The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

clay · 06-05-2015, 02:40 PM

Daisy Chain & HoldMeSteady:
Thankful you both ARE still here.
Anyone worth their salt will not even see your battle scars...but the beautiful souls you are inside. That is my own humble opine!
Continue to light the world with your beautiful beings...you both have so much to enjoy and share......grab life....I love both your positive attitudes and forthrightness! Gentle hugs....clay

Gemme · 06-05-2015, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by HoldMeSteady

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

As someone with a bevy of scars, in varying sizes and noticeability....it's only a story. How dramatic or romantic or silly or scary you make the story is up to you. It can be a conversation starter or you can use it to keep people away.

I don't know you very well, but I'm glad you made it through and are doing much better! Enjoy yourself!

Besides, you never know if a scar will develop sensitivity over time that can be fun or even useful at one of those play parties.

HoldMeSteady · 06-08-2015, 09:56 PM

Thanks to Daisy Chain, GeorgiaMa'am, and Clay for the sweet support. It's so nice to read! Gemme, you are so right. I will try not to make my story one that keeps people away.

morningstar55 · 07-16-2015, 02:40 PM

hey ya gang

.. its been a while….
i think its al face books fault

Daisy Chain · 07-16-2015, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

hey ya gang

.. its been a while….
i think its al face books fault

That sounds like you`ve been unfaithful to us !!

Daisy

MysticOceansFL · 07-16-2015, 03:48 PM

Welcome to all the folks who have aged gracefully!

HoldMeSteady · 07-22-2015, 10:51 AM

I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.

06-05-2015, 02:40 PM	#1
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,665 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Daisy Chain & HoldMeSteady: Thankful you both ARE still here. Anyone worth their salt will not even see your battle scars...but the beautiful souls you are inside. That is my own humble opine! Continue to light the world with your beautiful beings...you both have so much to enjoy and share......grab life....I love both your positive attitudes and forthrightness! Gentle hugs....clay __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

07-16-2015, 02:40 PM	#4
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	hey ya gang .. its been a while…. i think its al face books fault __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

07-16-2015, 03:48 PM	#6
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,033 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Welcome to all the folks who have aged gracefully! __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

06-08-2015, 09:56 PM	#3
HoldMeSteady Member How Do You Identify?: Wise old Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, hers Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New York Posts: 113 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 162 Thanked 218 Times in 74 Posts Rep Power: 2120047	Thanks to Daisy Chain, GeorgiaMa'am, and Clay for the sweet support. It's so nice to read! Gemme, you are so right. I will try not to make my story one that keeps people away.

07-22-2015, 10:51 AM	#7
HoldMeSteady Member How Do You Identify?: Wise old Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, hers Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New York Posts: 113 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 162 Thanked 218 Times in 74 Posts Rep Power: 2120047	I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.