Poly-friendly mingling/flirting thread - Page 6

anaisninja · 03-15-2014, 12:12 AM

Hi, I'm Anne. I'm in Seattle.

uniquetobeme · 05-08-2014, 11:50 AM

Hi Anne and everyone. I'm Rebecca and my partner and I live near DC. Hope everyone is enjoying this Spring weather!

Mel C. · 05-08-2014, 06:47 PM

I'm too tired to flirt, but mingling would be nice!

JustLovelyJenn · 05-08-2014, 07:56 PM

I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.

SleepyButch · 05-08-2014, 11:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.

It's like riding a bicycle. If you haven't taken the bike out for awhile, it might be a little rusty. But get it going again and it will come back to you naturally.

Good luck!

WingsOnFire · 05-16-2014, 10:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.

I hear ya sissy!! Be good to yourself and give yourself confidence. I too am struggling with feeling confident but I am working on it daily . Love ya!

Mel C. · 05-16-2014, 12:10 PM

I find unwanted challenge in meeting like-minded (or open-minded) people. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

RockOn · 05-16-2014, 02:33 PM

Hi Everyone,

I have not done any reading here until now but something different came into my mind about a week or two ago ... I had not ever considered or given any thought to poly type relationships before now. At this point, I honestly don't know much about developing guidelines or what they are ... well f* ck, being direct always seems better for me so let me simply say I know nothing about this and how the general poly community goes about things.

I think the best thing I can do is come here and educate myself by reading your posts ...

Thanks.

From someone who is sitting on the fence.

JustLovelyJenn · 05-17-2014, 12:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WingsOnFire

I hear ya sissy!! Be good to yourself and give yourself confidence. I too am struggling with feeling confident but I am working on it daily . Love ya!

We need to get together...

MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...

WingsOnFire · 05-17-2014, 05:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

We need to get together...

MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...

Okkkkkkkkkk will do

DaddyNik12 · 05-17-2014, 05:49 PM

opens door and pokes head inside and waves to everyone *

RockOn · 05-18-2014, 09:51 PM

I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

Thanks.

candy_coated_bitch · 05-18-2014, 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RockOn

I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

Thanks.

I'd definitely recommend The Ethical Slut. I think it's very accessible for someone new to polyamory, or for someone who is just curious. I haven't really read any other books about it, so I couldn't really say. I did a quick glance at what came up on Amazon and I didn't recognize even one other book I've heard other people talk about, let alone read myself.

There are as many ways to be poly as there are to be a Butch or a Femme. It's kinda just what works for you and your partner(s). That's probably a process if you've never tried it before. I know a lot of people in the kinky world who are poly and I can say I have seen many different ways of structuring (or not structuring) poly relationships. If you asked a hundred people what poly means you'd get a hundred different definitions, as they like to say.

For me personally--my partner identifies as poly and I don't and we had to do a LOT of negotiating until we could get to a place where we both felt we were getting what we needed. I think for us the most important part was to be able to figure out and name what each of our core needs was.

anaisninja · 05-18-2014, 10:45 PM

I second the endorsement for The Ethical Slut. I also recommend Opening Up by Tristan Taormino.

RockOn · 05-19-2014, 04:16 AM

candy _ coated _ bitch and anaisninja:

Thanks to both of you for your valuable replies.

Ms. Meander · 05-19-2014, 06:23 AM

Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
is an excellent resource!

JustLovelyJenn · 05-26-2014, 04:18 AM

*stops by to wave at people and skips back out*

canadianmusician · 05-27-2014, 12:20 AM

Queer, poly, kinky transguy here.

I agree that Opening Up is a wonderful book!

Cole · 05-27-2014, 11:35 PM

Hi Y'all!

Currently single and open to poly relationships. Have been in poly relationships in the past and have found that I am much happier when I am not monogamous.

Mel C. · 05-27-2014, 11:40 PM

Welcome...seems kinda quiet in here but maybe if we keep bumping the thread it will perk people up

05-08-2014, 11:50 AM	#102
uniquetobeme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: In an awesome relationship Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 98 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 464 Thanked 306 Times in 85 Posts Rep Power: 2537685	Hi Anne and everyone. I'm Rebecca and my partner and I live near DC. Hope everyone is enjoying this Spring weather! __________________ Unique

05-08-2014, 07:56 PM	#104
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,991 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old. __________________ --Jenn

05-17-2014, 05:49 PM	#111
DaddyNik12 Member How Do You Identify?: Butch/Domme Preferred Pronoun?: Sir Relationship Status: still searching for ms right Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Indiana Posts: 580 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 515 Thanked 1,508 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 14895927	opens door and pokes head inside and waves to everyone * __________________ people with sharp tounges , cut thier own throat !! smirk*

05-19-2014, 06:23 AM	#116
Ms. Meander Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Relationship Status: Ethical Nonmonogamist Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Mountains Posts: 1,520 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,706 Thanked 5,211 Times in 1,147 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino is an excellent resource! __________________ My wish for you is that you continue. Continue to be who and how you are, to astonish a mean world with your acts of kindness. Continue to allow humor to lighten the burden of your tender heart. - Maya Angelou

05-26-2014, 04:18 AM	#117
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,991 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	stops by to wave at people and skips back out __________________ --Jenn

03-15-2014, 12:12 AM	#101
anaisninja Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: . Posts: 117 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 167 Thanked 486 Times in 93 Posts Rep Power: 6064352	Hi, I'm Anne. I'm in Seattle.

05-08-2014, 06:47 PM	#103
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I'm too tired to flirt, but mingling would be nice!

05-16-2014, 12:10 PM	#107
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I find unwanted challenge in meeting like-minded (or open-minded) people. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

05-16-2014, 02:33 PM	#108
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Hi Everyone, I have not done any reading here until now but something different came into my mind about a week or two ago ... I had not ever considered or given any thought to poly type relationships before now. At this point, I honestly don't know much about developing guidelines or what they are ... well f* ck, being direct always seems better for me so let me simply say I know nothing about this and how the general poly community goes about things. I think the best thing I can do is come here and educate myself by reading your posts ... Thanks. From someone who is sitting on the fence.

05-18-2014, 09:51 PM	#112
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me? Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with. Thanks.

05-18-2014, 10:45 PM	#114
anaisninja Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: . Posts: 117 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 167 Thanked 486 Times in 93 Posts Rep Power: 6064352	I second the endorsement for The Ethical Slut. I also recommend Opening Up by Tristan Taormino.

05-19-2014, 04:16 AM	#115
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	candy _ coated _ bitch and anaisninja: Thanks to both of you for your valuable replies.

05-27-2014, 12:20 AM	#118
canadianmusician Junior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: Him/He/His Relationship Status: Poly & D/s Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Vancouver Posts: 47 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25 Thanked 63 Times in 29 Posts Rep Power: 430180	Queer, poly, kinky transguy here. I agree that Opening Up is a wonderful book! __________________ The only thing I learned from the tooth fairy is that I can sell my body parts for money.

05-27-2014, 11:35 PM	#119
Cole Member How Do You Identify?: Me Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: May 2014 Location: Over The Rainbow Posts: 130 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 74 Thanked 311 Times in 100 Posts Rep Power: 3607765	Hi Y'all! Currently single and open to poly relationships. Have been in poly relationships in the past and have found that I am much happier when I am not monogamous.

05-27-2014, 11:40 PM	#120
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Welcome...seems kinda quiet in here but maybe if we keep bumping the thread it will perk people up