The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Jet · 11-20-2009, 01:26 PM

I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

Apocalipstic · 11-20-2009, 01:30 PM

Nahhh, lots of oldies here

I love being 46 though, nothing to prove.

Jet · 11-20-2009, 01:34 PM

You're way young....

Apocalipstic · 11-20-2009, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

You're way young....

Yeah, an infant!

Apocalipstic · 11-20-2009, 02:38 PM

Seriously though, so many of my friends have always been younger but I am pretty settled now and don't party like I once did. I do feel very old in some ways. My immediate circle of friends is changing radically.

I find myself more and more wanting to be home in front of the fireplace with my honey and our dogs and kitties, I never imagined I would reach an age where I would rather eat dirt than go out. The only time I have more than 2 cocktails is at family stuff...and I consider that medicinal...ha.

Last weekend, we actually went to a bar with a friend, and as soon as the crowd lumbered in, we went home. It was 9:30. Yep. There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...though who can afford that and a house now?

Anyone else see a change in things you enjoy and friendships as you age?

Kimbo · 11-20-2009, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Seriously though, so many of my friends have always been younger but I am pretty settled now and don't party like I once did. I do feel very old in some ways. My immediate circle of friends is changing radically.

I find myself more and more wanting to be home in front of the fireplace with my honey and our dogs and kitties, I never imagined I would reach an age where I would rather eat dirt than go out. The only time I have more than 2 cocktails is at family stuff...and I consider that medicinal...ha.

Last weekend, we actually went to a bar with a friend, and as soon as the crowd lumbered in, we went home. It was 9:30. Yep. There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...though who can afford that and a house now?

Anyone else see a change in things you enjoy and friendships as you age?

Many many changes, things I notice are about the same as yours. Staying up til midnight is a late night, and I cracked up when I visited my best friend of 30 years recently and he said "no drinking on a work night".

I really enjoy staying home. Now the big change for me is to move, had the economy not tanked I would of done it by now. My bones need warmth and sun...the cold, damp Seattle winters have run their course with me.

I'm sure I'll be back with more but right now I've gotta take a nap..hehe

Lady Jewel · 11-20-2009, 09:59 PM

Hey all

I am 48 and would not change all the years of experience to be young again for all the money in the world. I am in place where I know who I am, where I am going and really like myself.

Jewel

HumV4me · 11-20-2009, 10:06 PM

~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as **G-Ma**.

And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair.

LOL

I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening.

I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do.

Jet · 11-20-2009, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...

God I remember those days.

Lady Jewel · 11-20-2009, 10:04 PM

I think I got very lucky and pretty much avoided the bar life. And for sure at my age, I have zero interest in it.

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

God I remember those days.

Jude · 01-27-2010, 09:03 PM

Got you all beat. I'm in my 60s. I was exclusively gay well into my late 20s and then opted for marriage in order to have chidlren. Needless to say, the marriage didn't work out, but I have two lovely, brilliant grown daughters who are good people. Replaced the husband with an 8 lb. shih tzu named Lucy. Guess I am well over the hill. My concepts of gay life are stuck back in the 60s. I'm told that things have changed. Really grateful to have good health, energy and a quest for adventure. Love overseas travel. Not seeking a romantic interlude at this point. Just a few friends/activity partners. Are there any interesting groups for older lesbians in the Washington, DC area? I don't feel old enough to join anything named "Crones" or "Owls". What do mature lesbians do? Anybody tried purchasing a small condo in FL (or somewhere warm) for winters with any success or is that just asking for more responsibility? Just joined. Nice to be here.

Cowboi · 11-20-2009, 03:01 PM

Oldie here..........

Lizdoyle83dance · 04-21-2019, 06:43 PM

I have dated older since college, when I came out, I find it a lovely dynamic 💃💁🏼‍♀️

JDeere · 04-22-2019, 12:40 AM

Hey lofters!

Soon to be 42!

I had the cootie game as a kid as well as old gi joes.

morningstar55 · 11-21-2009, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

... hell no. ya old fart......

thank u ....... Ol jet. for giving us other old farts a hang out place.... hehe

Jet · 11-21-2009, 12:28 PM

Well hey everybody welcome to the thread...I'm on and off here real fast, getting ready to see the movie Precious. I should say I'm bracing myself for it considering the subject matter and some pretty upsetting scenes.

Y'all have a good day.

Andrew, Jr. · 11-21-2009, 02:56 PM

Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving.

I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat.

Namaste,
Andrew

MysticOceansFL · 07-04-2010, 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving.

I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat.

Namaste,
Andrew

Hello to all who are graciously getting older I am 47 and I think life gets better as you age! and I am a great great Aunte!

Wryly · 07-04-2010, 08:11 AM

Happy Independence Day to all you Americans!

Well - my weekend plans changed - I ended up not going to my SIL's place. Instead I went to the Dyke March in Toronto. Walked around the gay village and saw what was there to be seen. Didn't go into any of the beer tents - I find stuff like that is more fun if you are with a friend. Had a snack and walked around some more. Then I got my eyebrow pierced - which really tired me out so I left Toronto earlier than planned. Damn I'm old!!!
Today I'm going to tidy up the apartment and then go pick my sister up at the train station this afternoon.

