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Soft*Silver · 10-14-2011, 02:22 PM

hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now?

cuddlyfemme · 10-14-2011, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by softness

hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now?

I remember my dad would take me and my brother and our friends Trick or Treating through out the neighboorhood. We'd get bummed when we knew someone was home but wouldn't answer the door. When we were done trick or treating, my brother and I would dump the candy out of our bags or plastic pumpkin and my dad would go through all the candy. After that my brother and I would look for candy that we didn't like and try to trade with the other for something we did like lol

Wryly · 10-15-2011, 04:41 PM

Softness - I remember all the walking! We lived out in the country and sometimes, when our dad took us out, he'd drive along the road and we'd have to walk up the laneway to the house. It seemed that people lived too far away from the roads!
I remember Allan's Hallowe'en candy. I hate it! I think it is a molassas salt-water taffy. It must have been very cheap because it seemed that everyone gave it out.
I remember plastic face masks and the light plastic costumes that ripped when you sat down.
I remember being so wired from all the sugar - man, I must have been bouncing off the walls! my poor mother!

Tonight I'm hanging out - not up to much - just surfing.

rustedrims · 10-15-2011, 06:05 PM

Just got home from a chili bonfire thing..A guy at work and his Dad have it every year..It is a good time..Didnt go to get drunk just to eat..Saw a few retired guys and visited with the rest..

My Halloween story..
We lived in a small town and we would start going out when it got dark..We were on the other end of town so by the time we were on the farthest end of town everyone would pretty much be out of candy..It was dark and pretty much alone walking back home..Me and my brother would say things to get my 2 sisters scared and we would all start to run..Well of course someone would fall and cry and dump their bag of candy..The rest of us didnt want to help them pick it up so there was always a few hand fulls left on the sidewalk..When we got home we all looked at each others knees to see how bad they were scraped up..As i am writing this i am laughing because to this day i can still say something to my sisters to get them to run scared and my brother would back me up..Now i have their kids to help me out to..Good times..

Soft*Silver · 10-15-2011, 09:00 PM

I remember falling too when I was out trick or treating! Those plastic face masks made it so hard to see! Make up wasnt like it is nowadays. You used your momma's make up to paint lines and smudge stuff on you!

I remember the glitter on some of my costumes. I thought that was the prettiest site! I was always the witch! LOL. Even witches had glitter, especially on their capes!

Wryly, I lived in the country too but would go "into town" where my cousins lived and ToT with them. I was told never to tell anyone I didnt live there! I felt like I would go to jail if I told!

My most vivid ToT memory isnt of mine, but comes from when I took my little 4 or 5 year old daughter ToTing. She was the good witch from Oz, and was so delicate and sweet looking! I was walking her, with my HUGE collie/St Bernard (named Sister) with me. I would stand at the top of the driveway while Liz would go to the door. I was giving her a sense of independence (who am I kidding? She was demanding it!)

we got to one house and this older guy was sitting on his porch and he was calling to her "come here little girl, come see what I have in my pockets" and jiggled them with his hands in them> I WAS PISSED! I started following her, and didnt that man get up, grab a REAL pick axe and start to chase her! She ran screaming and I ran toward him...I shoved him and the dog started barking and someone grabbed us both and I was yelling at him, then trying to grab my daughter who was scared out of her wits! I admit I wanted to kill him! She was trembling, and I scooped her up and took her hom, about a block and a half away. I called the cops and made a report. Then, wouldnt you know it, the kid looks at me after the cops leave, and asks if we can go back out...lol

kids are so resilient....

yes, we did!

Julien · 10-18-2011, 06:51 PM

Hello All,
I've been away for a while and thought I would check in and see what's up. It is good to see so many here. So this is my coming back to the Planet and I thought I'd start here first.
Julien

clay · 10-18-2011, 06:57 PM

well WB, Julien! Good to see ya...enjoy!

Wryly · 10-18-2011, 07:38 PM

Working part time sucks in the pay department - - but so many days off is awesome.
Only 2 days this week - - but I was originally scheduled for only 1. So it works out - - sort of!
Now I'm off until next week - - a full 5 days of work! After that it is going to be lean times until Christmas. Hopefully the expected rain won't be that bad and I'll have some beautiful picture taking weather.

raising2alone · 10-18-2011, 10:07 PM

I remember when my brother and I would go out in our little neighborhood, I think I was about 5. We had these awesome HUGE masks of Indians. (they would probably be considered offensive now) but, we would always make a huge haul of candy, 3 or 4 grocery bags each. I was too shy to go to some houses so my brother came back, got my mask and my bag and went up to the house again so I could have that candy

, what a good brother.

