The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. - Page 105

Galahad · 07-10-2011, 11:20 AM

Hi Anya/Georgia,
I think it gets slow in here because we all have so many other interests. It's awkward to be grouped together because we're a certain number of years, especially since none of us feel our age often. I forget how old I am and remind myself I'm not a kid only when the body won't function like I know it should.

Gaige · 07-12-2011, 10:35 AM

Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread. I've finally started checking out the forums on this site which led me here. I look forward to interacting with the 40 and ups on this thread. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.

blueeyes226_l · 07-13-2011, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Handsome Devil

Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread. I've finally started checking out the forums on this site which led me here. I look forward to interacting with the 40 and ups on this thread. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.

Hey, Welcome to the group. This is a good place to be.

blueeyes226_l · 07-13-2011, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by blueeyes226_l

Well.in Nov. I'll be 55 years young...LOL I may have found someone for my life. How ever she lives in N.J. and I'm in N.Y. Nether one of us can afor the $$$$$ for her to come up this way to visit. She seems to have a heart of gold. We talk every night after 9pm and email each other alot. I hope this works out. I told her about my family and she is very understanding. Best of all she dosen't hold how my family is agance me.By the way she will be 60 July 30 or 31.
blueeyes226_l

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

morningstar55 · 07-14-2011, 07:52 AM

morning Lofter dwellers

this thread needs some bumpin......

Blue.. hope your mom is feeling better soon.
having someone move .. in with someone in a short time of knowing each other is not always the best. always take time to get to know each other in person. just my 2 cents.

ok howz everyones summer going so far???

Sweet_Amor_Taino · 07-14-2011, 09:02 AM

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother.
By Blueeyes 226_1

LDR could be difficult and costly. My last partner lived in California and I lived in Boston and we did the long distance for almost 2 years we visited each other every three months. Finally I moved to California and the relationship had a 7 year run after.

LDR could work out but there has to be trust !! love !! and honest daily communication.

Its important not to rush things, we have responsibilities in our individual lives and we can not expect to pick up and go ASAP. I have heard and seen people pick up and go ASAP and it has been a terrible mistake.

Love grows when you nurture it gently and slowly, developing deep roots that will stand strong when difficult times arise.

blueeyes226_l · 07-14-2011, 10:02 PM

Thanks,I hope she gets better soon. But,she is 85 now COPD and she never smok in her life its from other people smoking around her. She has worked all her life. I dread when,she passes over.
Thanks to all

MysticOceansFL · 07-14-2011, 10:22 PM

Life gets better as you age an you aquire more steadier friendships!

Amber2010 · 07-15-2011, 09:53 AM

I will have to agree... As I have gotten older I found my three kids still need me but in a very different more expensive way then they did as kids and now the parents need me to take care of them... The good thing about the age we are now is I am now not letting myself be walked on and not caring about what everyone thinks about me... Family not happy with me oh well...
I need to live my life the way I want it to go and not what everyone expects from me... A very rude awakening for most of my family!

Licious · 07-23-2011, 07:48 PM

Hello,
Would like to join in. I really like find folks my own age group to chat with and relate to.

*brings flowers* *joins in*

:boquet:

blueeyes226_l · 07-23-2011, 08:28 PM

Hey all! How is every one? Its been really hot the last few days. Mom,my cats and I didn't sleep at all last night. To day I layed down and watch tv with my youngest cat,Molly, and feel asleep and didn't wake up till 8:45 tonight. Is every one doing ok with this heat wave? I hope all is well with every one.
Take care all
blueeyes226_l

choochoo-enginerd · 07-23-2011, 08:39 PM

Hello to all, and yes I have tipped the over 40 scale....41 actually. Wishing all apleasant evening and weekend

Sweet Bliss · 07-23-2011, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by blueeyes226_l

Hey all! How is every one? Its been really hot the last few days. Mom,my cats and I didn't sleep at all last night. To day I layed down and watch tv with my youngest cat,Molly, and feel asleep and didn't wake up till 8:45 tonight. Is every one doing ok with this heat wave? I hope all is well with every one.
Take care all
blueeyes226_l

Between the heat and rain/thunderstorms, I am just wiped OUT.... please Goddess let me dream of snow tonight.......... pretty please???

OS Butch · 07-23-2011, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by blueeyes226_l

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

Yep, I am in the same spot. I decided since it messed up my relationship with the love of my life, I will just be single and I am ok with that. I have elderly parents and will not leave. It would not be fair to anyone to even date because I can't give a 100 percent.

Sweet Bliss · 07-24-2011, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by biceps41

Hello to all, and yes I have tipped the over 40 scale....41 actually. Wishing all a pleasant evening and weekend

Just wondering... why, oh why, would you choose "Biceps" for a username, and then NOT be looking?

It's like you are saying, "Want some 'CANDY' lil' girl?..... darn am all out of candy today, check back tomorrow".

Bad Biceps, Bad Biceps......

VintageFemme · 07-24-2011, 08:50 AM

the older the grape, the sweeter the wine

[subscribing]

choochoo-enginerd · 07-24-2011, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

Just wondering... why, oh why, would you choose "Biceps" for a username, and then NOT be looking?

It's like you are saying, "Want some 'CANDY' lil' girl?..... darn am all out of candy today, check back tomorrow".

Bad Biceps, Bad Biceps......

