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BullDog · 03-14-2014, 07:56 AM

I personally am happy that people don't ever seem to assume I am straight. I am a walking stereotype, lol, but it does suit me. I have been out with straight woman friends where people assumed we were a couple and also femme friends as well.

I think the hospital staff is trying to be considerate of a lesbian couple, even though you aren't one. Much better than kicking you out.

But yes, it is interesting...

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

I personally am happy that people don't ever seem to assume I am straight. I am a walking stereotype, lol, but it does suit me. I have been out with straight woman friends where people assumed we were a couple and also femme friends as well.

I think the hospital staff is trying to be considerate of a lesbian couple, even though you aren't one. Much better than kicking you out.

But yes, it is interesting...

Why do you think that happens? I don't get it. But some Femmes I've dated really liked being outed by my appearance.

Also, Medical hospital workers have been very nice to me, about my gender stuff and nice to my various girlfriends.
The psych hospital doctors were less friendly.. My Crazy Boxers

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

Why do you think that happens? I don't get it. But some Femmes I've dated really liked being outed by my appearance.

Also, Medical hospital workers have been very nice to me, about my gender stuff and nice to my various girlfriends.
The psych hospital doctors were less friendly.. My Crazy Boxers

Well, it's nice to be seen. It's a relief. It's less smothering. It can be really depressing at times to be always seen as something you are not. The having to take the deep breath and correct people can be... Awkward at best and gladiatorial at worst. So it's nice to not have to have that conversation, for once, to be seen. Having a butchdyke accessory is something I have occasionally pondered. They make great purses too, with the whole "trousers that have pockets thing." My exwife was a very fashionable purse. She was like Gok Wan.

That film was hilarious/painful. If she was playing a therapist, she did quite well!

Perhaps it was that they were worn over tights with a blanket as a cape?

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

Well, it's nice to be seen. It's a relief. It's less smothering. It can be really depressing at times to be always seen as something you are not. The having to take the deep breath and correct people can be... Awkward at best and gladiatorial at worst. So it's nice to not have to have that conversation, for once, to be seen. Having a butchdyke accessory is something I have occasionally pondered. They make great purses too, with the whole "trousers that have pockets thing." My exwife was a very fashionable purse. She was like Gok Wan.

That film was hilarious/painful. If she was playing a therapist, she did quite well!

Perhaps it was that they were worn over tights with a blanket as a cape?

Thanks for watching the video!

i am glad to carry things for a lady- this winter though, everyone had 15 inches of polar fleece padding and pockets all around, so instead of holding cute sparkly clutch purses for Femmes,, I was more of a mobile coat rack.

I'm looking forward to spring, when there is more flesh, animal prints, and more impractical shoes to be appreciated.

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 07:55 PM

Yer a very refreshing type... Have you thought about cloning?

homoe · 10-29-2015, 06:01 PM

I don't have pictures but I've been told I have very nice hands! And yes, I even buff my nails from time to time!

Domonic · 11-22-2015, 11:27 PM

This looks like a fun place for my first post. Hello all!

DapperButch · 03-14-2014, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

Why do you think that happens? I don't get it. But some Femmes I've dated really liked being outed by my appearance.

If you were male, they would assume you were straight and that you were her husband or boyfriend. You "look like a lesbian", which tells them you date women. Just like if you were male, this makes you romantically attached to your friend.

People don't get that people who could be attracted to each other could just be friends.

You haven't experienced this before?

I find it very logical.

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

If you were male, they would assume you were straight and that you were her husband or boyfriend. You "look like a lesbian", which tells them you date women. Just like if you were male, this makes you romantically attached to your friend.

People don't get that people who could be attracted to each other could just be friends.

You haven't experienced this before?

I find it very logical.

It's weirder than that. Maybe it's NYC but people are near one another all the time. In my experience a gay man walking near a straight man doesn't generate the same assumptions abour the nature of their relationship. And an out non-butch lesbian doesnt confer lesbian status on the people she's walking near.

It is kind of hot in an old-school way- that I'm seen as a butch predator and a person capable of recruiting to a sinful lifestyle. I like it.
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imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 04:06 PM

That's true. If I'm wearing something girly and I'm with a bloke my age they assume we are partners.
If I was with my exwife they assumed she was my son. That used to crack her the fuck up and have me huff off....

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