Instant Turn-Offs

[Kobi]

Biggest turn off for me is having never-ending lists of turn offs because:

1. It denies the reality of being imperfect human beings.

2. It takes away from the quirkiness and individuality of people expressing their diversity in their own way.

3. It indicates people should fit a check off list of what pleases each of us, rather than just accepting who they are.

4. It adds negativity to the world which seems to need a good healthy dose of positivity.

[Martina]

Well, I think you ought to know what you want and what you can and can't put up with. What's the value of all this experience if it isn't to learn from and prevent yourself from wasting time and hurting yours and others' feelings?

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, I think you ought to know what you want and what you can and can't put up with. What's the value of all this experience if it isn't to learn from and prevent yourself from wasting time and hurting yours and others' feelings?

Indeed, it behooves one to know oneself well.

Sometimes, it also behooves one to take a step back and ponder. Sometimes, some things we dislike is likeable with the right person. Sometimes, what we like can be horrific with the wrong person.

Sometimes we might need to think about whether we are seeking a real, live, imperfect human being, or if we are seeking an inanimate cardboard cut out of <insertpreferencehere> embedded in our fantasies.

And, I appreciate you raising this existential concept without rearranging my parts. I can see I am still growing on you and have graduated from "like mold on wet sheet rock", to "a mere allergen tickling your nose".

[Martina]

Originally Posted by Kobi

And, I appreciate you raising this existential concept without rearranging my parts. I can see I am still growing on you and have graduated from "like mold on wet sheet rock", to "a mere allergen tickling your nose".

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[candy_coated_bitch]

Originally Posted by Kobi

And, I appreciate you raising this existential concept without rearranging my parts. I can see I am still growing on you and have graduated from "like mold on wet sheet rock", to "a mere allergen tickling your nose".

I find both mold on wet sheet rocks AND allergens tickling my nose instant turn offs.

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

I find both mold on wet sheet rocks AND allergens tickling my nose instant turn offs.

So much for the candy coating.


And now, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

[Girl_On_Fire]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Biggest turn off for me is having never-ending lists of turn offs because:

1. It denies the reality of being imperfect human beings.

2. It takes away from the quirkiness and individuality of people expressing their diversity in their own way.

3. It indicates people should fit a check off list of what pleases each of us, rather than just accepting who they are.

4. It adds negativity to the world which seems to need a good healthy dose of positivity.

This thread was not started with the intent to put anyone down or ask others to come up with a 20-page laundry list of faults other people have that they can't abide.

However, there is something to be said for knowing what you can and can't put up with. Some habits, attitudes, etc. are simply deal-breakers, even if the person can't help it.

Even I have been a bit taken aback by some of what I've read on here because the poster is not only describing traits I have, but traits I can't help or "fix" (and some of them, I wouldn't necessarily want to). Still, it's better to know these things up front before investing any time in a relationship that is destined for failure.


I think it's a good idea to be clear both about what does it for you and what doesn't so you can select a mate that best matches you, rather than suffering in silence with someone who really does have 20-plus unacceptable qualities or habits that you can't stand because you've decided to settle.

[Charmingbutch21]

Smoking (Cigarettes, not as in being smoking hot or the very attractive type of smoking)

[MysticOceansFL]

Just one word , Dishonesty

[Teddybear]

Ppl who think they can bully the other person into whatever they want
Ppl who cant take thank you but NO thanks
Ppl who r so into themselves
Ppl who say one thing but are another

Omg i could keep on

[starryeyes]

Lacking self confidence
Not able to carry an intelligent conversation
Passive
Pessimistic
Boring
Jealous
Not willing to take risks
Can't laugh
Hung up on the past
Not self-sufficient
No goals, ambitions or dreams
Not a sushi fan
Doesn't treat my dogs well
Doesn't treat me like a lady