Halp! I never developed gaydar and I need...

[Violette]

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

I was doing some back reading and found this thread...

But to fill you all in.... She *was* gay! And turns out, yes, Butch in the way she related to her partner and the relationship they had, but she did not ID as Butch. Well. Not publicly. I found ID to be a private matter with many people in southern England (though not always) and many people would not tell you they ID'd as anything unless you had a quiet and intimate conversation with them that required actually knowing them.

Yes, but did you snog? (Am I using the word correctly?)