Legal name changes!

DapperButch · 04-26-2015, 05:59 PM

Hey, guys. So this past Monday I went to court and got my name changed.

Cool, right?

Well, now I am going through all of the places/companies/etc. I need to contact to get my name changed in their system.

It is a never ending list!

There are places you would never think of...like my civic association. Do I even know how to get a hold of them? No, I just put my $25 in an envelope they stick in my door once a year. I never looked at the address.

Should I call my local auto parts store so that when I go to use my bonus points it is under the right name?

Not that I minded my birth name much, but I know I am going to run into it over and over again in the next 10 years. Coming out is never ending, isn't it?

Monday I was excited. Now I feel swamped with all there is to do.

So, tell us your name change stories here in this thread. It can be about the excitement of the change, or the annoyances that have come along with it!

Hominid · 04-26-2015, 06:06 PM

Congrats!! I don't remember how I did everything, but I spent two days labelling envelopes and stuffing them with "the letter" and copies of the name change - the only one that didn't change easily was my last College Alumni Association. That took a phone call. They didn't have as many frequent shopper cards and things then.

DapperButch · 04-26-2015, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Hominid

Congrats!! I don't remember how I did everything, but I spent two days labelling envelopes and stuffing them with "the letter" and copies of the name change - the only one that didn't change easily was my last College Alumni Association. That took a phone call. They didn't have as many frequent shopper cards and things then.

Some of the places are requiring me to go in person (which I think is weird). I have the day off tomorrow (by mistake, don't ask), so that is my plan for the day.

Do you know if I can get my college degrees reprinted with the correct name?

Hominid · 04-26-2015, 06:18 PM

I've never actually needed my degrees - but they changed my transcripts readily. I never had to go anywhere in person -

MrSunshine · 04-26-2015, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Do you know if I can get my college degrees reprinted with the correct name?

Yes, with a fee. With transcripts they do an amendment.

Congrats and good luck tomorrow!

DapperButch · 04-26-2015, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by MrSunshine

Yes, with a fee. With transcripts they do an amendment.

Congrats and good luck tomorrow!

Hi, Mr. Sunshine. I actually got it done this past Monday (4/20). Thanks for the congrats!

Good to know about the degrees. In my line of work there is an expectation that the degree(s) be hanging in your office. I will add that to the list!

Hominid · 04-26-2015, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MrSunshine

Yes, with a fee. With transcripts they do an amendment.

Congrats and good luck tomorrow!

Neither of my transcripts (one Texas, one Massachusetts) are amended. They actually changed the name. Obviously, it's up to the institution. Also, this was 13 years ago -

DapperButch · 04-27-2015, 08:07 PM

I went around to some places to update my name, including the bank. I am looking forward to getting credit cards with my new name! I can then stop worrying about always having cash on me to pay for things.

I can't believe how long some guys wait to get their name changed. I know one guy, with some serious facial hair, who finally got around to changing his name. He's been on T for 3-4 years.

Kelt · 04-27-2015, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

I went around to some places to update my name, including the bank. I am looking forward to getting credit cards with my new name! I can then stop worrying about always having cash on me to pay for things.

I can't believe how long some guys wait to get their name changed. I know one guy, with some serious facial hair, who finally got around to changing his name. He's been on T for 3-4 years.

The brokerage houses should be easy, but watch out on retitling retirement holdings, some of those can be picky (IRS-wise).

Other than that I bet you get 90% done in a month, 98% within the year. It'll just be weird little things after that. I hadn't thought of degrees though, guess I'm glad I went to college later in life.

Hominid · 04-27-2015, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Kelt

The brokerage houses should be easy, but watch out on retitling retirement holdings, some of those can be picky (IRS-wise).

Other than that I bet you get 90% done in a month, 98% within the year. It'll just be weird little things after that. I hadn't thought of degrees though, guess I'm glad I went to college later in life.

I found the key to financial stuff was getting my birth certificate changed ASAP - that allowed me to change my SS card, which was required for my driver's license (in Mass). Changing the birth certificate is dependent on where you were born; oddly enough, I was born abroad (pun intended), and mine issued by the State Department - had it changed extremely quickly under the Bush Administration (signed by Condoleeza Rice!) - I have to say I was surprised at the ease. A copy of old certificate, a doctor's letter with a few key phrases - and the name change form you can download.

Liam · 05-26-2015, 09:15 PM

My new birth certificate arrived in the mail today, another item to cross of my list. I'm pretty excited that I will now be able to get a passport.

JDeere · 05-26-2015, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Liam

My new birth certificate arrived in the mail today, another item to cross of my list. I'm pretty excited that I will now be able to get a passport.

Congratulations Liam!

It makes me happy to see my fellow transmen accomplishing these type of things!

DapperButch · 05-26-2015, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Liam

My new birth certificate arrived in the mail today, another item to cross of my list. I'm pretty excited that I will now be able to get a passport.

