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Food, water, shelter and clothes. But also friends and family. I try not too think too hard on things and keep it simple. Want and need are two different things for me. I will never get what i want but will almost certainly have what I need.
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as stated.....here are my "needs".....
~I need arts &crafts supplies and space ~~I need quiet time/space of my own daily....and am afforded that regularly. ~~I need my furbaby. She is a huge part of me and my world........for 10 years. ~~I need to view and enjoy the ocean regularly and seeing my dolphins! ~~I need social time with a select group of trusted friends. ~~I need social time for my most intimate of friends on this Planet! I love them each uniquely. ~~~I need my smudging rituals to cleanse my space and myself. ~~~I need my beloved crystals and healing stones, and my salt rock lamp. ~~I need my incense burns daily. ~~~I need, and do humbly appreciate my life, health, and wonderful partner all the time. ~~~I need to share my love for my very closest chosen family and friends often!
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01-25-2015, 01:15 PM
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you are so very welcome!
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I thought i got it, but i guess not.
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Our warm, loving home.
Shoes on my feet and clothes on my back. Healthy food in our kitchen. Our furbabies. Our families and friends. My job. Laughter. Our love and the mutual respect we have for each other. As far as I'm concerned, anything else is a bonus. |
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I need my me space
I need my critters, they vary from time to time I need spiritual time I need to be close to the mountains but not to far from the ocean I need time with family and watching the little ones grow I need my home and the security it gives me I need good neighbors and friends I need a challenging job I need short trips and travel, visiting I need to help others, it's ingrained in me I need to be understood
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maslows pyramid is a great visual tool used to explain our needs as human beings...the pyramid explains that the basic needs are at the bottom and the more intellectual needs are at the top....the pyramid implies that once our basic needs are met, we can move on to the needs higher up in the pyramid...unfortunately in an economy that allows people to live in poverty some people never reach a level beyond basic needs of survival...and if finances arent the reason keeping some from moving up the pyramid, isolation and discrimination can keep some from moving up the pyramid...one has to learn to adapt to ones circumstances....
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I'm obviously communications poorly, I'll try again.
For those not clear about what I mean and you think I'm confusing wants with needs.... Ok sorry. I'll try again but I'll make sure I put the picture here:
 (Edit to add: won't let me put an image in so I'm afraid you'll have to actually click it and look at it) This is what I linked to. This is Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. I'm sayin' aside from the bottom layer oF listed physiological needs, HOW or WHAT things bring you the rest of your (as *Maslow* defines "needs") needs? How or what makes you content and happy, not just surviving. Like I'd never be content and happy living in a cement mixer even though it would keep the rain off me. I need to live where I have control over my own personal space or I get stressed out. Thank you For your patience. I've made a pigs ear of this thread, trying to articulate. But I hope I've done a better job now. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-25-2015 at 01:20 PM. |
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Good question.
I don't know. I do know that when I didn't have the bottom row, other things like my gay rights, seemed fucking trivial. Only recently have I gotten the second row in place. Ish. And I know in planning for my future, the second row is my highest priority. I have love and belonging. Not romantic love, but I am most certainly loved and I do belong in my little group of friends. I probably have more self esteem than ever before in my life. But that comes with age, usually. And I suppose self actualisation... That's taking me a life time to understand. And will continue till I croak no doubt. So perhaps some things come in, in pieces, at different levels. But perhaps the general interest in developing them, the priority is most often given from lower to higher? I dunno. What do you think? Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-31-2015 at 01:24 PM. |
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Yep,I think as we do grow older and probably become more maturer our priorities in life change.What was important to us at 17 is not so at age 47.
Oh there's the same ol' things in life I can't do without.Like having a roof over my head,because being homeless sucks,and it probably be a lot harder on my back these days. Having money,which i see as security,you can buy necessities with it. And having someone to live for..because I need to "watch over" another person. Oh,I can live alone,but the idea of waking up everyday and doing things to survive not just for myself but for another,appeals to me. Its a reason for me to live on. I am also a very hard headed person and I usually do things my way.I think i'll be like that till my dying day. I'm a survivor...hearing the Survivor theme "Ancient Voices" in my head *snort* |
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Liking this thread....OK...
To know my children are safe, well and happy. To know the mortgage and bills are all paid up to date. A well stocked larder. Time...having time to laugh and chat with anyone who passes through my day. Furry beings with whiskers. Gentle smiles, eye contact, softly spoken words, hand holding, cuddles, huddles and snuggles. Quiet moments of reflection alongside giddiness and giggles. Hot water, soapy bubbles, clean sheets and warm blankets.....oh and teddy bears of course. Safety. Books, pens, paper. Cups of Tea. added extras.....fresh flowers, sunshine, music, perfume, craft supplies, a garden and rain. Daisy 
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