What are your life basics?

imperfect_cupcake · 01-25-2015, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by clay

~I need arts &crafts supplies and space ~~I need quiet time/space of my own daily....and am afforded that regularly. ~~I need my furbaby. She is a huge part of me and my world........for 10 years. ~~I need to view and enjoy the ocean regularly and seeing my dolphins! ~~I need social time with a select group of trusted friends. ~~I need social time for my most intimate of friends on this Planet! I love them each uniquely. ~~~I need my smudging rituals to cleanse my space and myself. ~~~I need my beloved crystals and healing stones, and my salt rock lamp. ~~I need my incense burns daily. ~~~I need, and do humbly appreciate my life, health, and wonderful partner all the time. ~~~I need to share my love for my very closest chosen family and friends often!

Thank you clay!

clay · 01-25-2015, 01:15 PM

you are so very welcome!

MsTinkerbelly · 01-25-2015, 01:31 PM

I thought i got it, but i guess not.

Sorry!

Miss Scarlett · 01-25-2015, 01:51 PM

Our warm, loving home.

Shoes on my feet and clothes on my back.

Healthy food in our kitchen.

Our furbabies.

Our families and friends.

My job.

Laughter.

Our love and the mutual respect we have for each other.

As far as I'm concerned, anything else is a bonus.

Blade · 01-25-2015, 08:25 PM

I need my me space
I need my critters, they vary from time to time
I need spiritual time
I need to be close to the mountains but not to far from the ocean
I need time with family and watching the little ones grow
I need my home and the security it gives me
I need good neighbors and friends
I need a challenging job
I need short trips and travel, visiting
I need to help others, it's ingrained in me
I need to be understood

Daniela · 01-25-2015, 09:19 PM

I need to follow my own set of ethics so that I can look at myself in the mirror at the end of the day.

I need to have private space and the ability to take alone time, because social interaction can drain me.

Conversely, I need to have social interaction (in moderate and controlled doses).

I need my family - though that can be long distance.

I need to be able to be creative in some way.

I need a small group of friends.

I need to feel in control of my life.

I need to be able to laugh at things, and surround myself with people WHO (it wont let me uncapitalize WHO...WTF!) don't take life too seriously.

And last, but certainly not least, I need my iPhone.

TruTexan · 01-25-2015, 09:36 PM

I need to be loved and love in return intimately.
I need to be around people in moderate doses.
I need more good trustworthy friends in real time.
I need to feel secure in my home and basic needs.
I need to be myself and loved for just being myself.
I need to be needed and wanted and accepted.
I need to be respected.
I need to know my feelings matter and not just to myself.

Just a few things I need.

imperfect_cupcake · 01-25-2015, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

I thought i got it, but i guess not.

Sorry!

Tinks! You did indeed get it. It's just before people ran off with "need" vs "want" I'd clarify. You were one the money.

cricket26 · 01-25-2015, 05:45 PM

maslows pyramid is a great visual tool used to explain our needs as human beings...the pyramid explains that the basic needs are at the bottom and the more intellectual needs are at the top....the pyramid implies that once our basic needs are met, we can move on to the needs higher up in the pyramid...unfortunately in an economy that allows people to live in poverty some people never reach a level beyond basic needs of survival...and if finances arent the reason keeping some from moving up the pyramid, isolation and discrimination can keep some from moving up the pyramid...one has to learn to adapt to ones circumstances....

imperfect_cupcake · 01-25-2015, 07:14 PM

Absolutely. I lived in poverty for quite a long time.
I had to make do with things like no heat, $10 a week grocery shopping for two people, no transport money to get to work, so it was walk or cycle, no ability to meet people etc etc etc. and I was surviving. Not living in way I could gain comfort from.

That's why I was asking about needs beyond that level. I learned a lot about where I could live and couldn't, what I could do without and still be happy, and what I couldn't.

Thus my question.

cricket26 · 01-26-2015, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Absolutely. I lived in poverty for quite a long time.
I had to make do with things like no heat, $10 a week grocery shopping for two people, no transport money to get to work, so it was walk or cycle, no ability to meet people etc etc etc. and I was surviving. Not living in way I could gain comfort from.

That's why I was asking about needs beyond that level. I learned a lot about where I could live and couldn't, what I could do without and still be happy, and what I couldn't.

Thus my question.

some say the days you live in poverty are the happiest of your life...think of young married couples just starting out....the times i have had less are the times i have been the happiest

01-25-2015, 01:15 PM	#2
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01-25-2015, 08:25 PM	#5
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,413 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I need my me space I need my critters, they vary from time to time I need spiritual time I need to be close to the mountains but not to far from the ocean I need time with family and watching the little ones grow I need my home and the security it gives me I need good neighbors and friends I need a challenging job I need short trips and travel, visiting I need to help others, it's ingrained in me I need to be understood __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

01-25-2015, 09:36 PM	#7
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01-25-2015, 05:45 PM	#9
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Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Our warm, loving home. Shoes on my feet and clothes on my back. Healthy food in our kitchen. Our furbabies. Our families and friends. My job. Laughter. Our love and the mutual respect we have for each other. As far as I'm concerned, anything else is a bonus.

01-25-2015, 09:19 PM	#6
Daniela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: Jersey City Posts: 2,065 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,382 Thanked 5,240 Times in 1,243 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I need to follow my own set of ethics so that I can look at myself in the mirror at the end of the day. I need to have private space and the ability to take alone time, because social interaction can drain me. Conversely, I need to have social interaction (in moderate and controlled doses). I need my family - though that can be long distance. I need to be able to be creative in some way. I need a small group of friends. I need to feel in control of my life. I need to be able to laugh at things, and surround myself with people WHO (it wont let me uncapitalize WHO...WTF!) don't take life too seriously. And last, but certainly not least, I need my iPhone.

01-25-2015, 07:14 PM	#10
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Absolutely. I lived in poverty for quite a long time. I had to make do with things like no heat, $10 a week grocery shopping for two people, no transport money to get to work, so it was walk or cycle, no ability to meet people etc etc etc. and I was surviving. Not living in way I could gain comfort from. That's why I was asking about needs beyond that level. I learned a lot about where I could live and couldn't, what I could do without and still be happy, and what I couldn't. Thus my question.