The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

GeorgiaMa'am · 05-31-2015, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

Staying current and still looking classy for your age is a challenge I`m finding !

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

Gemme · 05-31-2015, 04:16 PM

40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic.

Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever.

I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that.

There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up.

For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example.

I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth.

Mel C. · 05-31-2015, 04:29 PM

Happy Birthday Gemme!!! You make 40's FABULOUS!!!

Daisy Chain · 06-01-2015, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

Yes I`m happy to have survived this far of course and my hair shouldn't matter but healing is about trying to get back to normal {maybe a `new` normal}...and short hair for me...well, isnt me.

I know some Femmes rock short hair and are sexy and sassy just as some butches are as butch as butch can be with long hair. But I saw my hair as part of my femininity, Femmeness. I wont feel like me again until it has a little length.....I miss it !!

GeorgiaMa'am · 06-03-2015, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

Daisy Chain · 06-01-2015, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic.

Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever.

I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that.

There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up.

For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example.

I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth.

Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

anotherbutch · 06-01-2015, 04:43 PM

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.

Oh, and what is LBD?

MsTinkerbelly · 06-01-2015, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by anotherbutch

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.

Oh, and what is LBD?

Little black dress

anotherbutch · 06-01-2015, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

Little black dress

oh..oh..oh.. good to know! thank you!

GeorgiaMa'am · 06-03-2015, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by anotherbutch

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.

I like it too - I'll sign up for that philosophy!

Daisy Chain · 06-03-2015, 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

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Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

I bet you looked fantastic !! Such a stylish era....though as ya say, hardwork !

On the plus side my hair is coming back much thicker and better condition, gotta look on the bright side !

DC

HoldMeSteady · 06-05-2015, 09:46 AM

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

Gemme · 06-01-2015, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

I can't wear pencil skirts and feel comfortable, so you have me there. I love a good kitten heel.

GeorgiaMa'am · 06-03-2015, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

05-31-2015, 04:16 PM	#2
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,914 Times in 25,666 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic. Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever. I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that. There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up. For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example. I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

05-31-2015, 04:29 PM	#3
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Happy Birthday Gemme!!! You make 40's FABULOUS!!!

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anotherbutch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single and very content this way... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: the midwest Posts: 1,784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 317 Thanked 1,298 Times in 365 Posts Rep Power: 9955621	I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it. Oh, and what is LBD?

06-05-2015, 09:46 AM	#12
HoldMeSteady Member How Do You Identify?: Wise old Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, hers Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New York Posts: 113 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 162 Thanked 218 Times in 74 Posts Rep Power: 2120047	Daisy, I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo! I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-) However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"