Caregivers and Stress

[Blade]

I have had a hand in caring for my parents and their issues the past few years. They are in their 70's and though they are still mobile and mostly can do for themselves they do depend on me to help them as needed.

Daddy has in the past 5 years had heart surgery, eyelid surgery, hernia surgery, and most recently cancer treatments. Mom does good at getting him to his appts but she wants me to go with them when he has to have things done at the VA in Charleston.

Moma has had surgery on her wrist and hand from a fall 10 years ago that she didn't have taken care of then. She is right handed and this has been a real challenge for her to learn to use her left. It's been quite a challenge to keep her happy and fed, as Daddy does nothing for her. It's hard juggling, work never knowing how many hours I will work or what time I will get off and their supper schedule between 5-6 and the other things she needs help with.

Thankfully my roomie has helped with getting them supper and helping Mom write out her bills and things like that. I know as the years move on they will require a lot more of my time. I know I am very fortunate that they can still do many things for themselves but I see those things dwindling a little at the time each year.

KUDO's to those of you taking care of parents and siblings it takes a lot out of you and from you, but I always think you are better for it in the end.

[Kätzchen]

My heart goes out to you.

After reading your post this morning on the way the 'Wealth Management' agents were fly-fishing your current situation, I couldn't help but think that your parents are so fortunate to have you handling and overseeing their care and managing their collective financial resources.

What you're going through is somewhat the proverbial mountain I will find myself scaling. My mother and I think quite a bit alike on most matters in life and unlike your situation, where I am presuming you are the sole child of your parents life, I am 2nd eldest in my parents' brood of children, with siblings that would not watch out for my mother's health and welfare. I'm the proverbial loaded shot-gun, my mother keeps by the 'door.' And my brothers and sister know this, as well as other certain people (doctors, wealth mgmt, etc) have come to realize, during the tiring process of staring down and eliminating threats or potential threats, that can and sometimes do, affect my mother's slice of life.

I hope you are able to cultivate and set aside time just to think, rest, and find solace out in nature, so that your mind and soul get the necessary reprieve to make the best decisions possible, each and every day, during this extremely challenging time.

Happy Sunday, Kelt.