Helpful Tips on Raising a Happy Child

Vivacious1 · 12-01-2014, 08:44 PM

I am assisting in raising my niece... the things I have learned that matter most are, Structure, Accountability and Don't sweat the small stuff... Praise often and correct when needed, but make sure the good stuff always outweighs the bad!

cricket26 · 12-02-2014, 07:24 PM

this post on my facebook by a basketball coach reminded me that team sports really do reinforce some core values...both of my children played soccer, neither were very good...but both are more well rounded for having played on a team of their peers...if your child is not athletic, a non physical team can reinforce the same values...and parents of other team members can be of great moral support...

Blade · 12-02-2014, 07:36 PM

When punishment is necessary, be clear and make sure your child understands why they are in trouble. Don't just assume that they know and understand what they did wrong. Also make the punishment fit the crime.

I saw someone post something about have fun with your child. You want fun? Have a water balloon fight in the house with your child, they will think you are soooo cool! LOL mine did.

Teach your child to be responsible and respectful. These 2 things will go a long way, in every situation in their life.

A. Spectre · 12-02-2014, 08:15 PM

i was raised with being highly competitive, in sports and academics.

my daughter made it fairly clear early on that she would prefer not to compete. in. anything.

must admit that was difficult for me in the beginning, so with time and understanding what makes her tick, i get it now. (for her)

it has paid off not to push what was important to me growing up onto her. now, she is becoming her own person, not just a mirror image of me.

Bèsame* · 12-02-2014, 11:41 PM

Learn to see life thru their eyes, you will be happy too!

ProfPacker · 12-03-2014, 12:16 AM

All these things make sense. I have learned to also let them start to take responsibility for their consequences, you will not be in the world with them all the time.

Be honest, like someone said, don't sweat the small stuff, choose your battle.

Be there to listen, respect their space and privacy. Trust that even though as teens they become subhuman, they will pull out of it and have a sense of respect and kindness and empathy for others if you model that.

(I finally learned that going ballistic at times does nothing except get tears from all and a sore throat) lol

Rockinonahigh · 12-03-2014, 02:02 AM

When I was 10 I had a big issue with an uncle abusing me,I told my mom and she didn't be leave me.This happened again when another uncle call me a worthless chunk of s87t while she was standing there and did not a thing about it ever.Thank goodness my grannie stood up for me and did take care of the issue, big time.By mom ding this set the tone of a distrustful and bad relationship
that never got better ever.Please don't let this happen to you and your child.

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