Demographics of how we date/partner/be single

Okiebug61 · 10-20-2014, 09:38 AM

Red and I have will celebrate our 10yr anniversary this December.

Nadeest · 10-22-2014, 09:34 PM

Right now, if multiple people asked me out, I would go out with each of them, if they were nice. After we get to know each other, then we can decide what type of relationship that we want. I am not unopposed to poly, but I do know that I will have to do a lot of emotional work, in order to be able to deal with it.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-22-2014, 10:02 PM

If multiple people asked me out, I would get to know the people that interested me, expecting them to do the same until I naturally gravitated to someone who I clicked with and felt had the same values and goals.

Hopefully, they would find me to be similarly of interest. If not, then I would keep talking, hanging out and getting to know people of interest.

What I learned is dating. Courting, to me, is an entirely different thing. That's after there is a conscious choice of wanting to pursue something deemed very suitable and desired. Once you actually know someone. Well.

Obviously, this isn't a commonly held idea. But it's what I personally go by.

View Poll Results: How do we date/partner/be single?
Single, not dating, not having casual sex	28	29.17%
Single, casual dating/casual sex	8	8.33%
Single, dating one person, no commitments	12	12.50%
Seeing someone/partnered/married - closed relationship - monogamy or polyfidelity	36	37.50%
Seeing people/someone, partnered or married - open relationships- nonmonogamy/polyamory ect	12	12.50%
Voters: 96. You may not vote on this poll

10-20-2014, 09:38 AM	#1
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,378 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Red and I have will celebrate our 10yr anniversary this December. __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

10-22-2014, 09:34 PM	#2
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	Right now, if multiple people asked me out, I would go out with each of them, if they were nice. After we get to know each other, then we can decide what type of relationship that we want. I am not unopposed to poly, but I do know that I will have to do a lot of emotional work, in order to be able to deal with it.

10-22-2014, 10:02 PM	#3
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	If multiple people asked me out, I would get to know the people that interested me, expecting them to do the same until I naturally gravitated to someone who I clicked with and felt had the same values and goals. Hopefully, they would find me to be similarly of interest. If not, then I would keep talking, hanging out and getting to know people of interest. What I learned is dating. Courting, to me, is an entirely different thing. That's after there is a conscious choice of wanting to pursue something deemed very suitable and desired. Once you actually know someone. Well. Obviously, this isn't a commonly held idea. But it's what I personally go by.