What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

AnAwkwardAccident · 08-28-2014, 08:09 PM

1. Compassionate
2. Respectful
3. Intelligent

JDeere · 08-28-2014, 08:58 PM

Open and total communication
Honesty
Respect

If you can't do these three don't bother with me then

kassykit · 08-28-2014, 09:11 PM

Liars, this is a huge one for me. Don't lie, that simple.

You must be honest, compassionate, and kind.

MasterfulButch · 09-09-2014, 05:17 AM

This thread makes for interesting reading.

Some responses are pretty fundamental and were probably clear to us all along. Others we've become aware of through living something else and perhaps offer the most learning contribution for others. For me, my top three of these are:

1. Sexual chemistry - sure you can have a committed, loving friendship but in a relationship I need more. There is so much depth to my personality here, I need to be able to express/explore it with my partner.
2. Value alignment - compatibility on what matters to you. Moral issues. Work ethic etc. E.g. find something of value in the street. Keep it or hand it in?
3. Availability - couples differ on this I know. Some like the joined-at-the-hip approach while others value independence. I need her to be similar to me, to want to spend time with me and also to be available to do so.

Greco · 09-11-2014, 04:37 PM

Intelligence (Spiritual, and Emotional), Healthy in mind, body, spirit, Honesty, Personal Integrity goes without saying. Sensuality, Creativity, Passionate, Compassionate, Resilient, Resourceful all add up to one Stunningly Beautiful Woman. She must love to dance! smiling...hmmm...glasses? oh, yes...and a few other qualities...

Greco

Apocalipstic · 09-11-2014, 07:07 PM

Just 3

Kind
Calm
Consistent

Mel C. · 09-11-2014, 08:36 PM

hmmmm...difficult for me because I keep asking myself "what if"...

1) sense of humor that meshes with mine
2) independence, yet able to show that I am important/wanted
3) good natured (I'm a handful)

08-28-2014, 08:58 PM	#2
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Open and total communication Honesty Respect If you can't do these three don't bother with me then __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

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kassykit Member How Do You Identify?: Just me Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: TN Posts: 160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 115 Thanked 135 Times in 54 Posts Rep Power: 1725536	Liars, this is a huge one for me. Don't lie, that simple. You must be honest, compassionate, and kind. __________________ =kassy= r/t Mishy =Love shared is love doubled.... pain shared is pain cut in half..........share your life with me, and i'll share mine with you...

09-11-2014, 04:37 PM	#5
Greco Senior Member How Do You Identify?: GNC, not Trans, REAL. TIME. ONLY. Preferred Pronoun?: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Relationship Status: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In a good life. Posts: 3,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,160 Thanked 6,616 Times in 2,285 Posts Rep Power: 0	3 and more Intelligence (Spiritual, and Emotional), Healthy in mind, body, spirit, Honesty, Personal Integrity goes without saying. Sensuality, Creativity, Passionate, Compassionate, Resilient, Resourceful all add up to one Stunningly Beautiful Woman. She must love to dance! smiling...hmmm...glasses? oh, yes...and a few other qualities... Greco

09-11-2014, 07:07 PM	#6
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09-09-2014, 05:17 AM	#4
MasterfulButch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Charming the love of my life. Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Here, for now. Posts: 141 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 286 Thanked 598 Times in 125 Posts Rep Power: 9572902	This thread makes for interesting reading. Some responses are pretty fundamental and were probably clear to us all along. Others we've become aware of through living something else and perhaps offer the most learning contribution for others. For me, my top three of these are: 1. Sexual chemistry - sure you can have a committed, loving friendship but in a relationship I need more. There is so much depth to my personality here, I need to be able to express/explore it with my partner. 2. Value alignment - compatibility on what matters to you. Moral issues. Work ethic etc. E.g. find something of value in the street. Keep it or hand it in? 3. Availability - couples differ on this I know. Some like the joined-at-the-hip approach while others value independence. I need her to be similar to me, to want to spend time with me and also to be available to do so.

09-11-2014, 08:36 PM	#7
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	hmmmm...difficult for me because I keep asking myself "what if"... 1) sense of humor that meshes with mine 2) independence, yet able to show that I am important/wanted 3) good natured (I'm a handful)