCES<~

in order to get some wellness health testing (like a colonoscopy!) without a bunch of unnecessary awkwardness and drama. I'd also like to find an LGBT-friendly Notary Public for some document changes ( I have access to FREE Notaries, but for same reason as above.)

There are big, new Spa-like hi-tech medical facilities nearby to me, but no list to be found of LGBT-friendly docs. But still I am having to schlep away from where I live and go into the nearest city to the LGBT clinic.

The local LGBT resource indexes here in Philly/NJ have old, stale lists, bad links or no information listed in the category!?

WHAT, did every body MOVE??

Corkey · 03-17-2014, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Joe Mario

SO glad folks are finding this a useful thread! I am now over 50 and just want an

~> INDEX of RESOURCES<~

in order to get some wellness health testing (like a colonoscopy!) without a bunch of unnecessary awkwardness and drama. I'd also like to find an LGBT-friendly Notary Public for some document changes ( I have access to FREE Notaries, but for same reason as above.)

There are big, new Spa-like hi-tech medical facilities nearby to me, but no list to be found of LGBT-friendly docs. But still I am having to schlep away from where I live and go into the nearest city to the LGBT clinic.

The local LGBT resource indexes here in Philly/NJ have old, stale lists, bad links or no information listed in the category!?

WHAT, did every body MOVE??

I leave that question blank. After all an ass is an ass is an ass.

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Joe Mario Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Just a guy Preferred Pronoun?: 'He' will be fine. Relationship Status: happily involved Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 55 Thanked 67 Times in 24 Posts Rep Power: 41800	SO glad folks are finding this a useful thread! I am now over 50 and just want an ~> INDEX of RESOURCES<~ in order to get some wellness health testing (like a colonoscopy!) without a bunch of unnecessary awkwardness and drama. I'd also like to find an LGBT-friendly Notary Public for some document changes ( I have access to FREE Notaries, but for same reason as above.) There are big, new Spa-like hi-tech medical facilities nearby to me, but no list to be found of LGBT-friendly docs. But still I am having to schlep away from where I live and go into the nearest city to the LGBT clinic. The local LGBT resource indexes here in Philly/NJ have old, stale lists, bad links or no information listed in the category!? WHAT, did every body MOVE?? __________________ Ciao, ~Joe Mario Last edited by Joe Mario; 03-17-2014 at 09:03 AM. Reason: info

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Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	Discrimination, at that point, is extremely worrisome to me, as well, especially because I have no idea whether I will have had SRS by that point, or not. At the moment, I am a preop MTF, and being forcibly taken off of hormones would be utterly horrendous to me. Nor do I know if I would be forced to live with men or not. That, also, is scary to me. I don't think that I would be able to deal with it, at all.