That's great buddy, congrats! I am assuming that CA is one of the states that gives you a "new" birth certificate and not just an amended one?

Liam · 05-27-2015, 06:22 AM

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That's great buddy, congrats! I am assuming that CA is one of the states that gives you a "new" birth certificate and not just an amended one?

Thanks Dapper! I think California does, I was born in Washington, and I have a new birth certificate.

Kosmo · 01-20-2018, 07:56 AM

I made a list of all the agencies, utilities, memberships, etc. and checked off as I went. Some stuff I forgot about and was reminded when I received mail. For stocks, I had to fill out a form to transfer from myself back to myself (old name to new).

I do like the ease with which I can separate the junk mail now.

DapperButch · 01-20-2018, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Kosmo

I made a list of all the agencies, utilities, memberships, etc. and checked off as I went. Some stuff I forgot about and was reminded when I received mail. For stocks, I had to fill out a form to transfer from myself back to myself (old name to new).

I do like the ease with which I can separate the junk mail now.

It is coming up on 3 years since I changed my name. I still get junk mail with the old name, and honestly, it is starting to bother me. It's like...come on already, its been 3 years!!!

I don't think there is anything I can do about it though.

Esme nha Maire · 01-20-2018, 09:53 AM

Dapper, I have been living in the flat I'm in for over 6 years now. I noted that mail for people that didn't live here was being sent to this address, so I notified the senders. Not one - not one single one - took any notice, not advertising agencies, not officialdom, nada.

Weirdest of all is Virgin Media - they started sending advertising to the house to the occupier of flat 6 - there is no flat 6, there's just 5 flats here. So I wrote them, and for three months, no more advertising for flat 6. Then it started again. I give up. It annoys me when I think of all the paper wasted on junk mail though.

Kosmo · 01-20-2018, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

It is coming up on 3 years since I changed my name. I still get junk mail with the old name, and honestly, it is starting to bother me. It's like...come on already, its been 3 years!!!

I don't think there is anything I can do about it though.

Used to bug me, but now I don’t even need to open junk addressed to old ‘me’. Been about 7 or 8 years (I think).

Hang in there. Eventually it slows to a crawl.

Dean Thoreau · 04-28-2018, 03:37 PM

So I am gathering up all the stuff I need for name change and making lists of all the places; the previous posts are real helpful... definite need my bestbuy points.
Now I was born in New Jersey so to change name is easy all I need is the court order, but then I notice the requirements for changing gender from F to M. I need a form signed by a physician verifying I have had reassignment surgery...not sure what to do but I’m gonna talk to my docs and surgeons and get some forms signed then stroll over to Trenton and turn it in; figure after the person says. “Can I help u sir” there shouldn’t be any questions.
Anyone born in nj deal with this?

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Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	Congrats!! I don't remember how I did everything, but I spent two days labelling envelopes and stuffing them with "the letter" and copies of the name change - the only one that didn't change easily was my last College Alumni Association. That took a phone call. They didn't have as many frequent shopper cards and things then. __________________ Comfort the Disturbed Disturb the Comfortable

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Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	I've never actually needed my degrees - but they changed my transcripts readily. I never had to go anywhere in person - __________________ Comfort the Disturbed Disturb the Comfortable

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DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,809 Times in 5,771 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I went around to some places to update my name, including the bank. I am looking forward to getting credit cards with my new name! I can then stop worrying about always having cash on me to pay for things. I can't believe how long some guys wait to get their name changed. I know one guy, with some serious facial hair, who finally got around to changing his name. He's been on T for 3-4 years. __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

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Kosmo Member How Do You Identify?: just me Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: This seat is taken Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Buckeye Posts: 210 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 180 Thanked 274 Times in 119 Posts Rep Power: 227089	I made a list of all the agencies, utilities, memberships, etc. and checked off as I went. Some stuff I forgot about and was reminded when I received mail. For stocks, I had to fill out a form to transfer from myself back to myself (old name to new). I do like the ease with which I can separate the junk mail now. __________________ Kosmo (fka ZRider)

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04-28-2018, 03:37 PM	#19
Dean Thoreau Member How Do You Identify?: Ftm - Male- exfemale Preferred Pronoun?: He’s Him Relationship Status: Has a gf Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Philadelphia pa Posts: 889 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 251 Thanked 762 Times in 219 Posts Rep Power: 4529749	So I am gathering up all the stuff I need for name change and making lists of all the places; the previous posts are real helpful... definite need my bestbuy points. Now I was born in New Jersey so to change name is easy all I need is the court order, but then I notice the requirements for changing gender from F to M. I need a form signed by a physician verifying I have had reassignment surgery...not sure what to do but I’m gonna talk to my docs and surgeons and get some forms signed then stroll over to Trenton and turn it in; figure after the person says. “Can I help u sir” there shouldn’t be any questions. Anyone born in nj deal with this? __________________ Dean Thoreau