Bed Side Preference and Dominance

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Gemme

Hey, Snow!

I'm guessing that this is directed towards my post.

First, I never said that whomever sleeps on the opposite side or farthest from the door is weak or femme or anything. I know that's kind of the point that was brought up earlier but I didn't make reference to that. I was directing my post to WHY someone might feel the need to be the one to sleep closest to the door. I wasn't even talking about the person who chose or was given the other side of the bed.

I also didn't post any statistics, so maybe that part's not for me?

My overall point was that it's not just one thing and it's not always a conscious decision. I was looking at the 'protective' angle rather than the dominant angle. Anyone can be dominant anywhere, in or out of the bedroom.

Hey Gemme!!

I was wondering about your example of how we have to step up for our partners and how that came into the whole side of the bed thing, now that I read you I see and am clear you were coming from the *protective* angle which can literally apply to anyone be they FTM or Femme..

I'd like to clarify that I never implied *YOU* said anything that had to do with how women get portrayed as weak, I should of been more clear. I am lumping so much into one post on a phone that it may not be clear, it has been an interest read on how people choose to sleep in a bed, as for protective mode, well even I get that, as a woman walking the world dealing with people crossing personal boundaries is constant, I'm glad though that when I get home and want to sleep, how and where doesn't cross my mind I just go to sleep cause it's my space and I am pretty secure in it and it's perimeters even when there's a gun shot or two..

Thank you for taking the time to dialogue