Demographics of how we date/partner/be single

imperfect_cupcake · 10-15-2014, 12:20 PM

I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous...

That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both.

I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people.

traumaqueen · 10-15-2014, 03:06 PM

Partnered/Married... for all intents and purposes (now that it's basically legal it's really hard to find a day to go down to the clerk's office together!)

It's been about 4 years and this is the first time I've ever lived with a partner and... oddly enough the first relationship that wasn't casual, or started that way. Apparently, we were in it to win it.

Jackpot!

flapdoodle · 10-18-2014, 10:47 AM

Legally, 2013 after being engaged for 3 years.

Forever, I shall remain, only hers.

The engagement, the wedding, buying a house, the entire journey, my kind of love story.

It makes the air always, so, crispy clean

TIMBERWOLF · 10-19-2014, 04:53 PM

Been single for the last 2 + yrs but now Partnered/committed monogamous. And almost married In Nov

Okiebug61 · 10-20-2014, 09:38 AM

Red and I have will celebrate our 10yr anniversary this December.

Nadeest · 10-22-2014, 09:34 PM

Right now, if multiple people asked me out, I would go out with each of them, if they were nice. After we get to know each other, then we can decide what type of relationship that we want. I am not unopposed to poly, but I do know that I will have to do a lot of emotional work, in order to be able to deal with it.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-22-2014, 10:02 PM

If multiple people asked me out, I would get to know the people that interested me, expecting them to do the same until I naturally gravitated to someone who I clicked with and felt had the same values and goals.

Hopefully, they would find me to be similarly of interest. If not, then I would keep talking, hanging out and getting to know people of interest.

What I learned is dating. Courting, to me, is an entirely different thing. That's after there is a conscious choice of wanting to pursue something deemed very suitable and desired. Once you actually know someone. Well.

Obviously, this isn't a commonly held idea. But it's what I personally go by.

View Poll Results: How do we date/partner/be single?
Single, not dating, not having casual sex	28	29.17%
Single, casual dating/casual sex	8	8.33%
Single, dating one person, no commitments	12	12.50%
Seeing someone/partnered/married - closed relationship - monogamy or polyfidelity	36	37.50%
Seeing people/someone, partnered or married - open relationships- nonmonogamy/polyamory ect	12	12.50%
Voters: 96. You may not vote on this poll

10-15-2014, 03:06 PM	#2
traumaqueen Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: that grrl Relationship Status: happily occupied and awfully engaged. Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Colorado (Mountainy) Posts: 265 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 619 Thanked 732 Times in 236 Posts Rep Power: 5586926	Partnered/Married... for all intents and purposes (now that it's basically legal it's really hard to find a day to go down to the clerk's office together!) It's been about 4 years and this is the first time I've ever lived with a partner and... oddly enough the first relationship that wasn't casual, or started that way. Apparently, we were in it to win it. Jackpot! __________________

10-18-2014, 10:47 AM	#3
flapdoodle Junior Member How Do You Identify?: I'm the Mrs. Preferred Pronoun?: reflexive Relationship Status: Married in 2013 Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: sing it Frankie baby Posts: 81 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 245 Times in 59 Posts Rep Power: 1073757	Married Legally, 2013 after being engaged for 3 years. Forever, I shall remain, only hers. The engagement, the wedding, buying a house, the entire journey, my kind of love story. It makes the air always, so, crispy clean

10-20-2014, 09:38 AM	#5
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,378 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Red and I have will celebrate our 10yr anniversary this December. __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

10-15-2014, 12:20 PM	#1
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous... That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both. I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people.

10-19-2014, 04:53 PM	#4
TIMBERWOLF Member How Do You Identify?: Old Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Lesbian Butch so that would be she, but I come to just about anything S Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: FL Posts: 384 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 218 Thanked 591 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 4807545	Been single for the last 2 + yrs but now Partnered/committed monogamous. And almost married In Nov

10-22-2014, 09:34 PM	#6
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	Right now, if multiple people asked me out, I would go out with each of them, if they were nice. After we get to know each other, then we can decide what type of relationship that we want. I am not unopposed to poly, but I do know that I will have to do a lot of emotional work, in order to be able to deal with it.

10-22-2014, 10:02 PM	#7
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	If multiple people asked me out, I would get to know the people that interested me, expecting them to do the same until I naturally gravitated to someone who I clicked with and felt had the same values and goals. Hopefully, they would find me to be similarly of interest. If not, then I would keep talking, hanging out and getting to know people of interest. What I learned is dating. Courting, to me, is an entirely different thing. That's after there is a conscious choice of wanting to pursue something deemed very suitable and desired. Once you actually know someone. Well. Obviously, this isn't a commonly held idea. But it's what I personally go by.