Now that I have kids of my own, I am afraid to take them into neighborhoods where I don't know anyone, there is always someone trying to hurt kids with tainted candy or razers in apples. Now we have to look for a nursing home or the church trick or treat events. I think it is sad, would love for my kids to experience just running around and going from door to door, it was so much fun!

Thanks for asking the question softness

.

Rockinonahigh · 10-18-2011, 10:25 PM

I grew up in a multi national neighbor hood,everyone celebrated halloween the way they did in what ever country they were from,all of us kids got to see how much fun it was cause of the diffrences in treats we got as we went to each house.Many familys would be haveing partys that were on going as the kids came and went many staying for while to have some fun.Every parent knew every child in the neighbor hood..u can bet if one of us did sopmething we shouldnt have our parents knew before we got home.Most kids went in groups with an older sibling or some older folks to go with us,we always fely safe,to bad some jerk messed up a fun evening for soman who love the fun and games.

Stacy · 10-19-2011, 12:17 AM

Hey all~
I thought I'd pop in and say hello. I'm over 40, so I guess it's safe to come in here.

cuddlyfemme · 10-19-2011, 05:35 AM

Good morning E/everyone! I hope Y/you all have a beautiful day. Its supposed to be chilly and damp here but its good weather to open the sliding glass door and get some fresh air inside....besides my cats like looking out of the sliding glass door and listening to the noises.
Wryly, I know what you mean about it being a lean Christmas...its going to be that way for me too.

Wryly · 10-19-2011, 02:50 PM

It is a rainy chilly day here.
Had a quick visit with my brother - - he is working on my house. Lots of work to be done now we just have to come up with the money!
Now at my SIL. Apparently we aren't going to be doing the work that I thought we were so it looks like a couple of lazy days for me, I hope!

cuddlyfemme - I hope things are going well for you, despite everything. I've been offered a couple more days work so that helps. But a lean Christmas is better than nothing at all. Things will get better.

raising2alone · 10-19-2011, 10:52 PM

Hi Stacy,

Of course it is ok that you come in here

, welcome. I don't get to post often but I will certainly say hi when I am around!

Have a great week!!!!

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Originally Posted by Stacy

Hey all~
I thought I'd pop in and say hello. I'm over 40, so I guess it's safe to come in here.

cuddlyfemme · 10-20-2011, 08:18 AM

Don't forget to wear purple today for Spirit Day!

Licious · 10-25-2011, 09:16 PM

Hey all.. just stopping by to enjoy the fine vintage of older folks. Have a good Tuesday evening and Wednesday.

Wryly · 10-25-2011, 10:08 PM

*stupid phone! I had a nice post but the my phone went wonky and lost it.*

I'm on the train - heading home after a good day at work. My job went smoothly, lots of joking around with co-workers. Plus I sat in on the training of the cutest little butch. I swear I just want to tuck him into my pocket and pet hys little brushcut whenever I'm feeling blue. I feel very protective of hym even though I'm sure hy can take care of hymself.

tomorrow is an earlier shift - - so I hope I can fall asleep without any problems tonight.

freckled1 · 10-26-2011, 08:29 AM

Good morning. I now qualify to be here so thought I'd pop in to say hello. Hope everyone has a great day today!

Inuus · 10-26-2011, 06:12 PM

Just thought I would pop in and I hope everyone is having a relaxing peaceful evening

ruthie14 · 10-26-2011, 06:40 PM

I hear you about the lean Christmas folks. I work full time and part time and still don't make enough. Today we were told that there is a "problem" with the checks so we won't be getting paid on friday. meanwhile the new owner is mia in Texas... hmmmm Not looking too good. I am wanting to leave this job NOW! I've been very unhappy here for the last year and a half but this is getting rediculous. I just wish I had went to school for something other than early childhood ed. Now at 49, I am making less than some at the mall. REALLY? Going to try to go back to school and see if there is SOMETHING I am good at besides education. Meantime, I am exhausted from working my 2 jobs, dog sitting, babysitting, etc... just trying to make ends meet. The worst is watching my mother sell some of her jewelry, not getting her nails done anymore, etc. These were suppose to be her golden years. Now she may have to find a job...again... at 72. Makes me sad and I feel helpless. I know I'm not the only one, I am lucky to have any job at all..... but we are still not making it.

sigh.... I need

and

!

