Demographics of how we date/partner/be single

Gaige · 10-12-2014, 09:11 PM

Single, not dating, no casual sex. I need an attraction in order to be able to have sex with a femme. And if there is an attraction, I’ll most likely try to date her.

diamondrose · 10-12-2014, 09:36 PM

Committed and monogamous..almost married.

Uli · 10-12-2014, 10:07 PM

I got an error when I tried to answer the poll.

Partnered and monogamish.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-12-2014, 10:31 PM

Uli does monogamish mean you have sex outside the relationship but not emotionally have other relationships? (Non-monogamy rather than poly)

Uli · 10-13-2014, 10:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

Uli does monogamish mean you have sex outside the relationship but not emotionally have other relationships? (Non-monogamy rather than poly)

Yeah, that's pretty much it. It's more a theory than an actual practice at this point, meaning we have created rules around sex outside of our relationship but neither one of us has actually encountered anyone else we wanna get it on with in the past 2 years.

It's a super fun, life-affirming sort of charge of energy when you encounter someone new to whom you feel attracted - I don't see any reason to make that experience 'forbidden' in order to maintain a long-term relationship.

10-13-2014, 10:31 AM

Single, not currently dating, infrequent, opportunistic, casual sex opportunities.

clay · 10-13-2014, 01:03 PM

Partnered & monogamous. Between my previous 15 yr. relationship & my current one, I dated for about 3 years. My 15 yr. relationship ended with her death. For 2 years, I was just lost in the world. It was extrememly difficult to get back out there again. So far as for those 3 years, I wasn't serious about any of them.

I am a serial monogamist anyway.

While dating, I did have casual sex, but only dated one at a time...some longer than others.

starryeyes · 10-14-2014, 08:03 AM

Seeing someone and monogamous

Kätzchen · 10-14-2014, 12:47 PM

Single (for quite some time, now).

Not dating.

Not romantically involved.

Not sexual with anyone.

I am of a monogamous orientation.

I am fussy about who I spend my time with.

It takes time for me to become romantically involved.

'Crush' is not a part of my vocabulary.

Red-Dragon · 10-15-2014, 11:04 AM

single no casual sex tried the casual sex one didnt suite me but for now i'm staying single unless i magicaly find someone when i drive to and from work lol

imperfect_cupcake · 10-15-2014, 12:20 PM

I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous...

That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both.

I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people.

traumaqueen · 10-15-2014, 03:06 PM

Partnered/Married... for all intents and purposes (now that it's basically legal it's really hard to find a day to go down to the clerk's office together!)

It's been about 4 years and this is the first time I've ever lived with a partner and... oddly enough the first relationship that wasn't casual, or started that way. Apparently, we were in it to win it.

Jackpot!

View Poll Results: How do we date/partner/be single?
Single, not dating, not having casual sex	28	29.17%
Single, casual dating/casual sex	8	8.33%
Single, dating one person, no commitments	12	12.50%
Seeing someone/partnered/married - closed relationship - monogamy or polyfidelity	36	37.50%
Seeing people/someone, partnered or married - open relationships- nonmonogamy/polyamory ect	12	12.50%
Voters: 96. You may not vote on this poll

10-13-2014, 01:03 PM	#7
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,666 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Partnered & monogamous. Between my previous 15 yr. relationship & my current one, I dated for about 3 years. My 15 yr. relationship ended with her death. For 2 years, I was just lost in the world. It was extrememly difficult to get back out there again. So far as for those 3 years, I wasn't serious about any of them. I am a serial monogamist anyway. While dating, I did have casual sex, but only dated one at a time...some longer than others. __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

10-14-2014, 08:03 AM	#8
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,050 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Seeing someone and monogamous __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

10-14-2014, 12:47 PM	#9
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: May 2010 Location: @ home with my granddaughter, chosen friends & family. ツ Posts: 16,129 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,541 Thanked 33,556 Times in 10,668 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	I am.... Single (for quite some time, now). Not dating. Not romantically involved. Not sexual with anyone. I am of a monogamous orientation. I am fussy about who I spend my time with. It takes time for me to become romantically involved. 'Crush' is not a part of my vocabulary. __________________ “Evil flourishes in darkness, Corruption flourishes in secrecy,” ~Attorney’s for the Epstein Sex Abuse Survivors.

10-15-2014, 03:06 PM	#12
traumaqueen Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: that grrl Relationship Status: happily occupied and awfully engaged. Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Colorado (Mountainy) Posts: 265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 619 Thanked 732 Times in 236 Posts Rep Power: 5586926	Partnered/Married... for all intents and purposes (now that it's basically legal it's really hard to find a day to go down to the clerk's office together!) It's been about 4 years and this is the first time I've ever lived with a partner and... oddly enough the first relationship that wasn't casual, or started that way. Apparently, we were in it to win it. Jackpot! __________________

10-12-2014, 09:11 PM	#1
Gaige Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: above my boots Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 3,755 Times in 1,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Single, not dating, no casual sex. I need an attraction in order to be able to have sex with a femme. And if there is an attraction, I’ll most likely try to date her.

10-12-2014, 09:36 PM	#2
diamondrose Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: . Posts: 1,384 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 2,895 Times in 923 Posts Rep Power: 13536274	Committed and monogamous..almost married.

10-12-2014, 10:07 PM	#3
Uli Member How Do You Identify?: fat girl Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: - Posts: 112 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 173 Thanked 529 Times in 104 Posts Rep Power: 3865493	I got an error when I tried to answer the poll. Partnered and monogamish.

10-12-2014, 10:31 PM	#4
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Uli does monogamish mean you have sex outside the relationship but not emotionally have other relationships? (Non-monogamy rather than poly)

10-13-2014, 10:31 AM	#6
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Single, not currently dating, infrequent, opportunistic, casual sex opportunities.

10-15-2014, 11:04 AM	#10
Red-Dragon Member How Do You Identify?: just me Preferred Pronoun?: hym/dude/him/bro Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Alberta Posts: 139 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 87 Times in 35 Posts Rep Power: 447654	single no casual sex tried the casual sex one didnt suite me but for now i'm staying single unless i magicaly find someone when i drive to and from work lol

10-15-2014, 12:20 PM	#11
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous... That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both. I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people.