Is Living Alone Making You Weird?

[stargazingboi]

It's been a couple years since I lived alone, but I remember it well. I'm not sure if my behavior was actually weird. I mean, why would I close the door to the bathroom...it's not like anyone is there, did I really require additional privacy from my walls or dogs? The same goes with walking around naked (Although, I didn't do that much...I was more of a A Shirt and boxers kind of guy).

I think living alone allows people to fully be who they are without concern of judgment and social politeness (meaning: clothes are required when certain folks are around and germs are not cool to share unless engaging in certain activities)

By the looks of this thread it seems certain behavior is shared by many...so, to me that would be common behavior not weird.

Now, that being said...I have been told for many years that I am eccentric (the polite term for weird). I have habits...I lived with a very strict schedule and in many ways it was ritualistic...this created a calm for my brain and soul. I am still that way on many levels...in my brain I create a schedule for the day and I stick to it unless I absolutely have to veer from it. I have a lot of "quirky" behavior that when others view them raise an eyebrow or make comments. I personally don't find them quirky...but it seems others do because they don't understand the reason behind it.

It's all perspective really...I have lived a different life, with different cultures etc. I meditate, I work out, I pray, I eat certain foods and food combinations because my life experiences. Those things alone could cause someone from a different back ground to view me as weird.

So, am I really weird? and if so was it truly created by my living alone? Maybe, living alone just gave me the room to develop the true me?

Hmmm it's much like the old question: which came first the chicken or the egg?

I may never know...

[cinnamongrrl]

easy:

NO...I was already strange to begin with and I am SOOO ok with that!

[cricket26]

[A. Spectre]

define weird

[cricket26]

Originally Posted by A. Spectre

define weird

to me, weird means anything that makes others uncomfortable...thus my theory if you are alone, it is not weird

does that make any sense at all?

[Smiling]

lol, no; living with someone is what is making me weird.

(lol, I'm just teasing, but as a rule I do tend to do best when I have my own space to which I can retreat). That quiet time helps me to stay less weird, lol; I do have an established baseline of peculiarity that never really dissipates totally, though.

[JoSchmooze]

I had to go back and go through every single post, to see if I was any weirder than anybody else living alone.

Oh I talk to the animals all the time. I threaten to throw them out in the street. Or cut off their college tuition. All the doors are open, or half open because one of the cats hides out in the linen closet in the clothes closet underneath the bed everywhere. The dog tries to make friends with the cats. But the cats just want to have nothing to do with him. So he sits up in my lap and we end up singing together.

As most of you know, I travel quite a bit for my job. So I have a friend who housesits for me. But every week when I come home I have to go through the dishwasher and rinse everything because I think she doesn't clean them enough. Is that weird or is that just my OCD taking over?

I have a closet for what I call my corporate drag, a closet for polo shirts and Hawaiian shirts, a closet for jackets in Arizona for goodness sake's, and a closet for clothes I'll never be able to fit in again. That alone I think is weird.

I try to keep a regular schedule but there are nights of coarse that I don't want to cook. So I opened up the freezer and find something I've already packaged because I don't know how to cook for just myself.

We are who we are truly when we live alone. And who's to say what's normal or weird? Like a friend of mine says it is what it is.......

[cinnamongrrl]

if it is...so what??

I'm only hurting myself....figuratively speaking..

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by A. Spectre

define weird

weird
/wird/

adjective

adjective: weird; comparative adjective: weirder; superlative adjective: weirdest

1. suggesting something supernatural; uncanny.
"the weird crying of a seal"

synonyms: uncanny, eerie, unnatural, supernatural, unearthly, otherworldly, ghostly, mysterious, strange, abnormal, unusual

informal
creepy, spooky, freaky

"weird apparitions"

antonyms: normal

informal
very strange; bizarre.
"a weird coincidence"

synonyms: bizarre, quirky, outlandish, eccentric, unconventional, unorthodox, idiosyncratic, surreal, crazy, peculiar, odd, strange, queer, freakish, zany, madcap, outré

informal
bizarro, wacky, freaky, way-out, offbeat, off the wall, wacko

"a weird sense of humor"

antonyms: conventional

archaic
connected with fate.

noun
Scottisharchaic

noun: weird; plural noun: weirds

1. a person's destiny.

verb
North American informal

verb: weird; 3rd person present: weirds; past tense: weirded; past participle: weirded; gerund or present participle: weirding

1. induce a sense of disbelief or alienation in someone.

[Crow]

Hmmmm?

Well...?

I'm good living alone. I also think I'm a good person to live with. I would prefer to be sharing my life with someone. But I'm good. It does feel weird from time to time.

Sometimes I wonder if I will live alone forever? Better question is would I choose to live with someone again. Getting gun-shy about the possibility of forever. Sometimes living alone is lonely. Then I remember you can be alone even though you are not. That's the loneliest place there is. Rather live alone than feel that again. I'm weird about that now.

So what if I talk to myself on occasion...or to the fish. Or that my black lab and I like to spoon and love talk. Weird? O.K. Cause that will never change.

I liked this definition from an earlier post the best:
present participle: weirding.

Yup...that's what's happening up in here. And I'm cool with that.

[Gemme]

Talking to yourself isn't weird at all.

Answering yourself might be.