10-14-2011, 02:22 PM	#2161
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	hello folks. Its a beautiful calm damp day in NE Ohio. Sitting around in my PJs and having a slow Friday. I was wondering if anyone in our age group has some trick or treat stories to share with us? What it USE to be like, as opposed to now? __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-15-2011, 06:05 PM	#2164
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Hi everyone Just got home from a chili bonfire thing..A guy at work and his Dad have it every year..It is a good time..Didnt go to get drunk just to eat..Saw a few retired guys and visited with the rest.. My Halloween story.. We lived in a small town and we would start going out when it got dark..We were on the other end of town so by the time we were on the farthest end of town everyone would pretty much be out of candy..It was dark and pretty much alone walking back home..Me and my brother would say things to get my 2 sisters scared and we would all start to run..Well of course someone would fall and cry and dump their bag of candy..The rest of us didnt want to help them pick it up so there was always a few hand fulls left on the sidewalk..When we got home we all looked at each others knees to see how bad they were scraped up..As i am writing this i am laughing because to this day i can still say something to my sisters to get them to run scared and my brother would back me up..Now i have their kids to help me out to..Good times..

10-15-2011, 09:00 PM	#2165
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I remember falling too when I was out trick or treating! Those plastic face masks made it so hard to see! Make up wasnt like it is nowadays. You used your momma's make up to paint lines and smudge stuff on you! I remember the glitter on some of my costumes. I thought that was the prettiest site! I was always the witch! LOL. Even witches had glitter, especially on their capes! Wryly, I lived in the country too but would go "into town" where my cousins lived and ToT with them. I was told never to tell anyone I didnt live there! I felt like I would go to jail if I told! My most vivid ToT memory isnt of mine, but comes from when I took my little 4 or 5 year old daughter ToTing. She was the good witch from Oz, and was so delicate and sweet looking! I was walking her, with my HUGE collie/St Bernard (named Sister) with me. I would stand at the top of the driveway while Liz would go to the door. I was giving her a sense of independence (who am I kidding? She was demanding it!) we got to one house and this older guy was sitting on his porch and he was calling to her "come here little girl, come see what I have in my pockets" and jiggled them with his hands in them> I WAS PISSED! I started following her, and didnt that man get up, grab a REAL pick axe and start to chase her! She ran screaming and I ran toward him...I shoved him and the dog started barking and someone grabbed us both and I was yelling at him, then trying to grab my daughter who was scared out of her wits! I admit I wanted to kill him! She was trembling, and I scooped her up and took her hom, about a block and a half away. I called the cops and made a report. Then, wouldnt you know it, the kid looks at me after the cops leave, and asks if we can go back out...lol kids are so resilient.... yes, we did! __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-18-2011, 06:51 PM	#2166
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hello All, I've been away for a while and thought I would check in and see what's up. It is good to see so many here. So this is my coming back to the Planet and I thought I'd start here first. Julien __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

10-18-2011, 06:57 PM	#2167
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10-15-2011, 04:41 PM	#2163
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	Softness - I remember all the walking! We lived out in the country and sometimes, when our dad took us out, he'd drive along the road and we'd have to walk up the laneway to the house. It seemed that people lived too far away from the roads! I remember Allan's Hallowe'en candy. I hate it! I think it is a molassas salt-water taffy. It must have been very cheap because it seemed that everyone gave it out. I remember plastic face masks and the light plastic costumes that ripped when you sat down. I remember being so wired from all the sugar - man, I must have been bouncing off the walls! my poor mother! Tonight I'm hanging out - not up to much - just surfing.

10-18-2011, 07:38 PM	#2168
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	Working part time sucks in the pay department - - but so many days off is awesome. Only 2 days this week - - but I was originally scheduled for only 1. So it works out - - sort of! Now I'm off until next week - - a full 5 days of work! After that it is going to be lean times until Christmas. Hopefully the expected rain won't be that bad and I'll have some beautiful picture taking weather.