Well in actuality, I have had the username for years and that is how others recognize me. My status has changed a bit over the years and my intent of presence on this site includes magnanimous pursuits transcending simplistic skirt chasing endeavors, obliterating any sentiment of the butch-femme bathhouse scene....lol. More cerebral capacity than brawn here.....thanks for the inquiry

fever · 07-24-2011, 11:35 PM

Hello everyone. It is a warm summer night here in B.C.

Biceps, are you coming up for our Pride next weekend? I haven't been for years and look forward to the rush when the dykes on bikes come blazing by!

cheers,
fever

Slade · 07-25-2011, 10:00 PM

Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie...

Ah to be young again.....

Slade

msW8ing · 07-28-2011, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Slade

Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie...

Ah to be young again.....

Slade

I respond (being an oldie myself) with the old tried but true quote of ..." Butches are like fine wine..they get better with age"

07-14-2011, 07:52 AM	#2085
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	morning Lofter dwellers this thread needs some bumpin...... Blue.. hope your mom is feeling better soon. having someone move .. in with someone in a short time of knowing each other is not always the best. always take time to get to know each other in person. just my 2 cents. ok howz everyones summer going so far??? __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

07-14-2011, 09:02 AM	#2086
Sweet_Amor_Taino Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Gentleman Preferred Pronoun?: he/him Relationship Status: Exclusively dating, Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Austin Tx Posts: 538 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 388 Thanked 853 Times in 298 Posts Rep Power: 4397590	long distance romance Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By Blueeyes 226_1 LDR could be difficult and costly. My last partner lived in California and I lived in Boston and we did the long distance for almost 2 years we visited each other every three months. Finally I moved to California and the relationship had a 7 year run after. LDR could work out but there has to be trust !! love !! and honest daily communication. Its important not to rush things, we have responsibilities in our individual lives and we can not expect to pick up and go ASAP. I have heard and seen people pick up and go ASAP and it has been a terrible mistake. Love grows when you nurture it gently and slowly, developing deep roots that will stand strong when difficult times arise. __________________ When we are aware that each moment of each day and each step we take,is truly mystical and full of wonder,we will live our lives with greater thought and care, we will also respect and appreciate This moment.

07-14-2011, 10:22 PM	#2088
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,033 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Life gets better as you age an you aquire more steadier friendships! __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

07-23-2011, 08:39 PM	#2092
choochoo-enginerd Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: ------she they Relationship Status: ————— Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: In the locomotive from seattle to portland to seattle to portland to seattle and back...dichromatic Posts: 192 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 163 Thanked 286 Times in 75 Posts Rep Power: 2075017	New Here... Hello to all, and yes I have tipped the over 40 scale....41 actually. Wishing all apleasant evening and weekend

07-24-2011, 08:50 AM	#2096
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	the older the grape, the sweeter the wine [subscribing] __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

07-10-2011, 11:20 AM	#2081
Galahad Member How Do You Identify?: do I have to? Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I.E. Southern California Posts: 425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 339 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 1446604	Hi Anya/Georgia, I think it gets slow in here because we all have so many other interests. It's awkward to be grouped together because we're a certain number of years, especially since none of us feel our age often. I forget how old I am and remind myself I'm not a kid only when the body won't function like I know it should.

07-12-2011, 10:35 AM	#2082
Gaige Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: above my boots Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 3,755 Times in 1,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread. I've finally started checking out the forums on this site which led me here. I look forward to interacting with the 40 and ups on this thread. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.

07-14-2011, 10:02 PM	#2087
blueeyes226_l Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch-I am who I am Relationship Status: single and looking Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near Olean,N.Y. Posts: 119 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 107 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 171	Thanks,I hope she gets better soon. But,she is 85 now COPD and she never smok in her life its from other people smoking around her. She has worked all her life. I dread when,she passes over. Thanks to all

07-15-2011, 09:53 AM	#2089
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787185	I will have to agree... As I have gotten older I found my three kids still need me but in a very different more expensive way then they did as kids and now the parents need me to take care of them... The good thing about the age we are now is I am now not letting myself be walked on and not caring about what everyone thinks about me... Family not happy with me oh well... I need to live my life the way I want it to go and not what everyone expects from me... A very rude awakening for most of my family!

07-23-2011, 07:48 PM	#2090
Licious Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Posts: 686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,502 Thanked 1,973 Times in 546 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Hello, Would like to join in. I really like find folks my own age group to chat with and relate to. brings flowers joins in :boquet:

07-23-2011, 08:28 PM	#2091
blueeyes226_l Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch-I am who I am Relationship Status: single and looking Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near Olean,N.Y. Posts: 119 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 107 Times in 57 Posts Rep Power: 171	Hey all! How is every one? Its been really hot the last few days. Mom,my cats and I didn't sleep at all last night. To day I layed down and watch tv with my youngest cat,Molly, and feel asleep and didn't wake up till 8:45 tonight. Is every one doing ok with this heat wave? I hope all is well with every one. Take care all blueeyes226_l

07-24-2011, 11:35 PM	#2098
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,279 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783436	Canada calling! Hello everyone. It is a warm summer night here in B.C. Biceps, are you coming up for our Pride next weekend? I haven't been for years and look forward to the rush when the dykes on bikes come blazing by! cheers, fever

07-25-2011, 10:00 PM	#2099
Slade Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hym Relationship Status: Solo Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: FL Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 11 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 265953	Oldie here Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie... Ah to be young again..... Slade