Waldo's Guide to Being a Singular Sensation

lillith · 11-20-2009, 07:29 PM

I love to eat and cook. I don't mind eating alone, out in public or at home. I am, however, fortunate because I have someone to eat with. He may try to cook, but that is limited to pb&j sandwiches and such (he is 10). But, when there are nights he is hanging out at a friend's house, I cook just the same. I think it is important to cook for yourself. If you can't, then get some take out and do it up like you did. Plate the food, grab something to drink, and eat. I agree it is important to spoil yourself as you would anyone else.

atomiczombie · 11-20-2009, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by lillith

I love to eat and cook. I don't mind eating alone, out in public or at home. I am, however, fortunate because I have someone to eat with. He may try to cook, but that is limited to pb&j sandwiches and such (he is 10). But, when there are nights he is hanging out at a friend's house, I cook just the same. I think it is important to cook for yourself. If you can't, then get some take out and do it up like you did. Plate the food, grab something to drink, and eat. I agree it is important to spoil yourself as you would anyone else.

That's so cool that you have a son.

lillith · 11-23-2009, 11:46 PM

Yeah, I dig him. He is the bestest ever!

Waldo · 12-06-2009, 03:21 PM

Lesson #2

Handling the Holiday Season With Singular Ablomb

Even for me and my bachelor loving ways the holiday season presents a unique challenge. How to gracefully accept or decline all of those invitations to parties where the happily coupled are the norm?

Event triage is the answer. Quickly slice and dice an event for the likely percentage of those going stag. Is it a dinner party? It's likely to be couples. Is it a cocktail party? There's a better than average chance there will be *some* solo folks there.

Once at an event if you find yourself unexpectedly surrounded by couples don't freak out. There are great times to be had with couples and they don't even involve taking your clothes off!

First find the most unlikely looking couple and sidle up to them. Don't you wonder how they got together? Find out! Ask them how they met, who asked who out and more importantly, what was it thaat made them realize they were smitten?

Next find the couple dealing with some turmoil. They aren't hard to find. There's always some couple with barely contained hostility bubbling under the surface. Be a good sport and help to diffuse the situation. Engage one or both of them in a conversation that will help them remember why they are together.

If all else fails there's always the option of leaving early and heading to the local watering hole for a cocktail and flirtation with others who've been in the exact same position as you all night.

Whatever you choose, keep a smile on your face and never let them see you crying into your beer!

la_la · 12-28-2009, 02:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Waldo

Lesson #2

Handling the Holiday Season With Singular Ablomb

Even for me and my bachelor loving ways the holiday season presents a unique challenge. How to gracefully accept or decline all of those invitations to parties where the happily coupled are the norm?

Event triage is the answer. Quickly slice and dice an event for the likely percentage of those going stag. Is it a dinner party? It's likely to be couples. Is it a cocktail party? There's a better than average chance there will be *some* solo folks there.

Once at an event if you find yourself unexpectedly surrounded by couples don't freak out. There are great times to be had with couples and they don't even involve taking your clothes off!

First find the most unlikely looking couple and sidle up to them. Don't you wonder how they got together? Find out! Ask them how they met, who asked who out and more importantly, what was it thaat made them realize they were smitten?

Next find the couple dealing with some turmoil. They aren't hard to find. There's always some couple with barely contained hostility bubbling under the surface. Be a good sport and help to diffuse the situation. Engage one or both of them in a conversation that will help them remember why they are together.

If all else fails there's always the option of leaving early and heading to the local watering hole for a cocktail and flirtation with others who've been in the exact same position as you all night.

Whatever you choose, keep a smile on your face and never let them see you crying into your beer!

Waldo,

Thank you for the wonderful advise. I have been alone for quite a few years now and being in the corporate world for most of it, I have attended many cocktail parties. I actually used the same initial question (how did you meet?) when faced with a couple and it is a wonderful conversation starter however, I have never been bold enough to approach the hostile couple (yes I can spot them too). Perhaps your approach will give me the confidence to approach them the next time I am in the same situation.

Peace,
'iz

12-06-2009, 03:21 PM	#4
Waldo Member How Do You Identify?: Special Snowflake Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Wine Country, Oregon Posts: 470 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22 Thanked 792 Times in 238 Posts Rep Power: 1006288	Lesson #2 Handling the Holiday Season With Singular Ablomb Even for me and my bachelor loving ways the holiday season presents a unique challenge. How to gracefully accept or decline all of those invitations to parties where the happily coupled are the norm? Event triage is the answer. Quickly slice and dice an event for the likely percentage of those going stag. Is it a dinner party? It's likely to be couples. Is it a cocktail party? There's a better than average chance there will be some solo folks there. Once at an event if you find yourself unexpectedly surrounded by couples don't freak out. There are great times to be had with couples and they don't even involve taking your clothes off! First find the most unlikely looking couple and sidle up to them. Don't you wonder how they got together? Find out! Ask them how they met, who asked who out and more importantly, what was it thaat made them realize they were smitten? Next find the couple dealing with some turmoil. They aren't hard to find. There's always some couple with barely contained hostility bubbling under the surface. Be a good sport and help to diffuse the situation. Engage one or both of them in a conversation that will help them remember why they are together. If all else fails there's always the option of leaving early and heading to the local watering hole for a cocktail and flirtation with others who've been in the exact same position as you all night. Whatever you choose, keep a smile on your face and never let them see you crying into your beer! __________________ Perved lately? \| My website \| NEW: lez.org

11-20-2009, 07:29 PM	#1
lillith Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, hey you! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 204 Thanked 688 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 5173241	I love to eat and cook. I don't mind eating alone, out in public or at home. I am, however, fortunate because I have someone to eat with. He may try to cook, but that is limited to pb&j sandwiches and such (he is 10). But, when there are nights he is hanging out at a friend's house, I cook just the same. I think it is important to cook for yourself. If you can't, then get some take out and do it up like you did. Plate the food, grab something to drink, and eat. I agree it is important to spoil yourself as you would anyone else.

11-23-2009, 11:46 PM	#3
lillith Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her, hey you! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 204 Thanked 688 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 5173241	Yeah, I dig him. He is the bestest ever!