Pressure to "prove" yourself?

Chinajewelry · 03-06-2014, 01:22 PM

Pretty much every straight male friend I've had ends up trying to get with me. I thought that they would you know, leave it alone once I told them I'm gay, but nah, In fact, a guy that was my best friend for a time actually tried to persuade me that I was in love with him even though I'm a lesbian.

Like what!? He was all "Don't think of me as a male, just think of me as a person" and he was convinced that it meant I was in love with him because I blushed when he was telling me that he loved me. That took a toll on our friendship needless to say.

TruTexan · 03-06-2014, 02:34 PM

I've never been Asked to prove myself, however I've been postured in real life by someone that ID'd as male and it just left me peeved. Oh come on now what was that, high school, grade school, jeebus. What in the heck? lol
I don't posture back and forth and don't feel the need to prove my butchness to anyone that ID's differently than I do; let alone as a lesbian to my lesbian friends.

Rockinonahigh · 03-06-2014, 03:33 PM

Proving my self has been and issue for a long time,I don't think I need to do that one bit but it seems like I end up doing it anyway even when I don't expect it.
Not long age I was playing a game of 8 ball one of the players on my team said,dam you play just like a man.I just said whatever then wen't on with the game.I offen have the same person holler at the break,break the wrack like a man damit.I just ignore it cause it dosent make me one way or the other.Ignorance is bliss for some people.

03-06-2014, 01:22 PM	#1
Chinajewelry Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Lipstick Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: NM, USA Posts: 14 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 15 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 214761	Guys Pretty much every straight male friend I've had ends up trying to get with me. I thought that they would you know, leave it alone once I told them I'm gay, but nah, In fact, a guy that was my best friend for a time actually tried to persuade me that I was in love with him even though I'm a lesbian. Like what!? He was all "Don't think of me as a male, just think of me as a person" and he was convinced that it meant I was in love with him because I blushed when he was telling me that he loved me. That took a toll on our friendship needless to say.

03-06-2014, 02:34 PM	#2
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,266 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've never been Asked to prove myself, however I've been postured in real life by someone that ID'd as male and it just left me peeved. Oh come on now what was that, high school, grade school, jeebus. What in the heck? lol I don't posture back and forth and don't feel the need to prove my butchness to anyone that ID's differently than I do; let alone as a lesbian to my lesbian friends. __________________

03-06-2014, 03:33 PM	#3
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Proving my self has been and issue for a long time,I don't think I need to do that one bit but it seems like I end up doing it anyway even when I don't expect it. Not long age I was playing a game of 8 ball one of the players on my team said,dam you play just like a man.I just said whatever then wen't on with the game.I offen have the same person holler at the break,break the wrack like a man damit.I just ignore it cause it dosent make me one way or the other.Ignorance is bliss for some people.