My .02 on the younger/older: I've never dated anyone a lot younger than myself - like in their 20s but I would date someone in their late 30s. I am 47.

MysticOceans - I'm a great Auntie too. My brother, who is a year older, is a grandfather.

lipstixgal · 07-04-2010, 08:17 AM

Happy 4th of July to all those celebrating, don't go blowing yourself up with those fireworks. Well for me they are illegal here in this part of NJ but at night I hear people lighting them. Anyway, no plans for me. My family doesn't bother with me so its just me and the dogs!! have a great one..

11-20-2009, 02:38 PM	#5
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Zygote here....:) Seriously though, so many of my friends have always been younger but I am pretty settled now and don't party like I once did. I do feel very old in some ways. My immediate circle of friends is changing radically. I find myself more and more wanting to be home in front of the fireplace with my honey and our dogs and kitties, I never imagined I would reach an age where I would rather eat dirt than go out. The only time I have more than 2 cocktails is at family stuff...and I consider that medicinal...ha. Last weekend, we actually went to a bar with a friend, and as soon as the crowd lumbered in, we went home. It was 9:30. Yep. There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...though who can afford that and a house now? Anyone else see a change in things you enjoy and friendships as you age?

11-20-2009, 10:06 PM	#8
HumV4me Member How Do You Identify?: FEMME Preferred Pronoun?: Honey, Baby, Love, Dearest Relationship Status: in an animal house Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CALIFORNIA Posts: 131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 49 Thanked 75 Times in 34 Posts Rep Power: 100332	~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as G-Ma. And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair. LOL I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening. I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do. __________________ Alicia Ann

11-20-2009, 03:01 PM	#12
Cowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Holding My Red Circle Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,051 Thanked 3,962 Times in 1,230 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Oldie here.......... __________________ Let There Be Cowgirls

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11-20-2009, 01:26 PM	#1
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

11-20-2009, 01:30 PM	#2
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Nahhh, lots of oldies here I love being 46 though, nothing to prove.

11-20-2009, 01:34 PM	#3
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	You're way young....

11-20-2009, 09:59 PM	#7
Lady Jewel Member How Do You Identify?: * Preferred Pronoun?: * Relationship Status: * Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 298 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 120 Thanked 322 Times in 124 Posts Rep Power: 791	Hey all I am 48 and would not change all the years of experience to be young again for all the money in the world. I am in place where I know who I am, where I am going and really like myself. Jewel

01-27-2010, 09:03 PM	#11
Jude Member How Do You Identify?: I'm Fluid (comfortable being me) Preferred Pronoun?: "Hey Jude" Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Bethesda/Chevy Chase (suburbs of Wash DC) Posts: 100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 129 Thanked 146 Times in 55 Posts Rep Power: 104572	Got you all beat. I'm in my 60s. I was exclusively gay well into my late 20s and then opted for marriage in order to have chidlren. Needless to say, the marriage didn't work out, but I have two lovely, brilliant grown daughters who are good people. Replaced the husband with an 8 lb. shih tzu named Lucy. Guess I am well over the hill. My concepts of gay life are stuck back in the 60s. I'm told that things have changed. Really grateful to have good health, energy and a quest for adventure. Love overseas travel. Not seeking a romantic interlude at this point. Just a few friends/activity partners. Are there any interesting groups for older lesbians in the Washington, DC area? I don't feel old enough to join anything named "Crones" or "Owls". What do mature lesbians do? Anybody tried purchasing a small condo in FL (or somewhere warm) for winters with any success or is that just asking for more responsibility? Just joined. Nice to be here.

04-21-2019, 06:43 PM	#13
Lizdoyle83dance Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Ms. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Mar 2018 Location: Vashon Island Posts: 54 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11 Thanked 71 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 1463065	I have dated older since college, when I came out, I find it a lovely dynamic 💃💁🏼‍♀️

11-21-2009, 12:28 PM	#16
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Well hey everybody welcome to the thread...I'm on and off here real fast, getting ready to see the movie Precious. I should say I'm bracing myself for it considering the subject matter and some pretty upsetting scenes. Y'all have a good day.

11-21-2009, 02:56 PM	#17
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving. I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat. Namaste, Andrew

07-04-2010, 08:11 AM	#19
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	Happy Independence Day to all you Americans! Well - my weekend plans changed - I ended up not going to my SIL's place. Instead I went to the Dyke March in Toronto. Walked around the gay village and saw what was there to be seen. Didn't go into any of the beer tents - I find stuff like that is more fun if you are with a friend. Had a snack and walked around some more. Then I got my eyebrow pierced - which really tired me out so I left Toronto earlier than planned. Damn I'm old!!! Today I'm going to tidy up the apartment and then go pick my sister up at the train station this afternoon. My .02 on the younger/older: I've never dated anyone a lot younger than myself - like in their 20s but I would date someone in their late 30s. I am 47. MysticOceans - I'm a great Auntie too. My brother, who is a year older, is a grandfather.

07-04-2010, 08:17 AM	#20
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494761	Happy 4th of July to all those celebrating, don't go blowing yourself up with those fireworks. Well for me they are illegal here in this part of NJ but at night I hear people lighting them. Anyway, no plans for me. My family doesn't bother with me so its just me and the dogs!! have a great one..