Poly-friendly mingling/flirting thread

WingsOnFire · 05-17-2014, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

We need to get together...

MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...

Okkkkkkkkkk will do

DaddyNik12 · 05-17-2014, 05:49 PM

opens door and pokes head inside and waves to everyone *

RockOn · 05-18-2014, 09:51 PM

I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

Thanks.

candy_coated_bitch · 05-18-2014, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by RockOn

I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

Thanks.

I'd definitely recommend The Ethical Slut. I think it's very accessible for someone new to polyamory, or for someone who is just curious. I haven't really read any other books about it, so I couldn't really say. I did a quick glance at what came up on Amazon and I didn't recognize even one other book I've heard other people talk about, let alone read myself.

There are as many ways to be poly as there are to be a Butch or a Femme. It's kinda just what works for you and your partner(s). That's probably a process if you've never tried it before. I know a lot of people in the kinky world who are poly and I can say I have seen many different ways of structuring (or not structuring) poly relationships. If you asked a hundred people what poly means you'd get a hundred different definitions, as they like to say.

For me personally--my partner identifies as poly and I don't and we had to do a LOT of negotiating until we could get to a place where we both felt we were getting what we needed. I think for us the most important part was to be able to figure out and name what each of our core needs was.

anaisninja · 05-18-2014, 10:45 PM

I second the endorsement for The Ethical Slut. I also recommend Opening Up by Tristan Taormino.

RockOn · 05-19-2014, 04:16 AM

candy _ coated _ bitch and anaisninja:

Thanks to both of you for your valuable replies.

Ms. Meander · 05-19-2014, 06:23 AM

Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
is an excellent resource!

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