10-18-2011, 10:07 PM	#2169
raising2alone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Name says it all Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Kansas Posts: 28 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5 Thanked 43 Times in 20 Posts Rep Power: 15142	Halloween Memories vs Now I remember when my brother and I would go out in our little neighborhood, I think I was about 5. We had these awesome HUGE masks of Indians. (they would probably be considered offensive now) but, we would always make a huge haul of candy, 3 or 4 grocery bags each. I was too shy to go to some houses so my brother came back, got my mask and my bag and went up to the house again so I could have that candy , what a good brother. Now that I have kids of my own, I am afraid to take them into neighborhoods where I don't know anyone, there is always someone trying to hurt kids with tainted candy or razers in apples. Now we have to look for a nursing home or the church trick or treat events. I think it is sad, would love for my kids to experience just running around and going from door to door, it was so much fun! Thanks for asking the question softness .

10-18-2011, 10:25 PM	#2170
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I grew up in a multi national neighbor hood,everyone celebrated halloween the way they did in what ever country they were from,all of us kids got to see how much fun it was cause of the diffrences in treats we got as we went to each house.Many familys would be haveing partys that were on going as the kids came and went many staying for while to have some fun.Every parent knew every child in the neighbor hood..u can bet if one of us did sopmething we shouldnt have our parents knew before we got home.Most kids went in groups with an older sibling or some older folks to go with us,we always fely safe,to bad some jerk messed up a fun evening for soman who love the fun and games.

10-19-2011, 12:17 AM	#2171
Stacy Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 920 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 8450334	Hey all~ I thought I'd pop in and say hello. I'm over 40, so I guess it's safe to come in here. __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Suess http://i431.photobucket.com/albums/q...star_green.gif

10-19-2011, 05:35 AM	#2172
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Good morning E/everyone! I hope Y/you all have a beautiful day. Its supposed to be chilly and damp here but its good weather to open the sliding glass door and get some fresh air inside....besides my cats like looking out of the sliding glass door and listening to the noises. Wryly, I know what you mean about it being a lean Christmas...its going to be that way for me too.

10-19-2011, 02:50 PM	#2173
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	It is a rainy chilly day here. Had a quick visit with my brother - - he is working on my house. Lots of work to be done now we just have to come up with the money! Now at my SIL. Apparently we aren't going to be doing the work that I thought we were so it looks like a couple of lazy days for me, I hope! cuddlyfemme - I hope things are going well for you, despite everything. I've been offered a couple more days work so that helps. But a lean Christmas is better than nothing at all. Things will get better.

10-20-2011, 08:18 AM	#2175
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Don't forget to wear purple today for Spirit Day!

10-25-2011, 09:16 PM	#2176
Licious Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Posts: 686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,502 Thanked 1,973 Times in 546 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	*Hey all.. just stopping by to enjoy the fine vintage of older folks. Have a good Tuesday evening and Wednesday.*

10-25-2011, 10:08 PM	#2177
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	stupid phone! I had a nice post but the my phone went wonky and lost it. I'm on the train - heading home after a good day at work. My job went smoothly, lots of joking around with co-workers. Plus I sat in on the training of the cutest little butch. I swear I just want to tuck him into my pocket and pet hys little brushcut whenever I'm feeling blue. I feel very protective of hym even though I'm sure hy can take care of hymself. tomorrow is an earlier shift - - so I hope I can fall asleep without any problems tonight.

10-26-2011, 08:29 AM	#2178
freckled1 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She / Her Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Hopkins, MN Posts: 44 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27 Thanked 24 Times in 15 Posts Rep Power: 569294	Good morning. I now qualify to be here so thought I'd pop in to say hello. Hope everyone has a great day today! __________________ Friends are like angels, you don't need to see them to know they are there.

10-26-2011, 06:12 PM	#2179
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10-26-2011, 06:40 PM	#2180
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	I hear you about the lean Christmas folks. I work full time and part time and still don't make enough. Today we were told that there is a "problem" with the checks so we won't be getting paid on friday. meanwhile the new owner is mia in Texas... hmmmm Not looking too good. I am wanting to leave this job NOW! I've been very unhappy here for the last year and a half but this is getting rediculous. I just wish I had went to school for something other than early childhood ed. Now at 49, I am making less than some at the mall. REALLY? Going to try to go back to school and see if there is SOMETHING I am good at besides education. Meantime, I am exhausted from working my 2 jobs, dog sitting, babysitting, etc... just trying to make ends meet. The worst is watching my mother sell some of her jewelry, not getting her nails done anymore, etc. These were suppose to be her golden years. Now she may have to find a job...again... at 72. Makes me sad and I feel helpless. I know I'm not the only one, I am lucky to have any job at all..... but we are still not making it. sigh.... I need and !